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For me, ‘Boyfriend Experience’ suggests a more romantic, loving encounter. It is the very opposite of a ‘Wham, Bam, Thank You Sir’ date.
Obviously it depends on your companion but I would expect the date to comprise lots of foreplay with hugging, kissing with tongue, displays of affection and cuddling after sex. It would usually include oral sex and/or topping/bottoming. 
You would need to discuss the particulars beforehand. Depending on your wishes, the date might be just a physical session. If it is to be followed by dinner (or going out to a bar or club) together, you may want to discuss public displays of affection beforehand.
 
My reason for stating this is that I once hired an LA jock-boy for a weekend in San Francisco. We had an intense and very sexual time the night he arrived. The next morning when we went to brunch, I was startled that he took my hand as we walked together. I enjoyed it even more when he kissed me in the cafe. I’ve always been out but I had no idea that he’d be so demonstrative in public

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I happen to be in Pittsburgh for business in April of this year and was able to go to Luckys on a Saturday night. I was pleasantly surprised at how crowded it was. I would agree with the sentiment that it is a normal crowd. But I would not hate on Pittsburgh so much! There were some attractive men there, who filled their shirts and jeans nicely. And then there were a lot of other regular Joe’s . And that’s OK. It can’t be a circuit party every Saturday night in every city in the United States!
As for the dancers, I would definitely agree that it was nothing to write special notes in my memoir. Some regular guys who are dancing nude on the bar to make a buck. And some appreciative customers making sure that we kept the nude male bar tradition alive in the US! There was an incredibly attractive, young man with a very nice body and handsome face who looked like he was hustling. He never got up on the bar, but he was certainly known by many of the patrons. I would’ve given him many dollars that night. Turns out, I went back for, a little while on Sunday evening and he was indeed a dancer. He was the only one that fit my tastes for both nights.  
 
But clearly all the dancers were appreciated by the clientele on both Saturday and Sunday evening. I was glad to see it! And I made sure that I spent my dollars in the bar as well so that the lucky tradition would continue! Would I have spent that money on those particular men in any bar in my hometown? Probably not. But I’m happy. to support the arts!

Please report back!

Please report back!

Very much agree. And it always pays to discuss and explore how a man feels about a certain type of date.
This reminds me of a beautiful blond muscleboy-bottom (23) I met. He rarely advertised and his hourly fee was high ($400) but we had 3 dates of an evening before I asked him about playing overnight.
He immediately said $2000 minimum. I was shocked but I outlined what I had in mind (sex before and after dinner, 7-8 hours sleep and oral in the morning). It turned out that he’d only once had an overnight date. It was with a fit top aged 30 and they had full sex before talking and napping…but the guy woke him up in the night and topped him 5x in total, so he got very little sleep and he felt worn-out the next day.
So he liked my plans and he adjusted his rate to $800, and we were very compatible. We went onto date for 3-4 years. 

When I hired, I had a lot of overnight dates. That was over 10 years ago. Back then, I routinely paid $1000 in the US while in Europe (London, Paris, Barcelona) I paid the equivalent of $500; in Argentina and Brazil, I paid less. 
$1500 to a handsome muscleboy, a wannabe in LA with a superb physique, who did everything for me and drained me dry…3x that night. 
 
I very much agree. When the rates asked rose beyond that point, I’d request full-sex late afternoon, pay for dinner, and repeat the sex afterwards. All for the offered $1000. It was just as much fun and I was happy to sleep alone.

Very much agree. And it always pays to discuss and explore how a man feels about a certain type of date.
This reminds me of a beautiful blond muscleboy-bottom (23) I met. He rarely advertised and his hourly fee was high ($400) but we had 3 dates of an evening before I asked him about playing overnight.
He immediately said $2000 minimum. I was shocked but I outlined what I had in mind (sex before and after dinner, 7-8 hours sleep and oral in the morning). It turned out that he’d only once had an overnight date. It was with a fit top aged 30 and they had full sex before talking and napping…but the guy woke him up in the night and topped him 5x in total, so he got very little sleep and he felt worn-out the next day.
So he liked my plans and he adjusted his rate to $800, and we were very compatible. We went onto date for 3-4 years. 

Interesting comments about wealth inequality, but it's still laughable to blame the wealth gap for the explosion in shoplifting.
If the vast gulf between rich & poor triggered skyrocketing theft, then we would see it all over the country.  Instead, we see it mostly in just a few cities, ones which not coincidentally coddle criminals instead of punishing them.  If your local DA believes that cash bail is racist and that criminals are actually victims, expect your local pharmacy to lock up the shampoo.
Miami's gap between rich and poor is wider than most.  Billionaires and centimillionaires from around the globe own 2nd (3rd? 4th?) homes, $multimillion part-time pads, while so many Miami residents work low-paying service sector jobs.  Where are the flash mobs of thieves, the locked-up Hot Pockets, the lucite cases?  Nope, none of that sh*t, because Miami actually sends thieves to jail.
You obviously have some passionate opinions about wealth inequality.  You should start up a separate thread about it instead of trying to jam a square peg into a round hole.

Has income inequality gotten even worse?  Perhaps, although the gap between the Vanderbilts & Carnegies and the millions of immigrants who came to NYC with just the shirts on their backs was a helluva stretch.  Please note that there was no Section 8, Medicaid, or food stamps in the Gilded Age.  Back in the day, the poor literally starved.  Blaming the very recent explosion of shoplifting on income inequality is bullsh*t that might play well in ivory tower sociology departments, but nobody in the real world is buying it.

And yet the city authorities wonder why tourists (with all their spending) choose to go elsewhere

And yet the city authorities wonder why tourists (with all their spending) choose to go elsewhere

came across this thread and #s 1 and 2 are not available on my standard Netflix and Hulu subscriptions, so #3 it was, "All Of Us Strangers", on this quiet Tuesday evening......
just finished and, wow, I did get a little misty!......when a movie is well-made, well-photographed, well-acted, well-directed, well-scored, the whole bit, that can happen when it's supposed to!......(there are other movies where that was also supposed to happen, but I somehow didn't care in the least)......
gotta admit I stopped halfway thru and went and read the wiki article on the movie and read the entire plot to the end!......just to make sure I was up on all that was happening, you know.....it helped and I enjoyed the rest of the movie in a more-informed way.......
it's very much a fantasy, the viewer eventually realizes, but not in a silly/sci-fi/hocus-pocus/rainbows-and-unicorns way.......just a dreamy, moody reconciliation of a guy's life.......some other viewers may also need to consult the plot at the wiki article!.......
a couple very mild, non-gratuitous gay love scenes (just doesn't seem right calling them sex scenes!) should be acceptable to all but the least enlightened audience.......(for those still wondering, I think there was one sideways shot of a butt, some upper torso shots, and the suggestion of oral sex occurring, but no full nudity or anything close)
admittedly, it's incredibly sad right to the end, so be in the mood.......so many recent gay-oriented movies of the last several years have been full of melodramatic angst and silly attempts at profound thought.....none of that here.......just a clean, quiet, well-crafted flick.......
 

Finally saw Past Lives.
Well done!
A very specific topic that a lot of us probably ponder or daydream about,  from a Korean Buddhism  philosophical kind of insight.  A quiet, poignant and moving film.
 

I much prefer a gay man. Or at least a bi-guy. 
 
For a while, I dated a personal trainer. He was passionate in bed, bottomed for me and told me how much he enjoyed swallowing my loads. So I was very surprised when he declared he was straight (had a girlfriend and baby).

I've sometimes been with masseurs well out of my league and it's still gone way further than what I expected or paid for. I started going to a guy recently where within 30 minutes of my first visit he was climbing on the table to fuck me. I didn't ask or pay for it and I'm not exactly irresistible so I assume he's just horny and likes to play. 
I've also been with regular masseurs where the sexual element fluctuates. One time it might be just a hand job at the end the next he's giving me an amazing rim job. I think there is an element of personal horniness with some masseurs so it's possible that's all it is. 

I haven't been yet this year but I was in Montreal in early December 2023.  Things have changed in Montreal since Covid hit.  Pre-Covid, I was a regular fixture at Stock Bar due to the dancer quality.  No longer the case.  I do watch the on-line feed and I find the dancers to be mostly uninspiring...with one or two exceptions.  
During my December visit, I only went to Campus as they had a better quality of dancers if you are into masculine and muscle guys.  I felt no need to go to Stock as all my needs were met at Campus.  Stock is a nicer club as far as the infrastructure goes...but they just don't have the best Montreal talent anymore.

Interesting post. I don’t know the Pacific NorthWest well, but I would have thought that your skill set would be in great demand.
As a client and total top, I’ve always valued highly a devoted cocksucker and cum-eater. When I was single and between boyfriends, I’d run an explicit profile online and I had plenty of providers contact me.
I wonder if that approach would work better for you too. Advertise online and state you’re open to one-off meetings with (your preferred characteristics of) a total top. I suspect you’d find plenty of horny guys, both amateurs and providers.

I find that statement to be true most of the time. I have typically found it beneficial for any relationship to let the other party know that my impression of them isn't based on the specific factors of A and B, etc.
For example, if someone starts in on an explanation of "why" they were late, I usually interrupt with "the why isn't important. You were delayed, but you are here now. That's all that is important."
My experience has been that when people know I am not judging them on EVERYTHING, they are more relaxed, and consequently more honest about true details of themselves.

Yes. You do.
So draw a line around white lies and remember the definition is a harmless misdirection. 
Lies that are deceptions about more important issues ARE typically the tip of the iceberg.
Once a liar / always a liar.

Very much agree. And it always pays to discuss and explore how a man feels about a certain type of date.
This reminds me of a beautiful blond muscleboy-bottom (23) I met. He rarely advertised and his hourly fee was high ($400) but we had 3 dates of an evening before I asked him about playing overnight.
He immediately said $2000 minimum. I was shocked but I outlined what I had in mind (sex before and after dinner, 7-8 hours sleep and oral in the morning). It turned out that he’d only once had an overnight date. It was with a fit top aged 30 and they had full sex before talking and napping…but the guy woke him up in the night and topped him 5x in total, so he got very little sleep and he felt worn-out the next day.
So he liked my plans and he adjusted his rate to $800, and we were very compatible. We went onto date for 3-4 years. 

When I hired, I had a lot of overnight dates. That was over 10 years ago. Back then, I routinely paid $1000 in the US while in Europe (London, Paris, Barcelona) I paid the equivalent of $500; in Argentina and Brazil, I paid less. 
$1500 to a handsome muscleboy, a wannabe in LA with a superb physique, who did everything for me and drained me dry…3x that night. 
 
I very much agree. When the rates asked rose beyond that point, I’d request full-sex late afternoon, pay for dinner, and repeat the sex afterwards. All for the offered $1000. It was just as much fun and I was happy to sleep alone.

For me, ‘Boyfriend Experience’ suggests a more romantic, loving encounter. It is the very opposite of a ‘Wham, Bam, Thank You Sir’ date.
Obviously it depends on your companion but I would expect the date to comprise lots of foreplay with hugging, kissing with tongue, displays of affection and cuddling after sex. It would usually include oral sex and/or topping/bottoming. 
You would need to discuss the particulars beforehand. Depending on your wishes, the date might be just a physical session. If it is to be followed by dinner (or going out to a bar or club) together, you may want to discuss public displays of affection beforehand.
 
My reason for stating this is that I once hired an LA jock-boy for a weekend in San Francisco. We had an intense and very sexual time the night he arrived. The next morning when we went to brunch, I was startled that he took my hand as we walked together. I enjoyed it even more when he kissed me in the cafe. I’ve always been out but I had no idea that he’d be so demonstrative in public

If this referred to Latin America & Spain and possibly Italy, I’d completely agree.
 
I’m less sure about other European countries: I don’t go to bars but I’ve been clubbing in France, Denmark & Sweden. I was treated well but I was always with a younger partner so I’m not sure how an older singleton might be treated. 
 
Culture aside, I wonder if economic circumstance plays a major part. I found that younger Italian and Spanish men often were interested in an older man. Some guys were discreet in public and trading sex in private. Some men appreciate an older, more mature man. Some undoubtedly seek a sugar daddy. 
 
Certainly, when I spent a long time in Buenos Aires in 2007-2014, I was startled at first by how often younger men came onto me. It seemed that a well-groomed, smartly- dressed older man in Argentina is prized by attractive young men who are not sex workers as such but looking for support and offering companionship.