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Years ago a friend gave me a relationship observation, and she still likes to share it in our group when appropriate: 'Men just aren't that deep! They don't make emotional pro/con lists and mull them over for days. They make decisions in the now and move forward.' The debate about that being a "male" trait is for another discussion. However, I don't think there is any debate that some people let emotion rule relationship choices, and other people are much more pragmatic. I certainly won't advocate for either. But, they are two very different styles, and two styles where each type really struggles to understand the other's perspective.

A few years back my microwave died, and I upgraded to the 4 in 1. Microwave, air fryer, convection oven, and broiler all in one box on the counter. I love it! Counter footprint is small, and there is no bringing out small appliances or shifting them around.

The hell with the papers! The burning question in my mind @Charlie is did you get rid of the snow shovels, or are you still preparing for another brutal Palm Springs winter? 😉

I feel like the older I get, the basement and attic and the associated stairs have become a bit of place to hide crap I don't think about, need, and should have just thrown out a long time ago.

@francisssgorg You are making an assumption about the other reditor's mindset and motives. YOU feel like you 'just found common ground.' No matter what HE said, he may have been looking for more, even if it was just pic exchange of each of you in cfnm scenes. He certainly may have made assumptions about how Asians, and therefore you, look like physically. If the fantasies that get him hard are a power dynamic with some dark haired, extremely furry, beast of a man towering over some woman who makes him get naked, then statistically most Asians I have known get a plus for dark hair, but likely fall short on furry and towering over. And to be clear, my intent is not to support his silent exit from your conversation.

Well don't go back to that bank! Some banks will assist customers with counterfeit issues, others will not. If they don't, they should direct customers to the local police. Either the bank, or local police, contact the secret service, NOT the Treasury. https://www.secretservice.gov/investigations/counterfeit

God I LOVE that story! It illustrates a simple easy blueprint: I've gone this far, I may as well just go all in. It is JUST SEX, after all.

The potty rules seem very difficult to migrate. 1) Do I clench my pearls if I think there is sex afoot? 2) Do I clench my pearls if I think a FTM is next to me? 3) Both? 4) Am I ever allowed to do my business and just leave, regardless of who is next to me, or what I think is afoot?

Did you all read the last 3 paragraphs of that article ??? Seems to me the only thing allowing these tactics to proceed is that the 2022 court case was against state actors.

EXACTLY!!! And if you read the whole story linked above it references the 2022 court settlement where the Port Authority "used discriminatory practices with plainclothes officers, falsely arresting and accusing gay, bisexual and gender nonconforming people of public lewdness and exposure in the terminal’s men’s restrooms because of their actual or perceived sexual orientation. The settlement suspended the practice, required LGBTQ+ sensitivity training and found multiple officers and the Port Authority liable for violating the Fourth and 14th Amendments."

Powdered lube. Mixes with water as you need it, and cheap enough to throw away the extra. Brand names: J Lube and K Lube. If you buy J Lube from your local farm and barn it's 1/2 the price and your more likely to get the real stuff and not a fake.

If you're so damn fragile that you need tranquility to take a shit, get yourself a cheap hotel room nearby, or schedule a visit with a gastroentrologist. If 600,000 people go through Penn Station each day, I can't imagine the public bathroom at Penn Station is a tranquil, relaxing, spa like experience. When a commuter needs to use a public bathroom, he is likely headed to a dirty, crowded space, with lots of people coming and going. A commuter should be entitled to decide who he exposes his naughty bits to inside a stall and not be exposed to federal authorities sneaking a peak through cracks and crevices. Let's hope these arrests result in voyeurism lawsuits and the government pays out and gets the message.

Typically when I know someone well enough to share personal details about my life, I know them well enough to ask their thoughts on what I shared. Especially if it's my BF, or if I get a response from anyone else that I didn't expect or understand.

It would be a beautiful world if my definitions of too aggressive or too timid were adopted by all. Even better if my mannerisms, expressions, and moods were universally understood. In the mean time, I'd likely have to stop the guy trying to finger bang me on the dance floor, and then create one of those mental pro/con lists to see if, or where, the interaction would go. And, because I remember the "affirmative consent" movement, I'd throw the finger banger a certain appreciation for being on that end of the spectrum. If a boy at the other end of the spectrum looked up at me doe-eyed at the end of the night and asked if he could kiss me, or hold my hand, I know there wouldn't be a snow ball's chance in hell he would get a second bite at the apple. We are clearly not a match!

I've found it to be a double edged sword. @purplekow I am by no means accusing you of this, but I think the ideal would be to find a doctor who doesn't assume my sexual orientation is the most likely cause of any complaint. If I present with stomach issues, "giardia" may belong on the possible list of causes, but it's not quite an Occam's razor simply because I am gay. I really wish the doctor's online profile told me THEIR sexual orientation. It might give me the best prediction for a doctor who is more "aware" of the possibilities, but not so prejudiced as to assume it was the root cause of every ailment.