Mark_fl

I think it's better to under-promise and over-deliver. If someone looks sketchy, it's easier to say "I said safe only" than to say "I know I said anything goes, but I'm not comfortable with that."

There are just risks you have to take and ones you don't. You can't hire for sex and not accept the risks of sex. That doesn't mean you're going to give him your ATM pin code and leave your wallet on the end table when you take a shower.

Bump. In Orlando now

It seems most people prefer a table massage, so once again I'm in the minority For me, the bed massage is more intimate. Also easier to move to other things if that's your plan. I have a regular 'straight' massage for the standard stuff, and she's great. And I've found some providers are just as good, and will do more body contact in a bed. I also find it awkward to move from table to bed. Am I alone here?

Yep. Maybe it's a language issue, but if you can't take the time to read and answer direct questions, I know immediately that it will not be a relaxing experience with good communication.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

Good point. I think it would go over better and might work out better for both of you if they did this. "Hey, I'm a little short this month. Are you interested in a session? I'll make it worth your while. " I think that would be a very attractive offer for most of us.

If a guy goes beyond what I've already paid for, I agree. Assuming his rates were at or below market to begin with. If a guy is on the high end, that would be the level of service I expect.

Not to hijack the thread, but this is a societal issue. Showing off and living for today without thoughts of tomorrow is trending. I suspect a large part of this is because there is no security even if you live within your means any more. There are no more pensions unless you work for the government. There is no job security. Layoffs and cuts are everywhere. It's a tough sell to tell people save, save, save, when doing so gives you cushion to pay the bank a few more months of your mortgage before your savings are gone anyway, once you get laid off. It's still wise, but I can see the other side of it.

I think asking for a loan is largely taking advantage of the illusion of intimacy created by the nature of the work. If you are truly friends, and see him outside of work, fine. Treat your relationship as such and loan what you would any other friend you are close to. But the truth is, what would you say if your barber asked for the loan? Of course you wouldn't give him money. Any other service provider? Mechanic? Dentist? Sounds silly to even think of it, doesn't it? It is what it is. A guy taking advantage because he thinks you have money, and because you have a physical relationship, you are closer than you really are.

It sounds Ike he likes you, but is not interested in a sexual relationship with you. Sure, if you're willing to pay, he'll continue his services. Personally, I'd not want to continue this relationship. I have no problem paying for an attractive guy to make believe he's into me for an hour or so, but if we were to have a real friendship, I'd find it unappealing for him to want to charge me for intimacy. The lines here are so blurred, I'd be inclined to either cut it off completely, or keep the friendship platonic AND FREE and see how long this guy remains interested in spending time with you. Good luck.

Re bump

Not to revive this particular experience from 2 years ago, but isnt a bad review about a provider reviewed on this site EXACTLY what the point of reviews here are? Why would the fact that he was reviewed her make you less likely to share your experience.

And unless they are great at saving, the more they declare the higher social security will be. And it will always be there, since politicians don't have the nerve to cut it.

I agree that it is difficult, especially if your attraction is limited to a specific type. Finding a guy you're into, who is into what you want, and at a reasonable rate is difficult. At to that those who don't communicate well or have issues that have them disappearing after you think you have something set up, and yes, it can be tiring. Even worse if your time is limited and have to fit meetings into a window. But, as others have said, I find almost everyone I interact with in business, or who I've interviewed (and sometimes mistakenly hired) is startlingly incompetent, so I shouldn't be surprised. So if I find someone I like, I'd like to keep it fun, mutually beneficial and establish a bit of a relationship.