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This is an in person happy hour for sex workers, off duty, not a group chat. No active sex work happening to bust. Though you are correct. Nothing is without risk. That in mind, each month we have a designated provider chosen to skip the event. That way - in the unlikely event the meetup should turn cataclysmic - one single provider will survive to bear the responsibilities of servicing the men of New York City.

Looks like this is a thing now! NYC now has a monthly meetup for providers. Providers DM me and I’ll share details. 😇😎

I get that lots of providers are pretty strict with their boundaries, and with good reason. But... Who doesn't want birthday wishes??? As long as honoring any agreements for With very close long term client/provider relationships, my experience as been an additional hour at my rate at Christmas and birthday. But I'm certain there's no hard and fast rule about this.

I'm going to weigh in with some advice I flagrantly lifted from Dan Savage: Fuck before dinner!! It ensures that everyone is at their best and most prepared when the actual sex happens. It means you're less likely to limit your actual appetite over dinner. Dinner becomes a far more comfortable experience. Rather than being potentially fraught with anxiety (Yes, escorts get anxiety too, with new clients and new situations) dinner becomes much more comfortable and intimate. A celebration of a job well done on the part of both parties. Real appetites have been built. Dinner always tastes better after sex. AND... It creates an opportunity for a whole other round of sex after dinner. It's better in all the ways. And yes, it works just the same outside of a hiring situation. Always Team Fuck-Before-Dinner!

Telegram gives you the option to hide your phone number, so it seems to be one of the safer chat platforms in terms of anonymity.

I know this guy! He’s so sweet! We’ve never worked together but I can verify: - He’s handsome as hell - He really is that tall - His vibe is very very masculine in person

Ahh, thank you, sexy friend! And yes, I am a big believer in passionate connected sex. I never saw the point of sex without brining your whole self to the moment. Meeting men who are willing to do the same is one of the great joys of this kind of work.

I think this situation would involve a certain amount of financial risk for the providers, depending on how many clients actually showed up. Could be super lucrative, or could be a big flop. The key would be finding providers who are excited enough about group play to take the risk.

More intuitive than specific. But I’ll give you one: when guys talk to you too much like they’re sexting, you do start to suspect that’s all they’re doing. When you start getting too many adjectives or - in extreme cases - adverbs, you do wonder if it’s all fantasy zero reality.

I’ll definitely ask questions just go get the prospective client talking. Generally just about what he likes, what his expectations are, what gets him off … And I’m definitely running it all through my intuitive psycho detector. Red flags tend to present themselves pretty well during these conversations. Questions I avoid tend to be demographic ones. I don’t ask a client’s age, ethnicity, body type, cock size. Really I’m just seeking to suss out whether or not I suit the clients needs, and whether or not they seem safe, sane, and reliable.

There are a LOT of us bear lovers out there! I’m naturally VERY into bigger guys. But I’m actually pretty careful leading with that, as I never want anyone to feel reduced to a fetish. There are SO many of us around who don’t discriminate by body type. I promise we’re out there!

This is funny! And the old man smell is real!! But actually … As an escort, I have a number of clients who I’d classify as … with all due respect … surprisingly old. And I have yet to encounter old man smell in a client situation. Scouts’ honor. Maybe staying sexually active keeps that part of aging at bay? Which is to say… Don’t stop hiring!

You guys, my friend @GentJ is 100% the way to go. His huge cock is the real deal. https://rent.men/Gentleman_Justin

We have one of these happening this evening. Happy Hour in midtown NYC. Any providers interested, send me a DM 😇

Thank you for the nuanced explainer, and you're absolutely right. Libel is a more accurate word than slander. On that issue... When you're familiar with both parties, and you watch this kind of dispute unfold here, it's a real cautionary tale for providers. It takes very little for a client to come for your reputation and livelihood in a public and libelous (thank you @PhileasFogg) way. Also, I'm fairly certain the question here wasn't: Should these things be allowed? The question was: Why don't providers participate more? Pretty clear this thread answered its own question.