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Everything - and I mean everything - that has been written in this post up to this point is something that I needed to read today. I am not going to offer an opinion as to what the OP should or should not do, but I am going to thank the OP and ALL of the contributors to this post. You have all given me a lot to think about as it relates to my own financial situation. You have my gratitude. ~ Mike

I am not “exhausted” from hiring but I am weary at times of the effort needed to find someone willing, compatible and affordable. (My tastes tend to run somewhat “left of center” in that I don’t seek muscle men or gym bodies or even the biggest dick. I want a pony keg, not a 6-pack, lol!)

There’s your answer. I experience about a 50% “reply” rate. I have to assume that the 50% of providers that do not reply to me simply don’t want or need my business. I have long-since stopped taking that personally. There is no point in trying to do business with someone who does not wish to do business with me. So, at times, it’s a bit of a search and requires more effort on my part to find someone suitable and compatible.

I got into it for awhile; meaning I enjoyed watching guys pole dance in videos I found online. I was amazed at what those guys could do. I had a private session with a pole dancer once. I paid a hefty fee to watch 3 brief pole dances over the course of about 45 mins. Dude turned out to be kind of a jerk and his dances weren’t as “polished” as some others I’ve seen. But, still it was fun. He did his last dance completely nude. Since I paid for the session I didn’t feel the need to put dollar bills in his Speedo. But I did keep his Speedo. And he was pretty gracious about touching … and sniffing, lol.

AMEN to that!!

I don’t think so. The video was shot in Miami; that provider is in San Diego. Similar but not the same guy. Strictly my opinion.

He’s the first model in this video and he appears again later. This video is a couple years old.

I am sorry that things did not work out the way you hoped, financially speaking. I’m grateful that you got to say goodbye and I hope that provides you with peace and solace. I have to agree with @sync that one should not count on other people’s money; I see the disappointment experienced by my customers on an almost daily basis when they do not wind up with what they expected or anticipated. {My parents (still married, 61+ years) told me a long time ago not to expect anything from their estate. They told my sisters the same thing. The reason? “We’re spending it all while we’re here.” And I say good for them.}

I just discovered this forum thread. I am totally with you on this. I recall porn in the 70’s and 80’s that did not hold back - both gay and straight porn. There was no end to the real “Dad/son” verbalization between performers in gay porn. When did that change? And why? I’ll admit that it will be considered “perverted”, but it’s porn - it’s fantasy.

Honestly, I rather admire you for being so bold as to offer to take care of his erection and then put forth the effort necessary to make that happen. Guys who are straight or curious? Speaking only for myself I avoid them based on past experiences but all the power to ya if that is a man whose company you might enjoy. Nipple ring? That means nothing as far as I’m concerned; we gays wore our baseball hats backwards then the straight guys did it. Same with earrings, then nipple rings/piercings and then other hardware. I’m too old and cynical and I know there will always be gay men attracted to straight/curious men; they see it as a challenge. You saw an opportunity to gratify and educate and there is nothing wrong, unusual or untoward in that. When men gather in a spa/sauna environment with minimal clothing shit like this is going to happen. AND I agree with you 100% that it is not difficult to be kind.

Truthfully, I have never liked the taste. Oh, it’s not horrible - Lord knows as a kid I had to take medicine that tasted awful. In comparison, semen is not bad. I swallowed because I thought it was the polite thing to do. I do not recall a great variation of “flavor” among the men whose loads I swallowed; I was more concerned with volume and intensity. I never thought much of the taste; I got my guy(s) to unload, swallowed, and moved on to the next task at hand.

PREACH!!!!

NONE of the European monarchs, to the best of my knowledge, have any real power. They ALL play a largely ceremonial role. They are, however, the Head of State. And by all accounts Harald V was well-liked by the populace. Yes, the Norwegian Royal Family has seen some recent scandals, but for now it’s best that we extend our sympathies to Queen Sonja and her countrymen and show support for King Haakon VII and his heir apparent, Crown Princess Ingrid Alexandra.

Now THIS, as a tribute, is unique and sweet and “just precious”, as is said in the South, and so totally and thoroughly Dolly Parton. “Welcome to Nashville/Dolly Parton Airport. Our aircraft will be arriving at gate 9-to-5.”

When in Phoenix I will sometimes go to bars on the nights when go-go boys are dancing. They are fun to watch and I tip enough to cop a feel. Sometimes I’ll drop a twenty for a “private dance” but not often. Last weekend i asked a dancer to meet me at my hotel for a private session and he agreed. I had a nice time. I did OF for about a year then stopped as I was wasting far too much time and money and wasn’t getting too much in return. My hires are, maybe, monthly now, if that.

That moustache needs its own ZIP code!

HAIR! OH, SWEET MERCIFUL LORD IN HEAVEN, HAIR!

I’m not particularly proud of this … but there was an occasion that I engaged a chatty provider in Las Vegas. When I simply could not listen to one more word he had to say I held up my hand in the “stop!” gesture and said to him, “Darling … I’m not paying you to talk.” He got the message. And I hired him several more times after that.

Oh, mah sweet Lord, yes! I lost my copy of "The Pirate's Pantry", which is the cookbook of the Lafayette (Louisiana) Junior League. But the recipe for bread pudding is embedded in my head. I also have "White Trash Cooking", which is a hoot-and-a-half, as well as "Being Dead Is No Excuse", the cookbook with all the recipes one needs for the perfect Southern Funeral. (Mah first husband was Cajun. Dude knew how to cook in the kitchen AND the bedroom!)

Dude, you do what makes you happy. You do what brings you pleasure. You were kind to reply to my posting.

You are very kind. You just made my night. Thank you!

A very wise and well-hung man told me, years ago, “If it hurts, we’re doing it wrong.” There might be some initial discomfort but there shouldn’t be any pain.

You are obviously very kind and very wise and I’m grateful that you chose to respond to my postings. I appreciate that you took the time to say something nice and constructive in this forum. Thank you. Love, Mike

You are very kind. I AM old - 62 - which is 186 in gay years - “ugly” is subjective I suppose - and fat? Well, yes. Not just “slightly overweight” and not “morbidly obese”, but fat. I had one provider turn me down as he “didn’t work well with fat guys.” The flip side to that is I now have an FWB who is a triathlete. This guy likes big guys and he is sexy as hell and he asks me to f**k him. For a man who doesn’t fit the mold of gay physical perfection, I sure do get a lot of sex. But, the good Lord doesn’t like a braggart. 🤣

I found myself in Phoenix during a summer monsoon and commented on the amount of rain that was falling. My friends said, “Yes, Mike, but it’s a dry rain.”