I'm pretty blunt before I hire what my definition of a happy ending is...definitely not just a hand job...but I try not to be rude...and some masseurs also advertise on Rentmen so that helps...some recoil in horror, some immediately block me, fine, but a surprising amount are OK and appreciate the candor...just be honest in a kind manner...sometimes the answer is a respectful no and sometimes I still go forward, sometimes we agree to not meet, its business folks but also the business of pleasure so it gets personal...