jackcali

At least you COULD run to the ocean and give that life a try. I was 10 years too old to do that, and hated how my high school life was infinitely more constrained than were the kids in Less Than Zero. Not growing up rich was the least of it. And thanks for the tip on the podcast.

Also a big Bret Easton Ellis fan here, and also loved his podcast before it went behind a paywall. I thought the book The Shards was good reading, not the best crime procedural ever written, but Ellis's voice rang through on every page, and for that reason I loved it. I've seen the first episode of the show, and love that it captures Ellis's worldview. The acting is a bit stiff and the actors seem to lack much depth. Compared to Robert Downey Jr. or even Andrew McCarthy or James Spader in the movie version of Less Than Zero (Ellis's first book), the current cast are beautiful lightweights. I'm hoping I'll see more substance to them as the series progresses.

BBContheloose is totally not my type, but I was able to see dozens of his photos and videos after logging into RM with my NON-premium account.

I use the flip side of this strategy. I have the escort book the room on Dayuse (I reimburse him, of course) and if it's an escort who hasn't met me before I meet him in the lobby or on the street before he checks in to confirm that I'm there. Dayuse is a godsend. In the old days, the escort would have to book the hotel for the night and, once booked, it had to be paid for, so my first time meeting an escort I would sit with him in a coffee shop, gave him the money for the hotel and wait for them to book it on their phones. It was not an efficient process.

I used to be fat and ugly and now I'm old and ugly, and I credit regular gym attendance with my not being old, fat and ugly. That being said, the OP is right that there seems to be an arms race (sorry for the pun) among escorts trying to be more and more muscular. I find a toned but not bulked up body to be more appealing and have been disappointed when hiring a toned escort only to find out that he's been trying to "add muscle" over the last few months and now looks completely different.

I completely agree with DMonDude's advice. I have used video calls to figure out where on the masculine/feminine balance a binary person is and also to get a sense of how good an escort's English skills are. These days, with Google translate it's less of an issue, but while I'd be happy to spend an hour with an escort communicating just with gestures (hand or otherwise), at my age a longer session has to include some conversation, however stilted. To the OP, I'd be wary of hiring for a week someone you haven't met before. There are many, many more ways other than bad teeth that you and he could be incompatible. If you're determined to go ahead, then try the video call and, if you don't get a good enough look, just ask him. It's direct and maybe a little embarrassing, but better than a bad one-week hiring decision.

He's very attractive, but would it kill him to SMILE in one of his pics?

Between nosy doormen and neighbors and with the occasional appearance of relatives who come to my city unannounced and install themselves in my spare bedroom, it's just easier never to host at my home. I'll use hotels (dayuse is inexpensive and almost always available) or go to the escort's location, if he has one. I did have an escort to my place once a number of years ago. The next day, my downstairs neighbor asked me who was the young man who came to my apartment. My neighbor bought my explanation that he was an IT guy from my employer helping me with my remote work set-up. The escort's being Asian played into my neighbor's stereotypes.

Always an interesting performer to watch closely, even in films that didn't deserve such finesse. In The Hunt for Red October, Sean Connery, Alec Baldwin, James Earl Jones and Scott Glenn are blustering away to beat the band, but Sam Neill gives a lovely and very quiet performance. If he's on screen, even in the background, I'm watching him. Thank you, Mr. Neill, for all your work. Rest in peace.

While I didn't poo-poo the professional sites (which I used if I was traveling), I much preferred finding a young guy on Backpage or Craigslist or Seeking who wasn't in the business but needed an arrangement to make ends meet. My preference was to find someone for weekly meetings, and the arrangements often lasted months or, in a couple of cases, several years. It very much worked for me, and the investment of a couple of days to find a candidate and set up a first meeting wasn't a burden. Nowadays, though, it's much more difficult to identify and connect with those candidates due to the policing of "gen" advertising or communications on the various social media sites. That's too much effort, so I just use rent.men for all my hiring these days.

I think this is part of the problem with the gay/bi/straight question. You can see how it could confuse escorts. After all, they're on a website advertising sexual services for men, so clearly they are open to gay sex regardless of their "true" sexual preference (if such a thing exists). The rest of the ad tells the reader what kind(s) of gay sex they're willing to have. I would speculate that some escorts call themselves straight or bi because they're what used to be called straight-acting, meaning (in Jamie's brilliant summary) that they can talk about sports and shake hands after a fuck.

Once, as an escort opened the door for me at his place, I could tell immediately that he was not the guy in the (faceless) pictures in his ad or in the face pic he texted me during the negotiation process. That being said, he was just as hot as the guy in the pics so I went through with the session, which was fine. Towards the end, I mentioned that I knew the pics weren't him and that he really shouldn't advertise using someone else's pics. He said he was too discreet to use his own pics and didn't I think the pics in his ad gave a more accurate impression of his body and his face than a lot of escorts' pics that are professionally taken or AI-enhanced? I didn't really have a comeback to that.

And those even more annoying people who "reply all" to those messages saying "Please don't use 'reply all'."

I laugh sometimes after I come. More of a chuckle than a guffaw. I think it's just another form of tension relief.

If you call that a paunch, I can't imagine how you'd describe what's around my middle.