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I would never ask a pro to cover his tatts. If I found his tatts unacceptable, I just wouldn't hire him. I really dislike tatts on the neck, face, and head and I just wouldn't hire a guy who had them. I think it's so weird when someone who doesn't like tatts just doesn't move on. They are driven to turn it into a cause and seem to take it as a personal offense that someone is tattooed. When I was a little boy, I was completely taken by men who were tattooed and my mother told me that there was something seriously wrong with guys who had tatts. Even then, though, she never felt she had to share her disapproval with any of them.

I used to be a competitive bodybuilder. I had a terrible time, during competitions, with my spray tan starting to look patchy later in the day. I would look great early in the day just after it was applied, but as the day progressed it started to look patchy and I would have to have touch-ups, which wasn't a very good solution at all. One of the women told me that women tended to be very conscientious about skin care - exfoliating and applying moisturizing lotion regularly - and had no problems like I was having. I started doing that - moisturizing lotion head to toe - every day and exfoliating 2-3 times a week. Problem solved. My skin looked great all the time and the problem with spray tan looking patchy completely went away.

Roger Sterling is the hero of all service professionals : "This would be a great business if it weren't for the clients."

Glad to know that.

My issue isn't with hotel meetups - I like a change of scenery, and the ambience of a room in a nice hotel. But so often, the very people who insist on the hotel cancel at the last minute or they no show. I lose my half of the cost of the room, and I don't get to meet this guy who I was looking forward to having a nice time with. It has happened to me so frequently that as soon as somebody brings up getting together at a hotel, I just say no thanks - I will host, but I don't do hotel meetups. They are so fixated on hotel sex that they say something like,"I'm not comfortable with that, " or "I've had bad experiences being hosted." Or they want to know why I don't do hotel meetups and they say something like, "I promise I will show." It's a weird thing - I'm trying to understand it. It just seems like they are scamming or something, but if that's true, there are easier ways to make a a couple hundred dollars.

I also happens on whatsapp. Same story - fired up for a hotel meetup where we split costs, but no interest in being hosted

I haven't ever found physical contact with a doctor to be erotic -the contact is so brief and the setting is so non-conducive that it just would never work for me.

It happened again yesterday. Great-looking guy on A4A. We were chatting nicely; I told him I would enjoy having him over, he agreed, we chatted some more and then, "Why don't we get a hotel room together. We can split the cost and just take it easy and really enjoy other." I said "I don't do hotel meetups." Of course he tried to talk me into it. Finally, i said "I will host you at my place. If that doesn't work for you, I guess we're done." He closed with the namaste emoji.

This is a little off-topic because it involves hookups in general not just with providers. I have noticed more and more that guys I meet on A4A think we HAVE to meet in a hotel - It's non-negotiable. The arrangement is that you split the cost of the room. I like hotel sex, so I used to be OK with it. I have encountered, over and over, that guys often no-show or they cancel, so I'm out for my share of the room charge and I'm disappointed at yet another hookup gone south. It is such a problem that I won't meet up with a guy who insists on a hotel room. I have a nice, spacious house that is always clean and neat and I'm happy to host, but I have encountered a steady stream of guys who feel that they have to have a hotel room. I have gotten so that the minute a guy mentions a hotel room, I say "no thanks." Is this a general thing, or is it specific to A4A, or just to this area (Bay Area).

Inflation and higher prices is a mofo for everyone. Providers raise, partly because every thing costs them more, just line anyone else. But , just at the wrong time, a lot of providers are also raising rates just because. Clients have less disposable income and so aren't spending. Inflation sucks for everyone. Additional inflation could work in providers' favor. In the late 70s - early 80s, inflation was bad enough that people were resorting to spending their money quickly, before it lost value. That could be a good thing for providers.

Exactly. I try to manage my expectations, reminding myself "Ok, you're just here for a massage." But when he starts to take little liberties - I know it likely will be more, often a lot more.

I like uncertainty. I like to hire for a therapeutic massage and see where it goes. Sometimes it really is a therapeutic massage, so I certainly haven't lost out. But often, it turns into the full monty.

I love it. I like to go deep on a loose hole. I like to go deep on a tight hole, but I wear out faster.

I Several years ago, I went to Germany for an intensive German course at the Goethe Institut. I was amazed at how rapidly I improved when immersed in the language.

I would definitely look him up if I were in Denver.

I made my first visit to PS early this year and went again in April. It has really gotten under my skin. I don't do much - sit by the hotel pool and chat, read, go out for little walks, etc. but it feels very salutary. I'm going back for a 3rd time in October with my husband.

Attitudes have changed a lot on this since my younger days. Everybody now is fanatic about being squeaky clean - there are all kinds of videos on youtube about cleaning out, the right diet for a bottom, products for cleaning out, etc. It used to be seen as part of the territory - that it was unavoidable to an extent - you just freshen up and everybody gets over it.

If we're meeting in a nice hotel, I like to order lunch from room service

I don't have any problem using up two hours in just this way. A few months ago, I hired a wonderful Brazilian guy for my usual 2 hours. I didn't extend but I Iiked the guy so much that I could easily see a a longer appointment and/or maybe an overnight.

About the only recipe characteristic of the 70s was quiche. Most of the others are 50s-60s standards that kept turning up at family picnics and in the school cafeteria. The foods I find characteristic of the 70's were bland boring vegetarian dishes and granola. 70's granola was superb. I lived in Colorado at the time and there was a brand, manufactured right in the state called "Early Bird" granola. that was terrific.

I'm the same, I don't care

I never talk with providers about their other clients because (1) i'm not that interested and (2) I don't want to pressure the provider or encourage him to say things about other clients that he may regret or feel guilty about. There is one provider that I am quite friendly with and once with him I broke my own rule by asking him if he had any difficult clients. My respect for him was already high, but it went into the stratosphere when he answered. He answered "of course some clients are difficult, but I always remind myself that everybody is different." He didn't blow me off or make me feel awkward and he didn't say a single bad thing about any of his other clients. Afterwards, I felt bad for giving into the impulse and I really admired the grace with which he delivered his non-answer.

You don't know where she lives, but yes, no matter where she lives, she should certainly have a roommate. A colleague of mine, very well-known and respected in her profession, lived a nice life: single woman, nice house in Palo Alto, regular European travel, great car, etc. etc. Then, she came down with fibromyalgia and was so sick that she couldn't work anymore. It was a bitter pill, but she took in a roommate, cut out the European vacations, and cut out all the luxuries, etc.. What was particularly unfortunate was the the way the whole ordeal changed her. This strong confident woman became really whiny and self-pitying and difficult to be around. The illness and all the adjustments she had to make must have cratered her self-esteem.

According to the number above. I'm at the high end of being upper middle class. It just kind of happened - I never really had a plan, but I've lived sort of a charmed life - right place, right time sort or thing. Part of the right-place, right-time thing is that I've had some great mentors who told me where to go or what to do at some critical times and things just worked out. 35 years ago, when I first moved to San Francisco, at the gym one day, I was chatting with an older guy who lived in one of those spectacular houses on Buena Vista, just below Buena Vista Park. I asked him how he had managed to buy a place like that. He shrugged his shoulders and "Nothing special, really. Things just worked out." So, 35 years later, I have the same story.

And almost all of them are, but there is the occasional bad apple who is unusually resourceful at making improper use of the information you share. I don't lie to providers, I use my own name, but I definitely don't overshare with a guy who I don't know well.