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Give an idea of what a client could expect from the inner barbarian.

I see. If he were exceptional, I might give him a try.

You're extraordinary. I think you should beef up your profile - it's kind of perfunctory.

I've been seeing that word in profiles and didn't know what it meant. So "side" means they're doing sex work as a side hussle. If I liked them, I don't know why I wouldn't hire them. If they were new to it, I would be surprised if they wanted top dollar, but that would be my only issue.

More of mindset adjustment - it's much more efficient than self-hypnosis.

If money is tight, I do without and I console myself with that saying, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

I may have to start thinking about these issues. After 20+ years in this game, I have met a guy I'm thinking about an overnight or a weekend with. He kind of got underneath my skin.

I guess this shows us that these things need to be negotiated in advance. Disappearing for hours at a time suggests that the provider lacks the attention span for anything longer than an overnight.

Boundaries - he didn't show and he didn't contact you, so if you have anything more to do with him it is AYOR, knowing that his word isn't always good.

Boundaries, boundaries. If you are confident in your ability to maintain boundaries, why not hire him? You know him, you like him.

Good guys are there for you - it's all about you. Maybe for a couple hours you could lay aside the idea that you're bothering them and allow yourself to enjoy their attention.

I have an IG buddy who lives in Kuwait - an Arab. He says he plays around with guys in the locker room in the gym.

I, personally, am very curious about the UAE and Dubai in particular. My bodybuilding coach is from the UK but is currently living and working in Dubai. He went there to deliberately expose himself to the competitive, sink-or-swim business environment there. I used to think that, if you could succeed in New York, you could succeed anywhere. Maybe Dubai is the new New York. Not long ago, I listened to a youtube vid from a young guy who lives there now. He said it's very stimulating with no end of things to do. He also said that it is curiously lonely because nobody there is from there and nobody there is planning on staying.

He's going down that Tina rabbithole. The most tragic example of this I have ever witnessed was a buddy in the army. He had been a combat medic in Viet Nam - a decorated war hero - combat medic's badge, silver star, bronze star... A sweet guy, everyone liked him, but he couldn't leave the Tina alone. He was given chance after chance to clean his act up - they didn't want to discipline him because of his war history; hospitalized time after time to treat the ill effects of the drug abuse. Eventually, though, he ended up with an unfitness discharge, busted all the way down to the lowest possible enlisted rank. I believe the unfitness discharge, at least, still qualified him for veterans' benefits.

Piss top - means he likes to pee on you and maybe have you swallow. Massage gun - You know those things you see people using stiff or sore spots in the gym. I guess he's willing to use his on you.

The more clearly explain what you're looking for, the better the chance is that you will get what you are looking for.

I've never understood it - I've wondered if there was some hidden meaning that I wasn't in on. If I was really taken with the guy, I wouldn't let it stop me from contacting him, but it seems silly and unnecessary.

He's one of those guys who is so thick that your molars scrape the sides of his dick when you give him head.

He knocked my socks off. Can't recommend him highly enough.

Blurred boundaries like that can end up biting you in the ass.

I don't have any. If the first impression is good, I hire him. I look at photos, I read his profile, don't pay too much attention to reviews. I categorically don't hire guys who advertise outrageously high rates. I have had, by and large, great experiences with massage guys. A couple misses, but that's to be expected.

20% used to be a generous tip. I don't think it's become the new standard, but a 20% tip doesn't impress the way it used to. Having been in the hospitality business, I like to tip servers well. I solve the dilemma by adding a couple dollars over 20%. If the service was outstanding - I tip 25%. And as a way of flirting, young men who have given great service, are friendly, and are easy on the eyes get absurdly high of tips 30-50%. By the same token, enchanting young women who have given exceptional service also get huge tips.

I don't think tipping is ever bad form, even with people who you are not supposed to have to tip. I'm an IP attorney - I doubt whether most clients would ever consider tipping me. Yet, I had a young client, who, when he paid his bill, would include a tip. I was a little bemused at the extra 100.00 or so that he added to the bill, but I wasn't insulted and I appreciated having some found money I could use to take my husband to lunch. I think people who fret about whether tipping is "appropriate" or not are just looking for a reason not to tip. That said, if you can't afford to tip, providers should just accept that some clients can't or won;'t tip. Even without the tip, several hundred dollars an hour isn't peanuts.

Youre going out an a date? Dress however you always dress on a date and be mindful of what's appropriate for the venue. You should wear whatever makeup you like.

You also would have been jailbait.