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My issue is the requirement for picture and ID…especially ID. I’ve found age issues are negotiable often.

My first crush was Italian. He messed up my gaydar – as do many Italians! cf. Mateo Lane* on that! *Does he have a thread here? Totally needed if not!

When I see an ad like this, especially with the very last bit, I say, “pass.” Add to that the guy’s 40 according to his ad. At least he’s (likely!) honest.

Interesting. I’ve contacted and share. I have no reason not to. 🤷🏼‍♂️

If I see any again, I’ll be sure to post here ✅

Well, that’s a ringing endorsement!

I will give a deposit if I get a good vibe. And sense of a bad vibe, nope. I’ve been screwed over giving money up front more than once. No more.

FWIW, he changes profiles a lot on RM, with different but often similar names. He also uses the same pictures. As I said, caveat emptor…

Because it’s just about scamming guys for him. I was a victim of that. He’s the reason I’m very cautious about paying anything before meeting.

I’ve actually had some terrible experiences trying to book ahead. And some folks on this site have also tried explain to me why it was my fault for wanting to book ahead. I prefer to book ahead for two reasons, among many. 1) I’m a planner and need to accommodate work schedules and 2) I need to also have a cushion financially. It’s point 2) right now that’s kept me from hiring for a few months now…Health bills are real…

As a client, I have an unwritten rule, among many: if the provider talks about himself a lot, or has a way of turning what you say back to himself, he’s not a rehire. I deal with enough narcissists in my daily life to pay a guy who should catering to my whims to have to play therapist or cheerleader for him. I’m not paying to please his ego.

I wish more providers did this. Even when you tell some providers what you like right before you meet, they act cluelessly when you do get together. Either they weren’t paying attention, or worse and more likely, don’t care.

Armadillo skin! 😂

Nobody loves you when you're old. You could just say that. Of course “nobody” is hyperbolic, but the point is there. People value youth and vitality. Even loved ones will forget you when you no longer serve the same relational benefits as you once did. Put someone in a nursing home, and it gets even worse. Nursing homes are simply geriatric prisons.

Thesis: the most genuine providers don’t charge a fortune and don’t bean count. Genuine for this purpose means honest, truthful, well mannered, and sincere, with an air of politeness and interpersonal awareness that aren’t forced. Let’s keep the discussion civil. It can evolve as it goes along, but I request that moderators remove or censor any remotely ad hominem responses toward forum members. Let’s stay “on topic,” as it were. The topic doesn’t involve calling each other names, calling into question someone’s intelligence, or calling anyone anything disparaging, even remotely. Politics and religion aren’t not allowed.