Well, many gentlemen on here have varying degrees of experience, paranoia. I’ve had incalls at my house before - even for a first meet. Have to make sure you have a strong “sixth sense” which I feel I do.
Also, my situation is such that I meet them on the street and have maybe a 100 yard walk back to my place in my complex. Gives me a chance to say “no thanks” before they get to my home. (Or don’t even let them in the gate - happened once!)