Mark_fl

I think the problem is that suspension of reality can only be possible under certain circumstances. I had a provider who had never seen me start calling me sexy shortly after we started communicating. Maybe some guys are into this and can start the fantasy, but for me it had me rolling my eyes. Yes, I want the fantasy that he's into me when we're together, but that seems a bit over the top. After we meet, if he acted interested when we were together, and told me how he was looking forward to seeing me again, or that he found something about me sexy, great. I can work with that. But if I read a profile of his where he said how much a hairy guy was a turnoff, for example, I would never be able to get into the fantasy that our relationship was mutually enjoyable or a real BFE. Of course I know it's not, but you just can't unring that bell. That said, I don't have any dating apps, so I'll never be in that situation, but I certainly see where the OP is coming from.

No reviews would be a red flag. Forbidding reviews would be a fluorescent, flashing, red and yellow flag the size of a billboard.

Im sure this guy is ideal for some, just not me, but what really gives me pause is the "no reviews policy" with the justification that "our private time is private". One way to make sure you don't get bad reviews, I suppose. https://rent.men/ThePerfectChoice

Perfect. Not a problem at all. I think it also changes the expectation. You sometimes feel like if someone doesn't answer a text fairly quickly, you're not that important. But nobody expects an immediate response from an email. As long as you move serious conversations to text or phone, I think it's ideal.

Maybe providers need to start taking Klarna

Fewer with regularity easily. While new can be exciting, I much prefer the BFE, which naturally would lean toward someone with whom you have some history. For me, I want relaxation and comfort level, not the stress that comes with a new encounter.

I think it's obvious that most providers wouldn't be with us for free. He'll, even if we're their exact type, they may not be willing to do just what we want them to do sexually without reciprocation in kind. I think the point is that if we find out the escort is an asshole, whether it be how he posts on grinder or how he treats a server in a restaurant, it would turn me off to hire.

A provider who is dealing or taking them is showing that he is willing to partake in risky behavior. Stay far, far away. And while alcohol can be just as dangerous, it is at least legal in moderation. I realize this whole hobby may be illegal in the US, but that doesn't mean we should combine it with illegal mind-altering substances.

Good advice above. One more piece from me. Your problem isn't your weight, it's your self-esteem. You aren't so big that you need to lead with it, or even point it out. Change your name to something that highlights something good about yourself, and enjoy!

I see both sides of this. Providers have every right to have preferences in the personal interactions. However, posting as he did ruins the illusion that he doesn't find some of his clients repulsive to him. I'm with you in that if he posted "no hairy guys" I would never hire him, knowing it wouldn't be something he was really into, even if his Rm ad said otherwise. It's his risk to take though. If he loses some business, so be it.

Not for me. No interest in that, sexting, private videos or zoom meetings. Does nothing for me except make me feel embarrassed for the performer and skeevy for myself. I wouldn't even ask a potential provider for additional pictures if I can see their face and body type. In person or not interested.

https://rentmasseur.com/MaxxxSportyy Anyone here have an encounter with this guy?

Idiotic ad. He's therapeutic only, don't ask for more. However he'll post a bunch of shirtless photos and of himself in just a towel. Sure. Sounds like a manipulative clown to me.

We don't want providers that are 10s. We want providers to delude us into thinking we are!

Yes. Or after the fact. Just unsolicited affection. Or for an overnight, if the provider would start up in the middle of the night, even waking me up, it would be beyond hot.

My point was more unsolicited initiating, not just during a massage or something.

For me, initiation of touch. If the provider just rubs my arm unsolicited or initiates a sexual encounter, it would make the experience feel so much more satisfying and like a real BFE.

I think in this context, most logical people mean mind-altering drugs. Certainly not OTC or drugs prescribed by a personal physician (that aren't mind-altering or being abused)

Glad to hear it Jamie. Good providers can deal with a forum and don't need to hide under a cloak of anonymity. We need more of you, not less.

Absolutely 💯. There is critique of service which is fine. And critique of physique if does not match the pictures on the profile is also Absolutely above board. Outside of that, it is inappropriate. Some posters seriously need look deep inside your soul.....or perhaps buy a wall size mirror. Here I disagree. We aren't promising any physique or using it to make a living. Our appearance should have no bearing on our commentary. [You posted your comment inside the quotation box. Mods moved it out.]

There is also a difference between critiquing someone's fashion choices (including tattoos) and physical appearances one can't do anything about. Preferences aren't going to change, but we can still be kind. Also, we might be less critical if we thought the provider we're critiquing was going to see it and respond. After all, I hope we're all here to make this hobby/business more fun/profitable, rather than a bitchfest.

I think we all start with physical attributes, and if that passes the first test, we move on to their profile, will and won't do and other compatibility. And while I'm never going to hire SIMPLY on posts, after getting to know a little about providers here, I am much more likely to try and find time to see them should they be in my city. I find kindness and intelligence attractive. The providers that are afraid to come here because of criticism are likely the ones we should be avoiding anyway.

If this is true, you either hide it well or focus on the 1%. On these boards I once commented that I was happy to talk to providers to ensure them that I was real and give them a sense of comfort before meeting a stranger in a strange place (as I will not send a deposit) and you immediately interpreted that and accused me of just wanting free time and getting off on some phone sex. Neither is something I want, and I don't even ask for additional pictures. If that is your knee-jerk response, you can't convince me you have respect for potential clients. Maybe I'm wrong, you had a bad day, and will apologize, but I'm not holding my breath on that one.

That would be nonsense-ual.

No. It doesn't take time, and young people have nothing but time, if you look at the amount of time spent gaming and online. Not being afraid of being portrayed as a grumpy old man (I've been old since childhood), I can say what they don't have are the language skills to communicate intelligently. A generation of texting has removed that skill.