Well, since the start of my hiring career, I have always hosted providers at my home, whether in NYC then or in HK now. I have never had a problem in those 30+ years.
However, for non-commercial hookups, I go to hotels (DayUse is fantastic) or to their place. First, because you pay providers to leave and, more importantly, because that is the basic rule I have developed with my husband: we can fool around all we want, but we don’t bring dates to our home. Diff’rent strokes….