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It seems most people prefer a table massage, so once again I'm in the minority
For me, the bed massage is more intimate. Also easier to move to other things if that's your plan. I have a regular 'straight' massage for the standard stuff, and she's great.
And I've found some providers are just as good, and will do more body contact in a bed. I also find it awkward to move from table to bed.  Am I alone here?

I think it's better to under-promise and over-deliver. If someone looks sketchy,  it's easier to say "I said safe only" than to say "I know I said anything goes, but I'm not comfortable with that."

It seems most people prefer a table massage, so once again I'm in the minority
For me, the bed massage is more intimate. Also easier to move to other things if that's your plan. I have a regular 'straight' massage for the standard stuff, and she's great.
And I've found some providers are just as good, and will do more body contact in a bed. I also find it awkward to move from table to bed.  Am I alone here?

There are just risks you have to take and ones you don't.  You can't hire for sex and not accept the risks of sex.  That doesn't mean you're going to give him your ATM pin code and leave your wallet on the end table when you take a shower. 

After breakfast, I realized I made a stupid post; we use fake names for fuck sakes, talk about a lack of trust from the outset. 
Think, "Hagen", think.  Then post.

It seems most people prefer a table massage, so once again I'm in the minority
For me, the bed massage is more intimate. Also easier to move to other things if that's your plan. I have a regular 'straight' massage for the standard stuff, and she's great.
And I've found some providers are just as good, and will do more body contact in a bed. I also find it awkward to move from table to bed.  Am I alone here?

If a guy goes beyond what I've already paid for, I agree. Assuming his rates were at or below market to begin with. If a guy is on the high end, that would be the level of service I expect.

Not to hijack the thread, but this is a societal issue. Showing off and living for today without thoughts of tomorrow is trending. I suspect a large part of this is because there is no security even if you live within your means any more. There are no more pensions unless you work for the government. There is no job security. Layoffs and cuts are everywhere.
It's a tough sell to tell people save, save, save, when doing so gives you cushion to pay the bank a few more months of your mortgage before your savings are gone anyway, once you get laid off.
It's still wise, but I can see the other side of it.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

It seems most people prefer a table massage, so once again I'm in the minority
For me, the bed massage is more intimate. Also easier to move to other things if that's your plan. I have a regular 'straight' massage for the standard stuff, and she's great.
And I've found some providers are just as good, and will do more body contact in a bed. I also find it awkward to move from table to bed.  Am I alone here?

Yep. Maybe it's a language issue, but if you can't take the time to read and answer direct questions, I know immediately that it will not be a relaxing experience with good communication. 

I have one to add: Answer the fucking question! I have three things I want to know up front: what do you charge, can you host, where are you located.
 
How many times have I seen a 6 who thinks they deserve the same compensation as a 9? Let’s get that out of the way and save everybody’s time. (It’s not so much that I am cheap as I wouldn’t pay that much for YOU.)
Whether they can host is self evident. And the location is so I know what it will take to meet them. Are they on a convenient transit line, or am I looking at an hour in the car and parking problems? Too often they gloss right over it and ask when I want to meet. That depends on your answer. If it’s like pulling teeth to get that information, it’s a non starter for me. How do you guys even get them to discuss what you want to do together?

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

Good point. I think it would go over better and might work out better for both of you if they did this.
"Hey, I'm a little short this month. Are you interested in a session? I'll make it worth your while. "
I think that would be a very attractive offer for most of us. 

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

Good point. I think it would go over better and might work out better for both of you if they did this.
"Hey, I'm a little short this month. Are you interested in a session? I'll make it worth your while. "
I think that would be a very attractive offer for most of us. 

Good point. I think it would go over better and might work out better for both of you if they did this.
"Hey, I'm a little short this month. Are you interested in a session? I'll make it worth your while. "
I think that would be a very attractive offer for most of us. 

I think asking for a loan is largely taking advantage of the illusion of intimacy created by the nature of the work.
If you are truly friends, and see him outside of work, fine. Treat your relationship as such and loan what you would any other friend you are close to.
But the truth is, what would you say if your barber asked for the loan? Of course you wouldn't give him money. Any other service provider? Mechanic? Dentist?
Sounds silly to even think of it, doesn't it? It is what it is. A guy taking advantage because he thinks you have money, and because you have a physical relationship,  you are closer than you really are.