ApexNomad

I agree, it can absolutely go both ways. For some, seeing a provider as a real person with thoughts and opinions can deepen the connection and make the experience feel more authentic. But I think the reality is that a lot of interactions in this space still rely, at least in part, on a degree of fantasy. And when providers step into a forum setting, that layer can shift or even disappear. Not everyone knows how to reconcile the real person with the version they’ve built in their head. So while it can enhance things for some, I think for others it changes the dynamic in a way that makes providers more cautious about participating.

In addition to everything @big-n-tall said, I also think a huge part of it is that there’s an element of fantasy built into the dynamic and forums like this can unintentionally disrupt that. When providers show up here as fully formed people with their own opinions, boundaries, and perspectives, it shifts how some clients experience them. The illusion gets replaced with something more real, and not everyone knows how to engage with that. For some, that breaks the appeal a bit. So instead of it just being about “why don’t they participate,” it’s also about whether the space allows them to exist as real people without being dissected, challenged, or pulled out of that curated dynamic they rely on professionally.

So often, and understandably, the “boyfriend experience” gets tangled up with real emotion. That’s probably the flaw in the term itself. A term of art that has no business in this business. I prefer to think of it as a No-Illusions Experience: connection, chemistry, affection, but with clarity. Cuddles, conversation, presence: yes. Confusion about what it is: no.

What haven’t you felt in your ass - the shooting of the load or the throbbing/pulsing? Or both?

I want him to “stuff” me too. 😂

There are degrees to orgasm. The best experiences usually come down to reading each other’s bodies. As a bottom, there’s something uniquely intense in my opinion about a still, pulsating cock cumming inside you.

Especially Jessica Lange who I thought said was done with it. And they got Kathy Bates back, who’s busy with Matlock. And it’s season 13. A lot of good things going for it.

This is an impeccable cast!! However, if the story sucks, like the last few seasons, it won’t matter.

Glad you enjoyed it.

Thank you! I can’t wait to see this. Some of the reviews I’ve read have been terrific.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with posting a picture from September 25 on the 27th. For context, back in March, Gabriel posted a date-stamped photo holding a sign with the same date he posted here, he didn’t have to do that either by the way. Even then, people still found something to pick apart and question him. Fast forward to September, this young man posts again on the 27th, holding a sign dated the 25th. Knowing how quick people can be to jump on him, I made a light comment about checking his calendar. That was my mistake; I should have known better that would be ripped apart. As another member pointed out, had posted that same picture on RM with a date stamp from his phone. Bottom line: none of this matters. He doesn’t owe anyone proof of anything. Honestly, he’s doing himself more of a disservice by posting dated photos. He’s an attractive young man who doesn’t need to justify every move he makes. Please read my subsequent message on September 28th. This non-issue is long moot.

I recently saw Kavalier & Clay at the Met. It swings big, I will say that. History, exile, and a superhero sharing the same stage; the mix doesn’t always cohere, but there are passages that truly sing, and the staging of the Escapist is worth the ticket alone. Imperfect, yes. Bold and memorable, absolutely. Turning Chabon’s sprawling novel into an opera at all is its own high-wire act. I left impressed by the reach, even when the grasp slipped.

The English Patient Chocolat La La Land

What do you mean by projection? Meaning wanting to be the person who’s topping the bottom in the video? I’m a bottom and my favorite porn stars are tops.

We should all be so lucky to share 19 years with someone, hopefully with more joy than sorrow. Not every love story is meant to last forever, and sometimes the greatest grace is knowing when to let go. They also have the privilege of financial freedom; too many couples stay bound simply because they can’t afford to part. My hope is that those years together still feel like a gift, no matter how the ending looks.