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I think the problem is that suspension of reality can only be possible under certain circumstances. I had a provider who had never seen me start calling me sexy shortly after we started communicating. Maybe some guys are into this and can start the fantasy, but for me it had me rolling my eyes. Yes, I want the fantasy that he's into me when we're together, but that seems a bit over the top. 
After we meet, if he acted interested when we were together, and told me how he was looking forward to seeing me again, or that he found something about me sexy, great. I can work with that.
But if I read a profile of his where he said how much a hairy guy was a turnoff, for example,  I would never be able to get into the fantasy that our relationship was mutually enjoyable or a real BFE. Of course I know it's not, but you just can't unring that bell.
That said,  I don't have any dating apps, so I'll never be in that situation, but I certainly see where the OP is coming from. 

On what planet is that normal?

They are service providers, plain and simple. The service they provide is sometimes escorting, but more often something more intimate.
I think "provider" is a very respectful term to use.

They are service providers, plain and simple. The service they provide is sometimes escorting, but more often something more intimate.
I think "provider" is a very respectful term to use.

I really want the provider to have a good time and get off, so I will ask what they like and don't like, if there are any restrictions, etc. I don't want to make them uncomfortable...but I do want reciprocation, so I'll always want my turn;)

They are service providers, plain and simple. The service they provide is sometimes escorting, but more often something more intimate.
I think "provider" is a very respectful term to use.

They are service providers, plain and simple. The service they provide is sometimes escorting, but more often something more intimate.
I think "provider" is a very respectful term to use.

They are service providers, plain and simple. The service they provide is sometimes escorting, but more often something more intimate.
I think "provider" is a very respectful term to use.

They are service providers, plain and simple. The service they provide is sometimes escorting, but more often something more intimate.
I think "provider" is a very respectful term to use.

I really want the provider to have a good time and get off, so I will ask what they like and don't like, if there are any restrictions, etc. I don't want to make them uncomfortable...but I do want reciprocation, so I'll always want my turn;)

I really want the provider to have a good time and get off, so I will ask what they like and don't like, if there are any restrictions, etc. I don't want to make them uncomfortable...but I do want reciprocation, so I'll always want my turn;)

I really want the provider to have a good time and get off, so I will ask what they like and don't like, if there are any restrictions, etc. I don't want to make them uncomfortable...but I do want reciprocation, so I'll always want my turn;)

https://rent.men/ValentinoGray
Cute guy. Has he been anywhere else? Any experiences with him?

https://rent.men/ValentinoGray
Cute guy. Has he been anywhere else? Any experiences with him?

https://rent.men/ValentinoGray
Cute guy. Has he been anywhere else? Any experiences with him?

I don't know about that. A better example might be giving a birthday present to another service provider, like your hair stylist, massage therapist or pool guy.  Can certainly seem a little out of place and imply something that may not be the intent.

I don't even care if there's a dick Pic. As long as they have one that works. What I can about is a slim smooth body and humble demeanor.

If PhileasFogg is hiring him to suck your dick, he's truly a good friend.

Fewer with regularity easily. While new can be exciting, I much prefer the BFE, which naturally would lean toward someone with whom you have some history. For me, I want relaxation and comfort level,  not the stress that comes with a new encounter.

My assumption is that 99.99999% of clients only focus on the sex; I may belong to that 0.00001% group of people who care about the emotional & psychological aspects of the interactions.  Therefore, whenever a provider presents himself with authenticity, the arousal factor for me will be multiplied infinitely.  I figure if I want people to show me their true selves, I have to take the steps to be real myself first.  That’s why I am no longer creating a make-belief identity when hiring.

If I was ever going to graduate from being a side, I'm not now.

Handjob is a happy ending. Blowjob is a VERY happy ending.

Handjob is a happy ending. Blowjob is a VERY happy ending.

Handjob is a happy ending. Blowjob is a VERY happy ending.

Nice read. Very well-written! Thanks for sharing.