ApexNomad

I’m in the same group as you. I care about those aspects as well.

The hospital scene in ep. 4 was painful to watch, especially the scene with the car part. I don’t know how we remotely come back from that.

What did you make of the nominations that just came out?

You had terrible providers. That’s not the norm. Sorry you experienced that.

15 minutes? That’s not a trend. That’s crazy. And weird. Was this an hour? 2 hour session? Did they do any of what you discussed and was agreed upon ahead of time? Was the stop mid-way into the act?

More and more over the years, straight-to-the-point has kind of become the norm. Finding providers who take the time to be a little warmer and more conversational (within reason, of course) can take some trial and error. I also agree with the previous comment that once you’ve actually booked, or especially after you’ve had an appointment with someone, the messaging often changes completely, usually in a good way. Finding a regular that you really enjoy changes everything and you want to keep those.

Agreed. No one’s talking about stalking. If something is publicly visible and it affects a prospective client’s fantasy or illusion, it’s perfectly reasonable to take that into consideration. That’s not about blame, it’s just a consumer choice. For example, I believe you prefer your providers under 35. It’s no different than if you were considering a provider, let’s say he’s aged 28, and then came across his hookup app where he wrote something like “guys over 40 don’t even bother.” Maybe you’d still reach out, maybe you wouldn’t. Either way, the choice as a prospective client is yours in how you want to spend your money and enjoy that experience, and more importantly, whether the fantasy and illusion feels worth the gamble of your time and money.

Honestly, I think you’re right about the big picture. You compromised your value early and then tried to correct it later, and that’s always going to create friction. But I also think there were a couple moments where you set yourself up for that outcome. The shopping piece is one of them. If it’s not clearly defined upfront-budget, expectations, what “shopping” actually means, then trying to get him to pick up a $50 purchase in real time puts both of you in an awkward spot. From your perspective, it’s part of the experience. From his, it probably felt like a test he didn’t agree to. Same with switching to hourly right before the trip. Not wrong to want, but timing matters. That’s a pre-booking conversation, not something you renegotiate once things are already in motion. Where I completely agree with you is once someone starts reframing clear financial boundaries as “hurtful” or tries to turn it into a relationship conversation, it’s usually because clarity doesn’t benefit them. That’s the point where you either lock things down or walk. And the airport situation? Even if there’s a slim chance it was just a glitch, you handled it exactly right. The second something feels off about your ability to leave, you remove yourself from the situation. No debate. I think the clean takeaway is define everything upfront: time, money, extras, everything! so there’s no room for interpretation. Because once you’re negotiating in real time, you’ve already lost control of the structure.

If someone genuinely can’t separate fantasy from reality, I agree, that’s on them. But most clients understand exactly what the arrangement is. That doesn’t mean they’re not allowed to consider how well the illusion is maintained in their hiring decision. After all, that’s what they’re paying for.

So far the teens have been driving the narrative. I’m looking forward to seeing more of Gadd and Bell in the present day.

I don’t pretend to guess what people like to do in their spare time, let alone providers and who they like to fuck. I agree that, at least in part, they’re selling a fantasy. And for a lot of prospective clients, as I mentioned, part of what they’re paying for is the feeling of being genuinely wanted. If something breaks that illusion, I think it’s reasonable for clients to factor that into their decision.

Jack is amazing! Whenever I’m in PS, I always try to see him. Total gentleman, very professional, and just an all-around great presence. I first saw him back when he was escorting, and even then he would sometimes incorporate massage into the session. His hands are incredible. He really knows what he’s doing. My experience with him has been as a provider than strictly as a massage therapist, but based on that and the few times he worked on me, I’d say you’re in very good hands. Enjoy!

You too!

I didn’t change his meaning, you can dress it up however you want. There’s no deflection. No amount of cheap insults or ALL CAPS is going to change that. You’re clearly reading closely, just selectively, especially the part where I said you can skip the discussion if it’s not for you.

I mirrored the logic. If that’s suddenly a problem, that says more about the logic than my reply. Not sure why that’s hitting a nerve for you. If you like his suggestion, feel free to take him up on it. He explicitly mentioned money. Go back and read it.