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I suppose if you have to in order to take an electric deposit? I was just surprised to see that my favorite provider texted me his flight confirmation (unsolicited) that included his name. I'm pleased that he trusts me. But I also worry about him (he's sweet, younger and maybe too trusting). Or is this not a big deal for you guys? No real risk with a regular? Or maybe it was just carelessness on his part. It made me happy to see, but I may be just reading too much into it.

I'd have to think that searching messages is much more common for providers. As a client, I can count my serious correspondence partners on one hand. But I agree that updated search items on rentmasseur.com would be nice, however it would tend to point out the obvious...more than massage is going on.

But if you wanted to add onions, I wouldn't assume the price stayed the same.

Be honest with both of them and see if they are into it. They should be flattered.

Maybe for you, but for many of us, we hire for the touch and intimacy. We wouldn't be hiring for weekends if we we're paying them to leave.

Nothing wrong with them, but not a value add for me. Just a few natural pics, smiling, shirtless, natural and a humble attitude in the text is all I need to see.

Im a little confused on this. A "legitimate" massage at a Hand and Stone, for example is between 80 and 130 for an hour. But I see rentmasseur often at 180+ and then adding on for extras. Am I missing something? Why would I pay extra for a potentially unlicensed massage if HE+ isn't part of the deal? The math isn't matching for me. Or is it assumed that the therapist will be nude or something, but I've seen people say they charge extra for that as well. Is a puzzlement.

If a provider's pics show a beard, I just move on. I wouldn't ask a bearded person to shave. My concern is when their pictures are one way and they present another. Or if they have pictures bearded and shaved, so I'd want to know what I'm getting. And just pass if they are bearded at present.

Easy pass. I pay cash. If he wants to send part of the massage in advance, I'll prepay for part.

I hope they'll be different. My first session with someone was really my first male interaction as an adult. Next time I will know more of what I want, and not be as cautious about asking for it. I expect it to be a much busier and fulfilling experience. Hopefully next month.

I agree with most of the "move on" crowd, but I think a simple text saying, "I'm truly sorry, and understand if you don't want to see me, but I'd love the chance to make it up to you." Then let it go. You've said your piece, and left the ball in his court if he wants to try again. Personally, I don't want the stress when hiring, but apparently this guy is worth it to you.

For me, it all depends on if they look like their pictures. Face it, this is a very visual business. Between photoshop, age-shaving, size-exaggerating, and apparently height exaggeration, there are many ways providers deceive us in order to get the booking. If they end up not looking like their pictures, I don't think you owe them a dime. Pay for their time? Seriously? They should pay for wasting yours. What if after the session you gave them money that didn't look like the currency you promised? Fair is fair. If someone's look changes dramatically (many tattoos, significant weight gain or loss, shaved their head) it is their responsibility to update their pictures. An Italian restaurant won't change to a Mexican menu without changing the signage and website. Providers want us to respect that this is a business for them, so we should respect that and expect that they behave like one as well. The difference is that in this business, the client has no recourse once he hands over the money.

So far I've had 4 encounters. 3 Rentmen; 1 Rentmasseur. The first 2 rentmen disappointed. The 3rd I'd love to hire again, but we aren't geographically close. The masseur I plan on going back to, but thus far I haven't had a second visit with anyone.

Could be a few things: 1) They could be an idiot 2) they are trying to find out if there are some things not included in that published rate that might be on the table 3) Most providers sadly put "ask" which shouldn't even be an option, so they don't bother clicking on rates any more. If everyone put a rate there, this probably wouldn't happen.

I'm not a fan of tattoos, but as long as they aren't on the face or covering half the neck, it's not a deal breaker.

As someone who likes the clean-cut, clean shaven look, I'm disappointed to see that the vast majority of providers are sporting beards. Is this just a new trend, or my imagination? Even when there is a profile of a clean cut guy. Half of his pictures show a beard, so you don't know what you'll get. Its certainly not my place to ask someone to shave, but is it tactful to ask, before booking, if they are still clean-shaven or will be for my appointment?

Great point. Reputable businesses LOVE when their customers talk to other people about their service. Scammers hate it. That's about all you need to know.

I tried to break in 2026 with a masseur I enjoyed once before, but he claimed to have missed my text after sending me his availability. He's been reaching out to me, so I know he wants a return engagement, so that was unfortunate. So I have nothing on the calendar this year, sadly, and no trips scheduled, which is when I usually book, so I'll be doing without for the time being.

I would assume most people don't tip providers. I hope they would just bend them over gently.

I think this is a point that hasn't been broached here yet. I've had many business lunches and dinners I didn't really want to go to, but went because it builds relationships. If one is serious about building a business, you should be ok doing some of this. There are worse things than having someone buy you dinner without charging an hourly rate.

Personally, I like when I see they are accepting of all ages and body types. I'm in the world of average plus a little weight, so I describe myself best I can so if they want to decline, flake, or ghost, I'm saving myself some disappointment. It's fine, good even, if they insist on cleanliness. Red flags are when they give discounts for younger guys, or mention any physical preferences of their own.

Strange.But it says log in two hours ago and a long time ago!? Just in different places

There are rent-a-friend websites where you can pay a fraction of what you would pay a sex worker if that's all you wanted. If you wanted to pay a particular guy because you find him attractive and it might lead to more, I think you should be prepared close to their going rate. If you truly want platonic friendships, rent one from a non-erotic site. I think after you have a relationship with a provider and you both enjoy each other's company, it's possible that the provider might enjoy a meal or event with you and have you just pick up the tab. Providers are people, just like clients. They aren't emotionless drones. They may be better able to avoid emotional attachment caused by sex, but their type of work gets to know you in a way that most of your friends even don't and that can be bonding in its own way.

You've also said you blocked those who havdn't given you a perfect rating. That sounds like a complaint about a client who wasn't 100% satisfied to me.

I got your answer, just not your logic. I'd like to hear other provider opinions as well, since it seems pretty much everything clients do upsets you from what I've read.