KensingtonHomo

We found that a lot of guys in Mexico use condoms because PrEP isn't easily accessible. I suspect it's similar in Brazil. And if he's visiting or here on a tourist visa, he may not have access to healthcare or know where to get free or inexpensive PrEP. Or he isn't even looking because he's used to condoms. I'm fine with guys who use condoms or guys who don't because I'm on PrEP.

This is my issue. We're doing to each other and ourselves what men and advertising have done to women. Straight men get to age and gain weight and generally let themselves go, but women and gay guys have to be eternally youthful and beautiful. It's not realistic or healthy. My husband is four years younger than you, and he's as handsome to me now as he ever was. And when we go out, I have to beat the twinks off him because they all love a silver fox. The generation before ours didn't get to age because AIDS killed so many of them. I want more of us. As your triathlete friend shows, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I was never in this exact position, but I dated a very wealthy man when I was 20-21 (he was around 30 and had family money as well as a successful business). While he never paid for me to live, he did take me to luxurious places and spend money on me. Having grown up poor with a single Mom, I was always anxious. And while he never said I was replaceable, he hinted that my looking as I did then was non-negotiable. I was savvy enough to realize this relationship had no good future. How can I have a long-term relationship with someone who won't let me age? I also had offers to escort (I had friends doing sex work in college) but I was too afraid of HIV to go through with it. I would probably do it if I were in my 20s today.

EVERYONE is interested in this ass. I'll DM you to discuss the praise kink.

I worry that so much of this sense that you and others are "old, ugly and fat" is the result of advertising geared toward gay men and our community's obsession with physical perfection. I have no idea what you look like, but I know a lot of people who are very hard on their appearance when they're average or even slightly better-looking than average. The world can be cruel. Be nice to yourself.

To answer the original question: Specific compliments definitely get me going I have a bit of a praise kink - so providers who get that Once we've met or at least changed pictures, a bit of flirty banter is great (not full-on sexting, which I know providers can be really overwhelmed or turned off by that) Authentic pillow talk - showing that they're genuine and also interested in us as people Honesty and transparency - sometimes things don't work out because we're tired, or a provider has worked too much. Being open about that as we will be - makes for a better session than trying to pretend everything is fine Being friendly if we run into each other in public like you would with a client in any other profession. We run into providers at clubs, bars, concerts, etc. Guys who will just say hi and ask how we are and then move on also score points. And, of course, complimenting my ass

I wouldn't assume they're not into it. There are many young men, even ones who are conventionally attractive and fit, who are into older men, overweight men, men who are not conventionally attractive. And many of the best escorts are those who are able to find something attractive in all their clients. I'm an empath so it's incredibly hard to fake enthusiasm and have me believe it. The guys we see regularly are those who are genuinely enjoying our time together, whether or not they'd pick us up at a bar or on Grindr. My husband and I are constantly approached by younger men (too young for us, usually). And while we're both conventionally attractive, we're not movie star handsome, and we don't have perfect bodies. I love this podcast, which is aimed toward older guys, particularly those in open relationships. This episode features three escorts/content creators and they talk about why they love their work, their love of older guys, etc. It's worth a listen to get another perspective besides the overarching gay media narrative that you must be 28 and have 3 percent body fat to be attractive.

In my experience, it's niche even within liberal bubbles. Most of the anti-sex work laws that have been passed has broad liberal support because they were presented as "anti-trafficking." The don't really address trafficking so much as drive sex work further underground, which makes people trapped in it less likely to access help. And it criminalizes those who genuinely want to do it. The US is a uniquely sex-negative, puritanical country. But only for the regular folks. We see how the elites engage in the most immoral and often illegal behavior without consequence, while someone engaged in sex work for survival can be arrested and jailed.

Not to yuck your yum, but ewwwwww! I didn’t do that. I explained why it doesn’t appeal to me specifically, not as a universal truth or in judgement of his desires. I even said I was in the minority of gay men, most of whom fantasize about straight men. You should keep your debates to 18 year olds and stop trying to gaslight adults.

Not to yuck your yum but I could not be less interested in giving unreciprocated head to anyone let alone a straight guy. I don’t see what I would get out of it. And I like giving head, I’m actually a champion in getting gang face fucked, but before, during or after that I’m going to be pleasured or I’m not interested. I could see doing it for a partner who’s horny when I’m not. But a stranger? Nah. But I also realize I’m in the minority here.

I do think texting him makes sense. He may have let his profile expire because he has a good number of regular clients. If you’re concerned about privacy, you can use an app like Burner which creates a separate phone number that isn’t linked to your name.

Breathe through your nose. And establish a rhythm that gets him going but allows you to stake a break every 30 seconds or so.

I’m happy to call you by your proper name if you’d like to share it.

Smart enough to smoke you out. I'm also internationally recognized in my field, advise Fortune 500 companies, am about to buy a second home, and have been with my husband for 25 years. I have a large family and countless friends here and abroad. I'm the complete opposite of "miserable."

Do yourself a favor and delete your account. Start over under another name. I'm clearly smarter and savvier than you because no one on here has ever caught me in a 6-page lie.