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I would never ask a pro to cover his tatts. If I found his tatts unacceptable, I just wouldn't hire him. I really dislike tatts on the neck, face, and head and I just wouldn't hire a guy who had them. I think it's so weird when someone who doesn't like tatts just doesn't move on. They are driven to turn it into a cause and seem to take it as a personal offense that someone is tattooed. When I was a little boy, I was completely taken by men who were tattooed and my mother told me that there was something seriously wrong with guys who had tatts. Even then, though, she never felt she had to share her disapproval with any of them.

I used to be a competitive bodybuilder. I had a terrible time, during competitions, with my spray tan starting to look patchy later in the day. I would look great early in the day just after it was applied, but as the day progressed it started to look patchy and I would have to have touch-ups, which wasn't a very good solution at all. One of the women told me that women tended to be very conscientious about skin care - exfoliating and applying moisturizing lotion regularly - and had no problems like I was having. I started doing that - moisturizing lotion head to toe - every day and exfoliating 2-3 times a week. Problem solved. My skin looked great all the time and the problem with spray tan looking patchy completely went away.

Roger Sterling is the hero of all service professionals : "This would be a great business if it weren't for the clients."

Glad to know that.

My issue isn't with hotel meetups - I like a change of scenery, and the ambience of a room in a nice hotel. But so often, the very people who insist on the hotel cancel at the last minute or they no show. I lose my half of the cost of the room, and I don't get to meet this guy who I was looking forward to having a nice time with. It has happened to me so frequently that as soon as somebody brings up getting together at a hotel, I just say no thanks - I will host, but I don't do hotel meetups. They are so fixated on hotel sex that they say something like,"I'm not comfortable with that, " or "I've had bad experiences being hosted." Or they want to know why I don't do hotel meetups and they say something like, "I promise I will show." It's a weird thing - I'm trying to understand it. It just seems like they are scamming or something, but if that's true, there are easier ways to make a a couple hundred dollars.

I also happens on whatsapp. Same story - fired up for a hotel meetup where we split costs, but no interest in being hosted

I haven't ever found physical contact with a doctor to be erotic -the contact is so brief and the setting is so non-conducive that it just would never work for me.

It happened again yesterday. Great-looking guy on A4A. We were chatting nicely; I told him I would enjoy having him over, he agreed, we chatted some more and then, "Why don't we get a hotel room together. We can split the cost and just take it easy and really enjoy other." I said "I don't do hotel meetups." Of course he tried to talk me into it. Finally, i said "I will host you at my place. If that doesn't work for you, I guess we're done." He closed with the namaste emoji.

This is a little off-topic because it involves hookups in general not just with providers. I have noticed more and more that guys I meet on A4A think we HAVE to meet in a hotel - It's non-negotiable. The arrangement is that you split the cost of the room. I like hotel sex, so I used to be OK with it. I have encountered, over and over, that guys often no-show or they cancel, so I'm out for my share of the room charge and I'm disappointed at yet another hookup gone south. It is such a problem that I won't meet up with a guy who insists on a hotel room. I have a nice, spacious house that is always clean and neat and I'm happy to host, but I have encountered a steady stream of guys who feel that they have to have a hotel room. I have gotten so that the minute a guy mentions a hotel room, I say "no thanks." Is this a general thing, or is it specific to A4A, or just to this area (Bay Area).

Inflation and higher prices is a mofo for everyone. Providers raise, partly because every thing costs them more, just line anyone else. But , just at the wrong time, a lot of providers are also raising rates just because. Clients have less disposable income and so aren't spending. Inflation sucks for everyone. Additional inflation could work in providers' favor. In the late 70s - early 80s, inflation was bad enough that people were resorting to spending their money quickly, before it lost value. That could be a good thing for providers.

Exactly. I try to manage my expectations, reminding myself "Ok, you're just here for a massage." But when he starts to take little liberties - I know it likely will be more, often a lot more.

I like uncertainty. I like to hire for a therapeutic massage and see where it goes. Sometimes it really is a therapeutic massage, so I certainly haven't lost out. But often, it turns into the full monty.

I love it. I like to go deep on a loose hole. I like to go deep on a tight hole, but I wear out faster.

I Several years ago, I went to Germany for an intensive German course at the Goethe Institut. I was amazed at how rapidly I improved when immersed in the language.

I would definitely look him up if I were in Denver.