Does anyone know you're doing this?

[Wings246]

This subject had probably been discussed before, but I'm still very curious if there are any (newer) inputs.  It is for both providers and clients:

Does anyone know that you're hiring/escorting?  If so, who?  What made you share this information?  Under what circumstance?  What was their reaction after learning this news?

As I'm still closeted, nobody (other than the providers I've met) knows about my hiring.  When discussing my sexual health concerns with my MD, I just describe it as "some random sexual encounters."  I'm sorry I don't have any intriguing or provocative stories to share.  I'm sure yours are a lot more enlightening.

[+ JamesB]

A few close friends know that I hire. One of them even knows the specifics, who, where and when, since I share the details with him for safety. He does the same with me, as he also hires.

My doctor isn’t aware of the hiring aspect, though I’m pretty sure he assumes it. He does know that I have an active sex life with multiple partners.

[dilfluvr4ever]

No, it’s not something I’m ashamed of - if my family were to find out I would happily explain and educate them on the topic - however it’s also not something that I’ve ever brought up or would bring up, I’m not how to or if I ever would instigate that conversation. 

[+ Jamie21]

Most of my friends know I do sex work. Those who didn’t approve aren’t friends any more! That’s not many to be fair. Most of them are intrigued by it, love to learn about it and are supportive. A few have been clients! (Although I find that a little awkward tbh). I’m careful about who else I tell (like family) because people can still be quite judgmental about it. Personally I don’t think it’s a bad thing to either sell sex or buy it. It’s liberating as long as it’s all done with agency. 

[DMonDude]

I have 3 close friends who know i have hired once, and a 4th close friend who knows i hire regularly. The latter close friend is one of the few other LGBTQ+ male friends i have. He's in a very healthy open relationship, and is very sex positive in that he goes to circuit parties with fun back rooms and orgy events and otherwise hooks up fairly regularly. And he also just became friends with a provider in his city by chance (this friend does not hire though, he's hot and active in the scene enough where he doesn't want or need to).

He and i have a lot of fun sharing our sexcapade stories with each other totally judgement free. No one else i know knows about me doing this though. I'd only ever tell people like my main friend who knows, if i knew more people who'd be cool with it like he is. The only other person i'd tell is a future romantic partner who ideally also would be into the hobby (or at least would be ok with me still engaging in it on my own).

Edited 3 hours ago by DMonDude

[SecretProvider]

At first no one knew.

Then I confessed to one friend who was accepting. slowly but surely more of my closets friends found out. 

Some family know.  No one has been judgey. 

 

[jeezifonly]

The Less They Know...

the better.

[Nightowl]

The only ones who know are myself and the men I hire.

[mtaabq]

I have a close female friend who knows, and I share my appointments with her for safety and security reasons, in the event there is an incident. She is exceedingly non-judgmental. (Supportive, even.) I have one male relative who knows I hire, and that is because he shared with me that he hires. Like @dilfluvr4ever I am not ashamed of my hobby, but neither do I feel the need to announce my participation in it.