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He is one of my favorites. Saw him two weeks ago.  DM for details. Highly recommend.

I agree with this. Build a bench of regulars and plan in advance. Most of my regulars travel a lot so they could be dispersed all over the US. They all have RM profiles so I just keep an eye on where they are if they advertise it. I’m a planner so I’ll get them on the schedule weeks out.  I have one scheduled for mid October right now.  I believe providers prefer to build their own stable of trusted clients. So it’s win-win if you find each other.
 
Another thing to consider is that messages could be buried in dozens or even a hundred messages if one is pursuing a highly sought provider (caucasian twinks under 25 are unicorns in my area).  The volume of messages can be overwhelming to them. I recommend reaching out periodically (once a week) until you get some reply. Any more than that may scream desperation or obsession. Move on after a month and try again in a few months if they still have active profiles.  I got one reply two months after I sent it. Patience is key.
Some providers treat this as a full time job, others as a casual hobby, so availability varies.

I’ve shared personal information with a very limited number of trusted providers after a longer term relationship was established. I don’t think that LEO is a serious threat in most jurisdictions and since I’m picky about who I choose to see in the first place, I’m not terribly worried about being betrayed by a provider. What does concern me is the potential for confidential information included in emails, DMs or text messages being intercepted by other parties with unknown motives. For this reason, I’m very cautious and limited about what I communicate in writing. 

Just wanted to update the folks who provided some sage advice on this. I did see this provider a second time and the experience was not as magical as the first. Still a great time, and I’ll see him again, but I am not AS smitten as I was the first time. He will be one of my regulars but not my only one.  
 
Thanks for all the thoughtful input!

I agree with this. Build a bench of regulars and plan in advance. Most of my regulars travel a lot so they could be dispersed all over the US. They all have RM profiles so I just keep an eye on where they are if they advertise it. I’m a planner so I’ll get them on the schedule weeks out.  I have one scheduled for mid October right now.  I believe providers prefer to build their own stable of trusted clients. So it’s win-win if you find each other.
 
Another thing to consider is that messages could be buried in dozens or even a hundred messages if one is pursuing a highly sought provider (caucasian twinks under 25 are unicorns in my area).  The volume of messages can be overwhelming to them. I recommend reaching out periodically (once a week) until you get some reply. Any more than that may scream desperation or obsession. Move on after a month and try again in a few months if they still have active profiles.  I got one reply two months after I sent it. Patience is key.
Some providers treat this as a full time job, others as a casual hobby, so availability varies.

I agree with this. Build a bench of regulars and plan in advance. Most of my regulars travel a lot so they could be dispersed all over the US. They all have RM profiles so I just keep an eye on where they are if they advertise it. I’m a planner so I’ll get them on the schedule weeks out.  I have one scheduled for mid October right now.  I believe providers prefer to build their own stable of trusted clients. So it’s win-win if you find each other.
 
Another thing to consider is that messages could be buried in dozens or even a hundred messages if one is pursuing a highly sought provider (caucasian twinks under 25 are unicorns in my area).  The volume of messages can be overwhelming to them. I recommend reaching out periodically (once a week) until you get some reply. Any more than that may scream desperation or obsession. Move on after a month and try again in a few months if they still have active profiles.  I got one reply two months after I sent it. Patience is key.
Some providers treat this as a full time job, others as a casual hobby, so availability varies.

The last thing I want is for a partner consenting to kissing if he doesn’t want to. It will show in their performance and I don’t want someone doing something they don’t want to do.
Passionate kissing, and other things, is a necessary component to my fully enjoying the experience.

I have found providers who willingly provide the experience I’m looking for and I’ll repeat my visits with them. They are either really into all that, or they are great performers
For the ones I meet who don’t provide the full experience I’m looking for, I am appreciative and respectful of their time but I won’t meet them again. Why invest your resources if you are not completely satisfied, especially if you CAN have your needs met?  Nor do I point out the areas where s provider doesn’t meet my needs unless they ask, and they rarely do. What a provider won’t do is deeply personal to them and I won’t question that.
Bottom line: you will find providers out there who will meet your needs. For the ones that don’t, always be kind and nonjudgmental, but move on. It’s fundamentally about consent, free will and comfort level. All factors must be present for both partners for me to have an optimal experience. 

Just wanted to update the folks who provided some sage advice on this. I did see this provider a second time and the experience was not as magical as the first. Still a great time, and I’ll see him again, but I am not AS smitten as I was the first time. He will be one of my regulars but not my only one.  
 
Thanks for all the thoughtful input!

Wow, I went in a completely different direction didn’t I? Freudian slip? 
 
I do believe I am programmed for monogamy, or at least whatever the opposite of random casual sex is.  Perhaps my own puritanical upbringing has influenced that mindset. 

One provider I’ve seen has a rm profile pic wearing a spider man skinsuit. I asked him to wear it for a session. I showed up for an incall and we was wearing it when I got there. So hot! 
Now if I can get Tom Holland to do it some time, that would make my dreams come true! I think Zendaya might have a problem with that!

I’ve definitely noticed an uptick in providers in this area in the last couple of years. $4.00 a gallon gas doesn’t help anyone except Big Oil! But I don’t know if it’s necessarily lack of employment as much as level of employment and affordability. I don’t think it’s hard to find a $15 an hour job around here but that’s not a living income. One provider told me he was making $300K+ a year when he was more active.  That’s practically impossible to make in the traditional economy with only a HS education.
Side note, completely unrelated: same provider told me he paid taxes on his income as well. I was impressed. Even has a tax guy. He has a registered LLC as an adult entertainer and keeps a log of transactions.  A good citizen!

Lots of escorts and masseurs have indicated to me that they declare all of their income. 
Life is easier when one's not trying to hide something.  That's true about living life outside of the closet as well as paying income taxes.  The Truth will set you free!

I’ve definitely noticed an uptick in providers in this area in the last couple of years. $4.00 a gallon gas doesn’t help anyone except Big Oil! But I don’t know if it’s necessarily lack of employment as much as level of employment and affordability. I don’t think it’s hard to find a $15 an hour job around here but that’s not a living income. One provider told me he was making $300K+ a year when he was more active.  That’s practically impossible to make in the traditional economy with only a HS education.
Side note, completely unrelated: same provider told me he paid taxes on his income as well. I was impressed. Even has a tax guy. He has a registered LLC as an adult entertainer and keeps a log of transactions.  A good citizen!

I’ve definitely noticed an uptick in providers in this area in the last couple of years. $4.00 a gallon gas doesn’t help anyone except Big Oil! But I don’t know if it’s necessarily lack of employment as much as level of employment and affordability. I don’t think it’s hard to find a $15 an hour job around here but that’s not a living income. One provider told me he was making $300K+ a year when he was more active.  That’s practically impossible to make in the traditional economy with only a HS education.
Side note, completely unrelated: same provider told me he paid taxes on his income as well. I was impressed. Even has a tax guy. He has a registered LLC as an adult entertainer and keeps a log of transactions.  A good citizen!

I’ve definitely noticed an uptick in providers in this area in the last couple of years. $4.00 a gallon gas doesn’t help anyone except Big Oil! But I don’t know if it’s necessarily lack of employment as much as level of employment and affordability. I don’t think it’s hard to find a $15 an hour job around here but that’s not a living income. One provider told me he was making $300K+ a year when he was more active.  That’s practically impossible to make in the traditional economy with only a HS education.
Side note, completely unrelated: same provider told me he paid taxes on his income as well. I was impressed. Even has a tax guy. He has a registered LLC as an adult entertainer and keeps a log of transactions.  A good citizen!

I’ve definitely noticed an uptick in providers in this area in the last couple of years. $4.00 a gallon gas doesn’t help anyone except Big Oil! But I don’t know if it’s necessarily lack of employment as much as level of employment and affordability. I don’t think it’s hard to find a $15 an hour job around here but that’s not a living income. One provider told me he was making $300K+ a year when he was more active.  That’s practically impossible to make in the traditional economy with only a HS education.
Side note, completely unrelated: same provider told me he paid taxes on his income as well. I was impressed. Even has a tax guy. He has a registered LLC as an adult entertainer and keeps a log of transactions.  A good citizen!

I’m confused to your point. Are you offended I don’t like the term “front hole” because there’s a lot of other words I don’t like either? It’s not a judgement. Just a personal preference.
Another personal preference of mine is that I don’t graphically share my sexual proclivities with random straight men because it’s unnecessarily provocative. I’m positive they don’’t want the details.

“Front hole” sounds so vulgar to me. I don’t see harm in calling a vagina by its anatomical name. Isn’t it the point of transgenderism that anatomy doesn't determine gender?  So call a vagina a vagina.
But I’m not going to fall on my sword over that. Since I am NOT transgender, I accept that I cannot fully understand their perspective. So, I’ll respect that vagina is not universally acceptable.  I just wish “front hole” was not the answer.

The last thing I want is for a partner consenting to kissing if he doesn’t want to. It will show in their performance and I don’t want someone doing something they don’t want to do.
Passionate kissing, and other things, is a necessary component to my fully enjoying the experience.

I have found providers who willingly provide the experience I’m looking for and I’ll repeat my visits with them. They are either really into all that, or they are great performers
For the ones I meet who don’t provide the full experience I’m looking for, I am appreciative and respectful of their time but I won’t meet them again. Why invest your resources if you are not completely satisfied, especially if you CAN have your needs met?  Nor do I point out the areas where s provider doesn’t meet my needs unless they ask, and they rarely do. What a provider won’t do is deeply personal to them and I won’t question that.
Bottom line: you will find providers out there who will meet your needs. For the ones that don’t, always be kind and nonjudgmental, but move on. It’s fundamentally about consent, free will and comfort level. All factors must be present for both partners for me to have an optimal experience. 

He just quoted me $1K for an hour for an outcall. 
I politely declined. 😆

The last thing I want is for a partner consenting to kissing if he doesn’t want to. It will show in their performance and I don’t want someone doing something they don’t want to do.
Passionate kissing, and other things, is a necessary component to my fully enjoying the experience.

I have found providers who willingly provide the experience I’m looking for and I’ll repeat my visits with them. They are either really into all that, or they are great performers
For the ones I meet who don’t provide the full experience I’m looking for, I am appreciative and respectful of their time but I won’t meet them again. Why invest your resources if you are not completely satisfied, especially if you CAN have your needs met?  Nor do I point out the areas where s provider doesn’t meet my needs unless they ask, and they rarely do. What a provider won’t do is deeply personal to them and I won’t question that.
Bottom line: you will find providers out there who will meet your needs. For the ones that don’t, always be kind and nonjudgmental, but move on. It’s fundamentally about consent, free will and comfort level. All factors must be present for both partners for me to have an optimal experience. 

The last thing I want is for a partner consenting to kissing if he doesn’t want to. It will show in their performance and I don’t want someone doing something they don’t want to do.
Passionate kissing, and other things, is a necessary component to my fully enjoying the experience.

I have found providers who willingly provide the experience I’m looking for and I’ll repeat my visits with them. They are either really into all that, or they are great performers
For the ones I meet who don’t provide the full experience I’m looking for, I am appreciative and respectful of their time but I won’t meet them again. Why invest your resources if you are not completely satisfied, especially if you CAN have your needs met?  Nor do I point out the areas where s provider doesn’t meet my needs unless they ask, and they rarely do. What a provider won’t do is deeply personal to them and I won’t question that.
Bottom line: you will find providers out there who will meet your needs. For the ones that don’t, always be kind and nonjudgmental, but move on. It’s fundamentally about consent, free will and comfort level. All factors must be present for both partners for me to have an optimal experience. 

The last thing I want is for a partner consenting to kissing if he doesn’t want to. It will show in their performance and I don’t want someone doing something they don’t want to do.
Passionate kissing, and other things, is a necessary component to my fully enjoying the experience.

I have found providers who willingly provide the experience I’m looking for and I’ll repeat my visits with them. They are either really into all that, or they are great performers
For the ones I meet who don’t provide the full experience I’m looking for, I am appreciative and respectful of their time but I won’t meet them again. Why invest your resources if you are not completely satisfied, especially if you CAN have your needs met?  Nor do I point out the areas where s provider doesn’t meet my needs unless they ask, and they rarely do. What a provider won’t do is deeply personal to them and I won’t question that.
Bottom line: you will find providers out there who will meet your needs. For the ones that don’t, always be kind and nonjudgmental, but move on. It’s fundamentally about consent, free will and comfort level. All factors must be present for both partners for me to have an optimal experience.