Mark_fl

I've had the opposite experience, actually. I wasn't even sure I was interested in kissing another man, but every escort I hired initiated it. Now it is something I enjoy and expect. One, while we were showering asked me if I kissed, and I honestly said I didn't know. The last one, when I asked him what he enjoyed, he said kissing was pretty much the top of his list, and it was very nice with him. So now I guess it's something I'm into. Who knew!

Reached out on RM. Quoted me $350 for the hour. He's beautiful, but that's a bit steep.

Should absolutely ask for what you want. Mine are very ticklish and I don't want them touched until I'm ready to finish, and then it will bring me over the edge. Even them I don't want them touched until I want to finish.

A face pic is a ridiculous request. I will say if there is something unusual about you that could be shocking or a turn-off, it would be wise to let them know in advance, for both of your sakes. You won't feel rejected and he won't have to hide a shock. Personally, I'm VERY hairy. I know it's not that abnormal, but I do let them know. It's never been a problem, but one provider told me I was the hairiest guy he'd ever seen. ;). I think it's just courtesy. If it's a real turn off for him (as it would be for me), he can politely decline.

If you tell us what your disappointments were, we can be of more help. Without that information, I would say that after you filter down the guys you physically like, read profiles and text them. See who seems friendly and wants to please you vs. those who autoreply with rates and nothing else, have rigid rules and act like they're doing you a favor.

I've had buyers remorse 2 of the 4 times when choosing a shorter session. Both providers disappointed me. One wasn't professional, and the other seemed perfunctory and watched the clock. The two overnight sessions I had were great, so maybe for me being able to take my time, relax, and not just feel like one and done help. The other two short sessions were good, but even those disappointed in a way. One didn't do what we discussed and claimed he didn't see the text. The other seemed to have reservations on the second visit doing what he did on the first visit, kind of like he offered things to get me to come back. But mostly now I know what I want and need to have in order to have a good time, so I'll be more clear when screening and lean toward fewer meets, but when I'm able to spend the night.

No kids. No real close family except my dad, who is 88, and really wouldn't care. Not worth the effort of getting a second phone number.

Agreed. Its a warning about professionalism. And just like we have many red flags to scare us off providers, providers do the same. Providers asking for deposits are either scammers or don't have the skills to screen customers in other ways and must resort to deposits

Why do you think, "I pay cash" is a concern? Its an escort site where you are paying for time. Some form of payment has to be legal. Why not cash?

Not that I know. Maybe I'm selective, maybe because of my communication, or most likely my profile clearly states I pay cash, but I've never been asked for one. It's also entirely possible that they read I pay cash, realize that means no deposit, and don't respond to my query. Which is good. Saves us from an uncomfortable position.

They've already vanished for me. That said, I would never ask a provider that didn't know me to travel even an hour, let alone fly. Also, in lieu of a deposit, I will have a phone call, video call, whatever to show to him I'm real. If there was a way for him to confirm with a previous provider I've seen that I am what I say I am, I'd authorize that as well. If every client refused deposits unless the provider was having to go out of pocket or drive an hour or more, then yes, this issue would go away.

I'm done with this conversation now. You can have the last word. Your failure to comprehend the argument does not mean it isn't there.

Apparently I was right not to be optimistic. 😉

Certainly, although I'm not optimistic. The risk of not having necessary heart surgery is generally death or worse. The risk of not sending a deposit is that you can't lose your deposit. Or worst case scenario you have to find provider that trusts you as much as you trust him. Hardly apples to apples.

Hopefully you see the flaw in your own logic. If not, there is nothing I can say to enlighten you.

I can think of a way to reduce that risk to 0.0%

Yes, just like the city situation I described. You seemed to understand what I said yet completely missed the point.

This is silly. Using this logic, the most crime-ridden city in the world would be deemed safe since there are more incidents of people not getting mugged than getting mugged. That doesn't make anti-deposit sentiment "hysteria." It makes it common sense.

Anyone experience this guy? I found an old thread of him in St. Louis, but seemingly no takers.

A lot has to do with the elimination of shame in society. With the acceptance of single parenting as a choice, we have a second generation of kids whose parent(s) didn't have a parent at home because they had to work, and often had no father figure to speak of. Combine that with schools that can't discipline kids and get rewarded for graduating kids who can't even read, and it's no mystery why this generation is largely not capable of being functional adults. Its by no means just their fault, but it doesn't change the fact that some day they will have to face a reality check.

Many people think the drawer under the oven is for storage, when it's really a warming area to keep cooked foods warm. Maybe that can help.

If these kids are all right, we're all in big trouble.

Sure, but you have to start with a full time job and maybe a roommate. I've seen video after video of 20 somethings whining about how horrible it is to be expected to work 40 hours a week and how it kills their free time. And that is what you think is ready for life?

Handjob is a happy ending. Blowjob is a VERY happy ending.

Yes and no. Their concept of the "real world of today" isn't real. At some point they'll have to actually work and move out of their parents house. They aren't ready to be self-sufficient.