I was less nervous about coming out to my father than to my mother, because my father had a favorite cousin who was homosexual long before most Americans knew what "gay" meant. His cousin also had a partner, which the whole family seemed to accept. Both men were fairly "masculine" in the usual sense of the term, so my father didn't seem particularly surprised when I explained that I was "gay," too. He asked if my best friend at that time was "gay", also, and I said that he was, but we were not partners, which I think relieved him, because my friend was a bit flamboyant. He seemed even more relieved when I settled down with my partner, who was not obviously "gay", and he accepted our relationship as normal. My mother was more disappointed by the news, because it meant that she would have no grandchildren, as her younger sisters did. My parents did not live long enough to see my partner and I get legally married, but I am sure they would have been comfortable with that.