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Not my type…But I think NIL upfront and 100% after full satisfaction would be smartest

Yes, it first happened to me 20 years ago. He was very much my physical ideal and ultra-discreet. Best of all, emotionally, he was happy to play as a sub bottom to my dominant top. The sex was intense. Though he was younger than me, he was very experienced. He liked that, with my relative inexperience, I was happy to try new things in bed (tying him up, edging him, trios, 4gies, mild SM etc) My nature is that I’m a serial monogamist. When I hired, it was always for the full BFE that I wanted with a fit, handsome guy. It worked well, generally. In the first instance, it lasted for about 5 years. The sex was intense in the first 2-3 years. We’d have sex 3x overnight (before and after dinner and oral sex on waking) but over time, this declined (first with him not fellating me to completion in the morning; in the final year, him not wanting to get pounded more than once a night). The second was an Abercrombie model and wannabe musician/actor in LA. After a couple of very successful dates, I commuted monthly to LA and always stayed in his apartment. That lasted for just over a year. The third was an amateur, a personal trainer supplementing his income. It was very good for 3 years, but declined amicably when he met another man.

This is a ‘problem’ many of us would like to encounter 😎 Maybe he’ll become a ‘keeper’ for you. He sounds ideal to me - I always found taciturn or silent guys difficult and more of a turn-off

My opinion will seem harsh….but I feel someone has to give you a reality check. You're the same poster @BlackSheep who mentioned in the Personal Finance section that you’re heavily indebted, losing money on your side-business and part-financing a relative overseas. At the same time, you have friends who want their short-term personal loans to you repaid quickly. You’re an adult and you don’t need a break in LA or San Diego. You simply need to knuckle down and face reality. Once you start dealing with your financial problems, you will feel more in control of your life. I think then your mental issues will reduce.

Me too. I’ve been asked for loans several times by different people - maybe a total of 6x in 40 years. If it seems worthwhile or helpful to them, I give the money outright. Over the years, I’ve only been let down twice (by false friends who requested funds and then let contact lapse). My advice to the OP is to clear your debts. Paying people back and reducing the debt will ease your mental anxiety. Stop subsidising others (as mentioned above); you can’t afford it. And stop comparing yourself to rich friends; you’re broke and it’s unhelpful.

I too am open about being gay. I have been since my early 20s when I got my first job on Wall St. I would still advise people to be reticent about sharing that they hire. Many jurisdictions view hiring for sexual activity as illegal. Of course, that does not prevent others from trying to blackmail you. An individual once tried to extort me as I live in a fancy co-op (that is wrongly regarded as snooty). I said Go Ahead, everyone knows I’m gay. I followed the advice of the Duke of Wellington. He was asked by his younger (female) lover to pay her money to keep his name out of her memoirs; he famously replied “Publish and be damned!”

Nor did I. Thanks for posting the link @azdr0710 I have 2 thoughts on all this. 1. I know that societal attitudes change over time, Do contemporary views on what constitutes consent mean that actors in porn movies will be able to seek redress by alleging a power imbalance? Will all the now middle-aged men, who were once aged 21+ and hot, allege BelAmi, Sean Cody and Corbin Fisher reaped excessive profits and didn’t pay them enough? Will clients face large legal bills to defend against compensation claims from escorts 21+ who engaged in consensual activities decades ago but now allege they were ‘forced’ to please older, richer men? 2. I wonder how they determine which long-running matters eventually proceed to trial. I’m thinking here of an attempted blackmail case in San Diego a few years ago. A man who’d made a fortune in telecommunications - I think his surname was Burns - liked to hire handsome muscled young men (generally 23-33) who had worked in Sean Cody movies. Together they went on trips in the US and overseas. All activities were consensual. One man (IIRC it was Jarec Wentworth) had been rewarded handsomely with a car and a condo, but he wanted more and sought to extort money from him. Burns went to the FBI with his lawyers. A trap was set and Wentworth was arrested (in possession of a handgun) by the FBI. Wentworth had a lengthy jail sentence. AFAIK nothing ever happened to Burns, though he sold up in La Jolla and left San Diego.

As I don’t subscribe to OF, are there some photos that you can share here? I’d like to see this ‘hottest’ guy

Please will you divulge what this attractive young man may have said about his bedroom skills and preferences that excited your interest @glutes I once had a similar experience to what you suggest above. I had a date with a handsome young man, a musician, years ago. After we talked easily and well for a long time, he came home with me. He readily stripped naked to reveal a marvellous muscled physique. And he got into bed and lay there…and lay there unmoving. It was like making love to a Greek marble statue. I found that the ‘key’ to his sexuality was that I could do whatever I wanted to his body. He’d kiss and respond to my actions, but he’d not initiate anything. So I just had to put him to good, hard use.

I salute your stamina. I would allow an interval, say an hour, between visitors. But that’s me: I like to clean up, shower etc and then anticipate the arrival of the next attractive man. Agreed. I’d never do any sort of group sex activity in a top-end hotel. Large hotels in midtown are much better bets for ‘flying beneath the radar’. My advice is to make friends with Housekeeping and tip them well. You will need lots of fresh towels for sure, and you may want the bed linen changed before you go to sleep at night. Indeed if you have several visitors, you may need fresh bedlinen during the session.

Utter deal-breaker for me, as I love receiving oral to completion (after I’ve topped a man). Agreed, especially if he swallows my load. Kissing starts the romance. For me, French kissing is an essential part of foreplay. While love-making for me is made more intense by deep and passionate kissing. I only encountered that more than 20 years ago when I dated some Brazilian muscleboys (who aimed to succeed as models). One of them told me that it was heavily recommended in Brazil’s public sex education campaign at a time of rising HIV/AIDS numbers. Two of the guys skilfully brought me off and I noticed that they avoided cum-in-mouth. One guy insisted I wore a condom but would let me finish in his mouth. He had such a beautiful body, and was a great kisser/cuddler after climax, that I was happy to comply with his wish.

Very interesting post @samhexum I hadn’t thought about the question of refunds. Thank you.

It’s reported this morning that the suspect driver was found. He ran at police brandishing a knife and was shot dead. German government ministers have now said it was an Islamist terror attack.

Very sad news. And when I recall the various similar attacks over the years in other German cities - particularly on crowded Christmas markets - I wonder whether the German security & intelligence services are doing enough to prevent recurrence

Maybe I missed something here… but I clicked on the link to his ad. It states he’s moved back to Australia (and works in Sydney 1.5 days a week)