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Well I would imagine they usually don't pay much income tax either so it should even out. 😉

I wouldn't pay an Uber for a plumber or any other service job that comes to me to work, and I wouldn't pay a deposit for the same reason. Show up, get paid. That said, If I was requesting someone fly in, it would be very reasonable to do so. HOWEVER, if this wasn't a regular, I would insist on purchasing the ticket (likely refundable) myself, which would obviously require a level of trust having to know the real name, which is unlikely to happen. Just encountered too many flakes and heard stories of others to lay out cash on trust. I also fully understand why a provider would insist on a deposit, but personally I'm not that desperate to hire.

I'm confused by this post. I think it would depend on WHY you didn't finish and why were you disappointed. We're you physically not able despite his best efforts? Were you busy cuddling and never got more intense? You said pacing was off, but he went over time. Did you do anything to move things along? You knew when time was almost up. Maybe he wasn't clear on what you wanted and was waiting for you to tell him? Was this your first time with him? Did you discuss in advance what you wanted? Sorry, but I have more questions than answers.

Your need to comment on my post at all says otherwise, but if it helps you cope, go right ahead. I'm done with this conversation, so if you want the last word, have at it.

Thanks, but if I need your help, I'll be sure to ask for it. Things turn me off on women as well. I guess I just fear everyone. Sorry, but if I hit a nerve, I'm not the one who needs help dealing.

When I hire, I want a masculine gay guy. I like women, and if I wanted feminine, I'd find one. Nothing turns me off a profile quicker than a thong, drag, or someone bending over showing me a gaping hole. I want a regular guy who happens to be gay.

I don't think anyone really wants a straight guy. They want a straight acting guy to do gay stuff with them and maybe act like it's their first time with a guy...but they want them to get into it, so at the very least they want a bi guy. Perhaps some might want a straight guy who closes his eyes and imagines it's a girl, but I'd have to think that's more rare.

I also think as prices go up, I'm less likely to take a chance with someone who doesn't check all my boxes from the get-go. More likely to stick with a known quality.

I don't think this rule has anything to do with xenophobia or the quality of service. But 90% of our dissatisfaction, whether it be about services offered, agreed payments, or setting up meetings are directly related to failed communication. If someone doesn't clearly understand what I'm asking for or what our timing/plans are, it's a recipe for disaster.

My feeling is that if you don't want escorts responding to other people when they're with you, give them time. Assume they're on a weekend call and will get back to you when they can. Truth of course, is that they're probably not, and could respond when they have a minute, but this isn't life or death. If you need an answer timely, I'd suggest letting them know, and maybe they could find a way to respond.

Interesting take. But doesn't that also creep you out a little? I know you appreciate a regular, but if you're the only one he sees, I'd think he might think there is more in the relationship than there really is. Good for your wallet, but could be trouble down the line. Do most providers prefer being the ONLY provider (assuming the same income).

RM sucks if they dont permanently bad those caught using stolen photos.

Interesting. I wish there was a poll option, where you could state your age range and preferred provider ranges.

I never said I was being less selective. Actually my concern is that I won't be. So far I'm the same as ever.

Question for those of you hiring, or even just having encounters. Do you find that your tastes have expanded, or you've become less selective over time? With women I've been able to be attracted to women my age. But it seems with men I've only been attracted to a much younger specific type. I feel this would preclude me from ever having an appropriate same sex relationship outside a financial one unless miraculously someone that much younger would find me attractive. Has anyone else ever been in the same boat and have your tastes evolved over time?

Isn't there usually a max withdrawal on an ATM? I wouldn't want to risk not paying the provider because of it.

I would discuss with him. Not only would I not want to risk losing that much cash, he might have problems bringing it back. I'd suggest to him paying half in advance, or paying electronically. But leave it up to him, so you're not on the hook. If he wants cash there, give it to him shortly after arrival, so you don't have to worry about it getting stolen or turning up missing. Im all for cash only, but Im worried about a much smaller amount given to a provider who will be spending the day roaming around a city before heading home.

I can't agree with this. Anything they say is included should be included, unless you are unsanitary. They are acting like they want to be there in the first place. Chemistry schmemistry.

Fortunately didn't really have any in 2025. Had two disappointing experiences in 2023, got more selective and had no hirings in 2024. In 2025, I have had two escort and one massage experience, and none were negative to the point of listing them here.

I like my coffee like I like my men. Smooth, very light and sweet.

To me a BFE is more affection. Yes, kissing, but touch outside the bedroom. Have the provider initiate sometimes. Make me feel as desired as he does. Open conversation. Bonding. A relaxed session. Generally this would entail an overnight at the very least.

I find it 50/50. I think you can tell by the review if it was genuinely someone not being or providing what was promised, or unrealistic expectations. I also find that when a provider defends themselves here it's easier to determine who is fos.

Apologies, I thought you were the OP. My thought pertain to that.

You "fronted him some money" and then he ghosted, were your words. That isn't theft? Can you front me some money?

As you put "loaned" in quotes, you realize it was not a loan. It was theft. Personally I wouldn't want to reconnect with this person. If I did, however, it would be contingent on them realizing they took advantage of my nativity, and I'd give them a chance to redeem themselves. If they don't take it, it will be very easy to move on.