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Years ago, I dated some very handsome and wildly popular men. Strangely perhaps, I became very close to 5 of them; friendships developed and have endured. All of them know of my background in finance, and three have been introduced to my family. All are smart men, and each asked me about finance and investing. What astounded me in each case were two matters: that I had to explain compound arithmetic and its importance that they had no real understanding of their income and outgoings One man in particular expressed his astonishment that not only did I know what I typically spent but also that I spent so little to live well, while reinvesting excess income. I say all this not to brag but it shocks me that people do not live within their means and save more.

Personally I am always polite but direct in expressing my desires. I would compliment the masseur in some way and say “I always enjoy getting sucked off. And I love it when it’s to completion.” Then add “If you’re fine with that, I have to tell you it drives me insane when a hot guy like you swallows my load” That allows the masseur to understand what you want and if need be, to negotiate with you. So stay polite and be generous.

Agreed. I’ve only once participated in an orgy, but I organised group sex many times. My preference was always for a small group. For me, it worked best with at least 3 men and upto 8 guys. I knew the sexual preferences of all the men I invited. There were mainly versatile guys, some dedicated bottoms and one other top. Some guys were skilled oralists, some good kissers, one expert rimmer etc. Setting times as @Just Chuck stated is very important. Have guys strip down to underwear on arrival. Then offer a welcome drink while you introduce everyone. And I learned the usefulness of ‘no admittance if late’ policy on one occasion. I was naked and horizontal - being embraced by a handsome muscleboy deep-kissing me passionately while a versatile ex-dancer was between my legs licking my balls and sucking my dick - when my phone rang. Another vers muscleboy I’d invited called to say he was running late, traffic was terrible and was it still OK for him to attend? Even now, I’m surprised how politely I growled “Sure. Get that great body of yours over here”. Once he arrived, I punished him by quickly stripping him, kissing him and then pushing him against a wall to pound his ass standing up.

As others have suggested, don’t overthink this @BCMan It seems you have discovered that escorts are not mind-readers. It’s good that you’re gracious, but it’s simply proper behaviour to look after a guest. I’d suggest to you that, as part of the preliminaries before meeting a new man for a date, you ask whether the two of you will be compatible in bed. For example, I used to say ‘I love foreplay and deep kissing’ and ’I like to see a fit guy in sexy underwear/classic white briefs/a jockstrap’ and ’I’m only a top and I’ve a dominant streak’ and ‘I love getting my dick sucked, especially to completion, and I really love it when a hot guy like you swallows my load’. Whatever your fantasy or kink or simple preference is, I’m sure the other guy has heard all sorts of requests.

Very much agree. That is the essential point: you become a regular client first. I always preferred to date one guy regularly. Over time, I dated 3 good guys who enjoyed my company (and my wallet, of course). They OFFERED me a substantial discount. One charged me 50% of market rates because I ended up seeing him 2-3x a week, and I’d pay for drinks & dinner. Another guy lived in a small room, so he liked to stay with me overnight; we’d have fun and I’d take him out to dinner on a weekly basis. He always took me out for breakfast. He too charged about half the usual rate for overnight dates. A third man was very good in bed and, after a couple of dates, he told me he wanted to go on an overseas trip with me. He was great company on a one-week vacation; I paid all the costs of course, and he asked only for some spending money equivalent to one overnight. That was my preferred ‘dating pool’, what I termed “enthusiastic amateurs”. I met some very nice men whom I dated for years, and I’m still in touch with several.

I’m sorry I can’t help you. I own a lot of inflation-proofed securities, but all the things I enjoy consuming seem to increase in price at a faster pace. If you do find your desirable man at yesteryear’s price, I shall be pleased for you. It will encourage me to find dinner in a good restaurant (with great food & wine) on the UES for only $250 for two.

I met several men using DMs on IG. My advice is to keep your messages succinct and polite. I used to say to guys with ‘fitness’ or ‘muscle building’ profiles that I wanted to get in great shape and was interested in personal training IRL. I told them I was happy to pay appropriately and I gave them a way to respond to me direct. I did not put anything sexual in the DM - nothing about my preferences/wishes etc. Hot guys get a lot of DMs so you want your messages to stand out in a good way. I agree. What surprised me is that several guys told me how nice it was to get a serious message. It turns out that lots of DMs are crudely written and crass. Not so much “OMG you’re so hot!” but more “Wanna fuck?” or “How much? I’ll swallow your load”

I read about this in the NY Post. Horrific story.

Pre-pandemic, I was on vacation in Melbourne, Australia. I happened to lust for a guy who featured on the cover of DNA. Luckily I had contacted him through friends of friends before I went on vacation, and we had chatted online and exchanged photos. Late one afternoon, I thought about him and decided to see if I could set up a date. I wasn’t sure though whether he was based in Sydney or Melbourne. So I walked to an early dinner and sat outside a very good, modern Chinese restaurant in St Kilda (a beach neighbourhood). I’d ordered a drink when a car pulled up outside the place and discharged a small group of guys. My lust object in a checked shirt - the cover guy - was the last to exit the car. I recognised him, smiled as I stared, and he recognised me. I was discreet but said Hello, pretending we were mates, and as the others entered the restaurant, I gave him my hotel room number and fixed a date for after dinner. We had fun 😎

Short answer to the OP: I’m not. For me, it’s happening anyway….no matter what I do. So I focus on having an enjoyable life and I do something nice every single day.

How would you describe his natural role? Versatile, does it all; Masc dom top; Affectionate sub bottom? And what sort of fee for 1-2 hours?

Now we’re getting to it. And now I understand. For those who want to just look, there’s Instagram. For men like me who don’t mind spending their money, there are attractive male models in big cities. All models have only modest and variable incomes to meet large and regular bills. It is extraordinarily rare for a male model to earn significant money from modelling, eg the face of a major fragrance or the body who is the icon of a major fashion label (and paid not to work for rival brands). Per @robberbaron4u: number of thesuperior grade "model' type boys I have encountered on the road of life, he is "asexual" given only to "self service" I’ve dated a great number of male models. I’ve been happy to pay for dinner, take them shopping for underwear & other clothes, and help them pay their bills. On overnight stays and on vacations overseas, we’ve always shared one bed. It's NEVER been a platonic relationship. I can recall two instances where I knew a fit, masculine model was str8 yet he invited himself into my bed; he wanted to show his appreciation for all that I’d done for him. One man was Brazilian, one man was Italian. I’ve been surprised at how much a str8 man will do to please a gay man. I can also recall three instances where I took a handsome model to dinner, but it didn’t go any further. My rules for dating were inflexible. We had to share some activities or cultural interests, and they had to be interesting people. If they didn’t show much interest in me, I would simply ask after the 2nd or 3rd dinner whether they wanted to come home with me and stay for breakfast. If the answer was No, I cut all contact.

I like the background to this story @robberbaron4u but here’s the part I don’t understand: “He’s in the process of writing a tell-all book” Why? He’s a young adult, and I presume he’s still handsome and has maintained a fit, muscular physique. From what you write, he lives close to London. (I’ve been to Peacehaven to visit a friend, and the public train service is very fast and efficient.) Why does he not offer personal services in London (or England generally) where the work is legal and well-paid?

We went to the London premiere. I met Harry Lighton there too, as he was at school with my partner. HL was there with his parents(!) @d.anders I’d never describe HL as handsome. He was very fey in person, poorly dressed and looked in need of a “deep clean” from a long shower or bath. We both enjoyed the movie, but I was disappointed that they showed a censored version. Apparently the screening at Cannes was ‘uncut’. The movie is worth seeing but check first what version will be screened

Why? Too intimate?