PhileasFogg

I deleted my comment so his would be erased as well

I think confidence says more than aesthetics

One of my favorite stories here. You’ll see my experience several posts in and, if I recall, another member recounted a similar experience

No need to defend yourself to me. My comment is a general one

That was back when higher education taught you what you needed to know to think and not to just get a job. Having met you, I’d surmise that your school taught you well

As I think we’ve established, this post isn’t about relationship fidelity but rather provider honesty/integrity and the implication to clients who accept their representations at face value

I did not know that. Thank you! To clarify - you’re referring to ART effectiveness? If so, like birth control, cited effectiveness rates have to do with proper use (on time, daily, no antibiotics, etc). Might the lowered effectiveness of ART be based on similar careless administration by the patient? If so, I’d argue my stated concern is valid…if not, I need to research more to enhance my understanding.

If the real Elvis looked like that in the 70’s, he would have lived out the rest of the century

@SirBillybob, I agree. while we all acknowledge need to own our responsibility for our own health, there is still question that relates to all the “it’s #1” responses Assuming someone is Undetectable but not forthcoming: U=U until it doesn’t. We make a presumption that they are sticking with the protocols. Life style choices - including addiction or travel - may interfere and put uninfected partners at risk. While I’m protecting myself, if I have doubt about their adherence to protocols, that might affect my decision to engage IMO, this is multi dimensional and true ownership of self protection includes trust AND verification. I don’t add that in counterpoint, but to bring this back to my initial question.

So the implication is that the partner was not monogamous?

That’s outstanding insight! I’m fanning myself with all that dirty talk too🤓: I think vitiates just became my word of the day 😉

It’s not my thing…maybe google it?

Then that sounds awfully low

Is he quoting you for house cleaning?

Funny how human behavior conflicts with theory sometimes, right??? 🤪