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Any updates?

He’s in Orlando until Saturday.

His profile is no longer on RM. Does anyone know if he changed his profile name?

Looking for feedback on sharing personal info. It goes without saying that we all implement some layer of security to protect ourselves: cash only, burner phones, texting apps, innocuous emails, fake names, hotel only meets, etc. Just wondering what the groups’ attitudes is about lowering your guard. When, if ever, do you expose yourself, figuratively, with your partner? This goes for both provider and client. For instance, there is a provider I’ve known for years, has stayed with me for extended periods of time and I’ve grown to trust him. He knows my real name, home address, personal number, employer, etc. I’m not concerned that sharing this info with him will burn me down the road. I understand there’s always risk in that, but with him, it’s acceptable. I think it helps build mutual trust and deepens the connection. There are a few others I’ve shared my personal number and some other info with. Candidly, it’s just easier to use my personal number than constantly checking a texting app, which is a secure app buried deep on my phone no one can easily access. I’m quick to share my first name with most providers as well because an alias is so impersonal to me and I like to establish some level of intimacy with a repeat partner. FTR, I am less concerned with LE since I understand with the tools they have available today, nothing is 100% secure. They will find what they need if motivated enough. My security measures are intended to protect me from a provider if things turn sour and I need to burn that bridge quickly. What is the consensus attitude on personal security? And how have folks handled troublesome partners that won’t go away?

Anyone care to share their own experience being confronted by LE on this topic? What are warning signs?

I’ve definitely noticed an uptick in providers in this area in the last couple of years. $4.00 a gallon gas doesn’t help anyone except Big Oil! But I don’t know if it’s necessarily lack of employment as much as level of employment and affordability. I don’t think it’s hard to find a $15 an hour job around here but that’s not a living income. One provider told me he was making $300K+ a year when he was more active. That’s practically impossible to make in the traditional economy with only a HS education. Side note, completely unrelated: same provider told me he paid taxes on his income as well. I was impressed. Even has a tax guy. He has a registered LLC as an adult entertainer and keeps a log of transactions. A good citizen!

Does he travel to Florida??? 😁

I like to chat. If it’s a new provider I want to get to know them. I will usually greet them with an opened mouth kiss just to make sure they are who they say they are and are there to do what we agreed upon. If they don’t kiss at all, major red flag and end the meet immediately. That has not happened to me before, but I learned that tactic from another thread on this forum. If I know them I want to catch up. The experience I’m seeking is more than just a physical connection. I desire personal intimacy and even though I’m aware it is performative, I like the illusion of an emotional connection. Additionally, too many providers bail when the client finishes, even if the hour isn’t up, which is irritating. Since I’m not a marathoner in that department, there’s ample time for chat and activity in one hour. Ideally, a good convo relaxes both parties, especially for a first meet because first meets are stressful for most people.

Just wanted to update the folks who provided some sage advice on this. I did see this provider a second time and the experience was not as magical as the first. Still a great time, and I’ll see him again, but I am not AS smitten as I was the first time. He will be one of my regulars but not my only one. Thanks for all the thoughtful input!

I agree with this. Build a bench of regulars and plan in advance. Most of my regulars travel a lot so they could be dispersed all over the US. They all have RM profiles so I just keep an eye on where they are if they advertise it. I’m a planner so I’ll get them on the schedule weeks out. I have one scheduled for mid October right now. I believe providers prefer to build their own stable of trusted clients. So it’s win-win if you find each other. Another thing to consider is that messages could be buried in dozens or even a hundred messages if one is pursuing a highly sought provider (caucasian twinks under 25 are unicorns in my area). The volume of messages can be overwhelming to them. I recommend reaching out periodically (once a week) until you get some reply. Any more than that may scream desperation or obsession. Move on after a month and try again in a few months if they still have active profiles. I got one reply two months after I sent it. Patience is key. Some providers treat this as a full time job, others as a casual hobby, so availability varies.

I’m confused to your point. Are you offended I don’t like the term “front hole” because there’s a lot of other words I don’t like either? It’s not a judgement. Just a personal preference. Another personal preference of mine is that I don’t graphically share my sexual proclivities with random straight men because it’s unnecessarily provocative. I’m positive they don’’t want the details.

“Front hole” sounds so vulgar to me. I don’t see harm in calling a vagina by its anatomical name. Isn’t it the point of transgenderism that anatomy doesn't determine gender? So call a vagina a vagina. But I’m not going to fall on my sword over that. Since I am NOT transgender, I accept that I cannot fully understand their perspective. So, I’ll respect that vagina is not universally acceptable. I just wish “front hole” was not the answer.

He just quoted me $1K for an hour for an outcall. I politely declined. 😆

That will never happen, I guarantee it. He has a day job. He’ll never reveal his face.

Yes he does and he’s good!