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At the end of the day, I try to encourage gays to explore other cities beyond just the LA, Houston, Miami, New York, Chicago, etc. places. Many of the big cities are just so ran thru. There’s 50 states, 48 contiguous. Although it’s not always the best nightlife/party options: some areas can still offer access to fun and everything else the bigger markets offer, but with less cost and competition. Montana and North/South Dakota maybe someday be the next Texas. They’ve got the size, but they don’t attract much in the way of gay or tourism. The weather obviously is a factor though. That said, I just recently met someone from Austin in a different state, and he was cool. I might have to visit again sometime.

I can see that. I’ve done a similar circuit back when I lived in the area. It’s not always as profitable as it seems unless can book longer sessions or overnights. Lot people/companies moving to Texas but it’s not the best kept secret it once was pre-2010s. It’s become the “new Florida/California” but it’s nothing like the 2. On a street level it might but the topography just doesn’t compare But…

Good idea about Mister Bnb. I have heard of it before but hadn’t yet used it. Sometimes though, I find hotels have their place because I may tend to change locations every day or 2. In Florida, I was “basing” in Orlando, but it was mostly nothing going on there with bookings other than my main regular. But it’s in the center of everything in central Florida so, it served its place. I know you mentioned Florida, Texas and California: which all are states with big metros, but the problem is all those places are highly competitive. Plus the “scams” have run those markets into obsoletion. While I was in Florida, I went out of my way to avoid most of the 4 main metros unless I had an invitation. I even spent last weekend in a fairly off the beaten path retirement community. I just don’t care for working the big cities as much anymore. I’ll go if I have an anchor or friends there, but they just aren’t as profitable because it’s so many guys trying to do the same thing in the big cities.. However I do understand much of the “in” crowd are based in the larger cities so I still leave myself open to visit them. But not all of them are suitable places for me to base. I was considering moving “back” to Dallas area last year, but after a couple trips of having 0 appointments, I decided I didn’t want to keep pushing with trying to squeeze money out of a turnip 🫜 , especially in a state that has penalized the P word I thought about trying out LA or San Diego for a year, but again: those are cities have an endless rotation. May be good to live in, but trying to visit for even a few days may not give enough time for a successful venture. Vegas reminds me of Orlando and the whole Disney theme, for adults. Which isn’t a bad thing but, I find they tend to have similar tendencies. Driving in/out of Vegas can feel like an island of its own though.

And to add another thing I’ve forgot to mention: although this doesn’t happen as often since I tend to book with advance notice only these days: Some guys who reach out to book when coming to their city, will do so but have an unreasonably narrow window of time to meet. Spending time to commute takes up time to get ready. And traffic is a big delay ever since the rebound from Covid. I ended up an hour and half late to an appointment few weeks ago due to traffic backed up for miles on my way. My regular was mad at me, but he is also chronically busy/short on time and only allotted a small window to see me, despite us planning days in advance, and knowing I was traveling from 150 miles away. Which I found kinda inconsiderate. If I’m extending my time to travel out of the way to their city and make it convenient, at least be willing to be patient. He tried to short me $100 because he could only stay for 40 minutes, I was like no sir. I have all evening and the next day to be available. I shouldn’t be penalized because you’re limited on time, especially when I was already 700 miles from my home base. Also some have mentioned traveling with another companion to split expenses. However though it sounds like a idea: I can’t see that happening for me unless I were commuting different vehicles and maybe even booking separate rooms. Which in that case, would completely defeat the purpose. I tried that with a friend a couple months ago: he booked a hotel room and told me he would be hooking up with someone for an hour. It turned into 2-3 hours. I almost thought he got murdered in the room because he wasn’t answering his phone either. The idea of having to leave the room, while my travel companion gets their freak on, is a no for me 👎🏾 I’ve tried it other times, and it rarely works for me unless it’s non escort friends and even then: it usually becomes outcalls only while me and friends share hotel/air bnb. Which might mean 50% less opportunity.

**This isn’t a question or advice. Just discussing the oft sought after strategy of traveling ** I’ve been experience with touring for a while now. Over a decade to be precise. The “escort definition” of touring is: Spending a week or 2 or even WEEKS/MONTHS going between a predetermined hub of cities, staying anywhere from 2-5 days at a time, before going onto the next destination, and covering ground to hit several areas. I know many up and coming escorts out there often highly interested in the traveling lifestyle. And I do feel it’s become ingrained in the American escort culture to advertise in and travel to different cities. Yes it can be lucrative and help to get exposure that may be hard to do staying in the same city. However, there’s a side to it that can become monotonous. For one, the main thing is the costs involved. Having a hotel is almost a must because many clients may not be able to host. Even if they can, I still need a place to sleep. I have used every discount hack available for booking hotels, including 3rd party and loyalty to a few brands. It doesn’t matter because at the end of the day, it’s still money being spent. The only way to really “beat” the hotel game is to have a friend or relative to bunk with and either do outcalls or book a room on select days. However, therein lies another potential issue: Trying to maintain reliable connections out of state where you may not know people or only see them sparingly: has also provided to be a challenge. I have done trips to some cities, even my current trip: thinking that I could rely on a friend or 2 to stay with. Only to get there, and they either aren’t available to host after all or they only want to offer a limited time that’s not sufficient for what is needed. And of course, non of them are ever okay with having clients over. Then I’m back to the hotel money pit, spending more than anticipated. The other thing is, it seems like almost every trip: there’s some news that gets released. And we may think it doesn’t affect, but it does. Even if for a couple or few days. This past couple years, I’ve had to endure everything from stock market crashes to new wars starting. Above all, the client bookings just aren’t coming in like they used to. I don’t necessarily want to see clients everyday, and definitely not multiple times a day: but I can’t go 3-4 days without a client and not start losing money. Except there’s one issue: I can’t stop traveling all together because my “base” market (which really isn’t even that, just a purgatory in between waiting to travel lol) has already become over saturated with advertisers. Plus it’s conservative and the men in the area either don’t want to pay, or they only want to pay $150. Which is not sustainable. What I have considered: relocating all together and keeping trips to within a day away. Or I can continue to tour further away, but only go places where I have friends at. However, even that’s dwindling. It’s been so many times I’ve made arrangements to stay at friend’s place for a couple/few days, and it turns into drama. I’m just tired of having to rely on half ass people, but some cities the hotel prices are so high: there’s no other way to go unless that option is available. I’m considering using rent a room by the week options going forward. But those could have the added drawback of not being able to host I would imagine. And if I’m losing money by not hosting, whatever I saved is essentially lost. So idk, it’s hard to say exactly how I’ll do it. I know there’s a couple clients here on the board who are wanting me to visit their cities, but it’s these type of challenges that have hindered my desire to want to make the journey. Unfortunately when visiting a town for a short period, sometimes the only fast and safe way to meet other gays are the hookup apps: besides going to a nightclub (which is more money and no guarantee of finding someone supportive of the biz). But the hookup apps are always people looking for just that. They aren’t reliable for anything else usually.

California consistently has the highest gas prices. Chicago area is also bad for it. But the prices in California are sickening. Every couple or so years, they break headlines 📰 for hitting the $7-8-9 mark somewhere I remember one trip, I put $50 and only got half a tank. When normally, $50 fills the tank when it’s $3/gallon or less.

I just left Florida this week: I was doing a whole lot of driving, but 100-150 miles to the next city beats the distance between cities in the Midwest. But the prices were $4 when I arrived 3 weeks ago, then they went down when it seemed T gave an “extension”. But then it went right back up again after the latest news 🤦🏽‍♂️ like I literally got 3/4 tank for $3.79 in one town, used it up driving to another city, came back and the next day went to refill it jumped to $4.17 😤 Below is a Circle K station in Orlando. The prices were about the same everywhere. What really gets me isn’t just the high price, but why is midgrade and premium running 50-90 cents more??? There’s not supposed to be much “noticeable” difference but regular is cheaper for a reason. But midgrade is about the most I been doing, buying premium feels like an insult

This is all reminiscent of the most recent case similar to this that happened in Detroit. Also somewhat similar to the “Ketamine Queen” story as well. I think the real moral of the story is, practice safe boundaries. Doesn’t mean be cold and distant towards providers, but make sure it’s transparent. Unfortunately, too many out here in the industry and the “come up” gay scene in general are greedy and unethical. They are relatively easy to pick up on after awhile, if not sooner than later.

I much rather that be the case. But when some come saying straight up ASSinine things, just to be funny and try to hush someone up and detract from their message without even knowing the reality: it’s hard to keep it cordial. At the same time I’m not really too phased about someone who actually leads themselves to believe this is true: ⬇️ Lol, that cracked me up. If you were an escort? Why not go ahead and be one, if you think you can do it better. What’s your age? You probably still have time…go ahead and try it out. Put a RentMen ad up, see how many inquires you sort thru to get your first client, and report back 😆 My 🔮 says you’re bluffing and projecting 😉

It’s not “proving” my success as I really don’t have to. I’m going along with the discussion showing: it’s one thing to “talk about” something, and another thing to actually be able to show otherwise. If someone wants to come on here and say how 2 hours notice is unreasonable, and I need a new career and I’m unhappy: I’m happy to show that there’s clients willing to abide by that. Not everybody is hell bent fixed on making escort’s schedule difficult, by being a pain in the ass like the one below ⬇️ I’m going to explain it to you like a 3 year old, since you seem to be a bit “slow to catch” and “misinformed” of how things work. For you and the people in the back: #1: I know people personally (including someone here) who don’t take same day appointments. Why not? That’s their personal business. It’s a lot of reasons why, they may have a partner that they can’t just constantly back out on plans. They may have family, another responsibilities, whatever the case may be. It’s not up to you to “wonder why”. Just simply fall in line. It’s not rocket science. #2: I’ve said it elsewhere before and it’s pretty clear in my ads: I may not even be in the same neighborhood or city, as the person who reaches out to me. You even said it and contradicted yourself: “Obviously if he wanted me to drive to see him, I would appreciate being allowed some common sense when it comes to driving time, distance, etc.” Now, you can’t pick and choose what’s sensible and define what is common sense when it comes to driving time/distance for each individual person. It could be 10 minutes for one person, an hour for another, 3 hours for another. Some of my clients live in towns that take 2 hours just to drive to. It’s a fact: most clients I find where I reside and in certain cities, all seem to be around the same area of downtown or the convention center: Which takes me at least an hour to get to because: NOT EVERY ESCORT LIVES IN A STEREOTYPICAL DOWNTOWN APARTMENT AND UBERS. Even the RentMen city listings, often showing the major metro area, is likely not where everyone lives. If that’s not enough for you, there’s plenty other references that talk about needing notice, that other escorts have taken the time to discuss elsewhere on the online world. Educate yourself, and maybe you wouldn’t look so ignorant and gaslight someone’s preferences to mere “complaining”. AND AND AND There you go. Question answered. Now, please take it for what it is. I’m not just answering for you, I’m answering for everybody who asks the same thing.

You mean like having business hours? That’s anywhere 🥴 But does it look like I’m having a hard time setting healthy boundaries for when I feel is best to be in the privacy of another person 🤔

The thing is, just because I may want to trade advice or talk about things that may be frustrating within the industry: does not equate to unhappiness. This is where you and some others are misinterpreting and taking it out of context. If you prefer escorts shut up and put up, just admit that’s what you prefer. If you can’t handle us talking about things that could be improved in the industry: remember you don’t have to read what I post. There’s 100s of threads here, why circle around mine and work yourself up ❌

You don’t have to make it make sense to me. I already know which feels better to me, and in my opinion: I feel better after a session with a client, than a “hookup”. I just made a thread about it the other week. One of my hookups, he promised to cook breakfast, made it seem like we had so much chemistry: but then the next morning he was more interested in going to Costco and keeping it “quiet” for his roommate. On top of that, we didn’t even exchange numbers 🤦🏽‍♂️ But he was talking about his boyfriend in Michigan, so I figured he’d give it to me if he desired to. I did disclose my escort status to him, but he wasn’t interested in paying. But his body, dick and ass had me 😵‍💫 so I kinda just allowed myself to enjoy it. But afterwards, I kinda wish I hadn’t done it. And the very next day I had a client who gave me $500. So it’s like, I spent unnecessary “energy” on someone who didn’t care to keep in touch, but then got $$$ from a client who now wants to be a regular.

He just posted a screenshot the other day saying he blocked me, he knows what he’s doing. He’s trying to talk behind my back, while simultaneously blocking me. Which goes to show the type of character he is. So he can gladly block me, and do both us a favor. As for you, you keep making hypothetical statements. You seem stuck on the premise that I alone have these plans, and don’t have anyone to answer to. And then throwing in I don’t have a 9-5 job, which is supposed to mean I’m always free 😆 Would you break your plans for an escort? If that escort reached out to you and let you know he was available? Don’t lie 🤥 because I already know…based on many interactions with clients and gay dudes in general, that it’s a no. So don’t try to come in my face with that double standard. You need to do some real life assessment, versus trying to assume how someone else’s life that you know nothing about, or how anything works. And I don’t shop at Costco, but thanks for suggesting something you clearly know nothing about ☝

What the hell does selling my time and company have to do with how much notice I need? And bottom or dress in drag, are you stereotyping? Question: would you just show up to your friend’s or family home with no notice? Is that something that’s a norm in your “circle”? And don’t say “it’s different”, because it’s not. I was with a client the other day, and his mother and niece were about to come over WHILE I WAS THERE. He was like, hell NO. I need a couple hours, I just woke up 😆