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I see you’re very new here @Jacob_b so welcome! I feel you’d get more responses from people if you provide some details & background. I suggest you set out your experience of hiring, what sort of man you like to meet, what you enjoy doing/having done to you etc. And people are more likely to be able to help you if you describe yourself. As a minimum, I suggest you say where you’re based in the US (or abroad) and where/when you’re aiming to have the BFE. You might also consider starting a separate thread in this section - something like ‘Looking for BFE with a jock 24-33 in Austin’ as this will covey the basics.

I was there in late June one year and there was plenty of snow. Definitely take your Winter gear/clothing. Bear in mind it’s a huge area. I only explored the northern part which is often referred to as ‘the Lake District’. We flew into Bariloche and drove from there. I was genuinely surprised at how vast it was. The developed areas seem to be like ribbons on a map and it’s very easy to go into deep wilderness that is regularly cut off in Winter.

I wasn’t making any observations about escorts in general or meaning any disrespect towards sex workers and clients. I merely observed that my ideal type (handsome young muscle-bottoms) don’t usually want old clients. When such guys think of older tops, they imagine them being 35-55. I’ve known various escorts socially through the gym. Over the years, I’ve heard several express their views on servicing old clients 70+. Of course, it is a business and most realise that older men with money can make reliable clients.

I stopped hiring years ago when I met my partner. He is an intelligent, kind, much younger man. if he were to die or break up with me, I might reconsider. I have the strong impression, however, that very few providers - who are my ideal type (handsome, young muscle-bottoms) - would want to offer their services to a man in his 70s.

I prefer guys with good bodies to wear sexy underwear. When I find a fit-bodied guy who’s happy to comply, I get him to model a range of briefs and jockstraps for me. I see it as part of good foreplay. I’ve found several guys who actually find it arousing as I do. Some guys have asked me if they can keep some underwear after a date, and I’m happy to oblige. A couple of guys I dated regularly got into the habit of calling me beforehand to ask me if I wanted them to wear a jockstrap and what colour I’d like to see on them.

Me too. I especially enjoy the second, third and fourth dates…as I can thoroughly explore a man’s muscled body, and so learn how best to put him to good, hard use 😜

I think all labels can be confusing. In my opinion, it’s always best to discuss with any individual what they will, and what they will not, do in bed. On a date with any guy, I aim to be polite. If I’m unsure if we’ll play well together, I simply state upfront what I enjoy. Then I check that our wishes/desires are compatible.

Regret I cannot help you with any current info….but historically San Diego has been a poor market with very few ‘professionals’ and very many transient ‘amateurs’ who wanted support and a bed for the night. Years ago, pre-Covid, when I visited La Jolla often (after living in Point Loma, San Diego), I always found I had to reach out to guys in LA and Orange County who were prepared to travel for an overnight date. Then I used to offer them a good dinner of their choice and $1000-1200. When I wanted to repeat with a good guy, I’d offer $2500 for a weekend date. I’ll be interested to read what replies you get on the current situation.

Thank you for your time and effort in posting the above - I always appreciate humour with an edge @Jamie21

I’d say first identify the area/s you would prefer, @Doe Be Doe. It’s not clear whether this is for your work or simply for pleasure. Personally I like the Upper East Side. It offers a great mix of culture, restaurants etc with easy access to both Midtown for theatre and the airports. But my preference is really based on years living there. Once you settle on an area, you might approach decent hotels to ask whether they’ll rent you a room for an extended stay (say 30 nights). They may be more flexible than a rental of a furnished apartment.

I’ve only had 2 similar experiences over the years. The first was a guy with whom I’d had 4 evening dates before. This time, he asked if he could stay overnight with me at my home. I clarified his intentions before I agreed. I showered before bed while he was showering in another bathroom. In bed, it quickly became clear that he’d ingested some substance he’d brought with him. I told him to get dressed and threw him out. The second was an Aussie guy who turned up at my Sydney hotel-room reeking of alcohol. When he asked for a drink, I lied and said I only had water. He was fairly drunk but he offered to suck me off and swallow my load. I came; he went. IMO @Nicedice you were sensible and got rid of him as quickly as you could.

It’s definitely not you @d.anders The venal desires and greed of minor celebrities is astounding. My guess is that they just doesn’t like to part with their own money. I do recall learning years ago that Cher had written a check for $10000 when Chaz asked to have a penis, and later Cher confirmed it. No jokes please on how many of us would like “to have a penis” but can’t get others to pay for it 😎

Communication of my desires was easy for me as I’m only a top. If pressed to say more, I’d add that I’m affectionate but I have a dominant streak and enjoy taking charge. I’d always express my needs by stating what I enjoy (kissing with tongue, sensual foreplay, mutual oral and topping with condom) as non-negotiable. Again if pressed, I’d add that I want a muscleboy to dress in sexy briefs or jockstrap and although it’s optional, I find it insanely hot when a guy worships my cock lovingly and swallows my load. I’d always be direct and state this before a first date. Being polite, I’d simply ask if we will be mutually compatible.

I know that tastes differ and everyone can be attractive to someone…but personally I’d never pay to hire him for a date. Looking back over two decades now, I dated some very handsome and beautifully built men…yet I found there was absolutely no correlation between price and pleasure on the dates.

In the past, whenever I had a great time with a man, I always sent a message afterwards expressing my appreciation and thanking him for the time we spent together. It was very nice if the man responded promptly and reciprocated my feelings. That often led to further dates. What was terrific was when the man messaged me first, typically on his way home, and made complimentary remarks about my skills as a top or our mutual chemistry. That always led to repeat engagements.

I’ve always heard that if you need company there, you better have imported your own companion. But since it’s a renowned (and expensive) vacation spot, I imagine that quite a few fit young men would want to accompany you in the season.

No, but definitely a fine vintage 😎

I really enjoyed the film but it is long (at about 2hours 40mins). I thought it was both very well-acted and a marvellous recreation of the 1970s, with insights into the stratification of Brazilian society. Being older, I recalled the military dictatorship in Brazil when ‘problems’ (or dissidents) were often solved (aka killed or disappeared) by the authorities (military and private vigilantes). The film is also very entertaining with considerable humour and occasionally shocking moments.

Very nice report @MJB May I ask what was his fee schedule for the time you spent together?

I remember him from years ago. Back then, he had a very good body (having recently been on the US gymnastics team IIRC). We had a very nice, vanilla date and I guess he would, in today’s parlance, be best described as a short king.

Bless you, @Charlie As long as you have a strong and comprehensive memory, you can (like me) reflect on and enjoy again the wonderful times you had in the past.

I agree. It’s fundamentally a question of trust. I had a boyfriend who was a model; he had a superb physique and travelled regularly for work. Whenever anyone at our gym asked me if I ever worried or was jealous about him having sex with others when away from home, I used a variation on this theme as my response: “he always comes home to me and to sleep in our bed”. Put simply, people lie and/or dissemble. The boyfriend I mention above made all the running in our relationship. He told others I was his boyfriend and he told me he loved me. We were living together for over 12 months before I found out that, apart from the modelling work, he was an ultra-discreet escort. We had a painful and tearful discussion, and we persevered. My advice to the OP would be to sit down and frankly discuss your concerns and fears. You should not assume anything. Ask about how you can safeguard your sexual health in future…and get fully tested now if you’re uncertain. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries (or ‘red lines’) if that’s what you want, eg no overnight dates with clients or certain events are sacrosanct and his presence with you is non-negotiable.

That would be an excellent extension to the offerings on Prime 😎

That was intemperate of you. Let’s call it a rookie mistake. You wait charmingly until you’re given expensive jewellery. Then you delete any online details.

As @Rudynate noted, this constitutes a powerful attraction. I also saw that you’d had 5 overnights and several multi-hour bookings with him. So my guess is that you have a considerable emotional investment in the relationship. Yet your precise needs - which you explained clearly - are not being met. What I could not discern is whether he brought you to orgasm every time. FWIW I had something similar with a guy years ago. He was an Adonis (notably goodlooking, working as a model, with a superb physique) who had a submissive streak and liked to please. He was perfect for me as I really enjoy the BFE, topping energetically and being sucked off to completion as a session ends. The similar ‘problem’ was that he would rarely climax. And I also like to see my guys climax. I’m selfish so it’s not essential, but I find it thrilling to have my partner climax. As I enjoyed his company so much (overnights and weekend trips), I spent considerable time exploring when he could and did climax. Note that we talked this over in private when relaxed (ie when my needs had been met). It became clear that it was more of a psychological problem. For instance, he could not pee in public or in front of other men. He felt shame. Over time, the ‘key’ was for me to hire another fit muscleboy. The final part of a session would be, after I’d unloaded, that the two hot guys masturbated while physically separated. Sometimes I’d hold my guy from behind and stroke his cock; sometimes I’d let him stroke himself. The other muscleboy would shoot first and then my guy would climax. Another successful stratagem exploring his ‘shame’ was to tie him up (which he loved). Sometimes this was a prelude to spanking him; sometimes I edged him in a leisurely session. If you are still invested to some extent, and decide you’d like to salvage what you can, I’d urge you to have a conversation with him about how and when he does climax successfully. If, as you state, you just want to move to seeing him when he’s around (no trips, no multi-hour bookings), I’d write a polite text saying how greatly you enjoyed the previous dates, but now you will want to see him just for an hour when he happens to be in your city.