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I’m sorry to be a smart-ass - all right, maybe I’m not - but it’s just where my head and mood are tonight - does anyone know where I can find a brevity program? For people who are ready to check out? Seriously, I don’t want longer life - I didn’t prepare for it. I suppose I could just start drinking again. But I wanna die having succeeded at something. And I’ve succeeded at not drinking for 15 years. Yeah, I know, I’m being a dick. But I read “longevity program”, assuming longer life, and my first thought was that there has to be program for those of us who want a shorter life. Without self-harm. I don’t say any of this to invite pity or scorn. Yeah, I’m weird. @BSR, if you want longer life, go for it.

Good morning. It would appear that my take on it is very different. I’ve always assumed that I was being asked for a pic so the provider would know for whom he was opening his door or whom he could expect when the door was opened when he arrives for the session. I’m sure there are providers who’ve chosen not to work with me upon seeing my photo or reading my profile. And, for me, that’s all right. I do not wish to work with someone who doesn’t wish to work with me. Apologies if I do not have a firm grasp on the topic being discussed.

Jonas Brothers 2.0?

You and me both, Roxy. Apologies for veering off-topic. Thanks to everyone who has responded thus far with your AIDS/HIV survival stories.

I am not ashamed to say that I am strangely attracted … and aroused.

BUMP Trying to learn something about this man. Thank you.

My success in hiring on Grindr is very, very limited. Two (2) in fact. I was away from home (traveling) both times. Nice guys and good (but not great) sessions. When at home, pretty much nothing. I, too, get the Middle Eastern guys occasionally, and other nationalities as well; they all want to communicate off Grindr usually on WhatsApp. I don’t even try anymore.

G*ddamn! That treasure trail!

I have to admire and respect your candor.

I’m listening to it right now on “Live From The Met” on the classical music radio station. And it’s a beautiful day.

Face photos are now on his profile. “Handsome” is subjective but I would describe him as good-looking. I’m curious if anyone has anything to report about a in-person experience with this man. Thank you.

I just love what is produced in America’s Dairyland! Nice basket!

I don’t believe many of us use magazines anymore for “whacking material”. I do have an 80’s era “Playgirl” that I found at a vintage store in Palm Springs. It’s fun to take out occasionally and share with friends and comment on “beauty standards” of 40+ years ago. I also have a box of old gay rags, “Honcho”, “Inches”, “Playguy” and the like, that I discovered at a garage sale. Again, fun to take them out and remember who and what we thought was “hot” back in the day. And yes, as a young man I would get the Sears catalog and go right to the men’s underwear pages. (This was long before Calvin Klein told us it was all right to objectify the male body in white briefs.) But whacking? Thank you, no. I’ve got my memories and my phone.

Dude does appear to have a nice cob on him. “Corn Stars”? Being from Illinois I’m surprised the Mommies have allowed that one to remain.

For me, one word - luck. Truthfully, given my activity and proclivities, I am at a loss to explain how I am still here and how I survived relatively unscathed. (For context, I “came of age” to mansex in the early 80’s when I turned 17. And to be honest, I was probably too stupid to understand the incredible risks that I was taking. Alcohol, I am certain, clouded my judgment.) Condom use was hit or miss, yet somehow I remained HIV negative. Abstention from sex left a great deal to be desired. The clap? Yes, a couple of times, but I usually knew a doctor who could get me the antibiotics so I was spared a visit to the “free clinic”. I started taking Prep when it was suggested to me by a provider whose opinion I highly respected and when I learned it was available to me for zero co-pay. At 62 and overweight my pool of suitors these days is greatly reduced, but those who favor me with their attention are on Prep and I tend to avoid those who are not. I do not take it for granted that I was spared when so many were taken from us.

I didn’t even watch. Couldn’t be bothered. The show is rarely entertaining and it simply drags. The people I believe should win rarely do - if they are nominated at all. (And I have yet to review last night’s winners list.) And for the past several years I haven’t been going to the cinema except for the classic movie series. I’m sorry to read that Conan didn’t do well - I like him a lot. For those who watched until the bitter end - thank you. And thank you for your reports. Sounds like I didn’t miss much.

Imagine the aroma …

I’m not hiring right now mainly due to a lack of desire rather than a lack of funds. We are not “spoiled for choice” where I live so most of my hires are either visitors to my area or I hire when out of town. (Local providers have not responded well to me.) I’m lucky to have one or two “non-provider” options when the mood strikes. After my last two “encounters” I felt strangely empty rather than satisfied. So, I’ve pulled back on hiring until I can figure out what it is I want.

AGREED!!

What I wouldn’t give in order to be able to bury my nose in those briefs at his ankles.

Please don’t apologize. I rather enjoyed your rant. You make a very good point. And I agree 100%.

In theory, I’m with @DMonDude but in reality I’d say @Pd1_jap probably is closer to the mark. The butt wants what it wants … until it doesn’t. In the end (no pun intended) there are no hard and fast rules. Communicate, communicate, communicate.

Yeah, I got that, too. And at that age that was the worst tag to have affixed to you.

Right there! That’s it! Before the 80’s, by my calculation, it all seemed perfectly normal. Getting back to the original topic - teachers showering with students - I remember the Phys Ed coaches at my junior high and high schools showering with students at the end of their work day and except for my (silent) admiration of their hairy ample equipment I don’t recall thinking it was unusual. Nor do I recall them acting untoward. My first memory of a locker room is my Dad saying to me, “It’s just guys. Get undressed.” (Easy for him; my Dad was a STUD!) I’m old & fat now and I still think nothing of getting undressed in front of other men. Times have changed. I kinda get the “creep” factor of an adult male teacher showering with his students. But 40-50 years ago I thought nothing of it.

I recall going to BIBLE CAMP in the 70’s (‘77 or ‘78) and the college-age cabin counselors would shower with the boys. Nobody thought anything of it. One counselor I can see in my mind to this day was what I now know was a perfect Castro clone specimen … even before I knew what a Castro clone was! (White briefs. Moustache. Dark hair. Hairy chest. Treasure trail.) My own cabin counselor was a trim, taut hairy blonde guy with a big dong who didn’t wear underpants. Even the “visiting minister” showered with the boys; by day he was a nerd but naked in the shower he was a hot dude! I think the 70’s were the last decade where boys were told that is was “OK” to be naked with other boys; that it was no big deal. Over and over I heard, “It’s just the guys! Get over yourself!” when we expressed trepidation about group showers and locker rooms. I used to go with my Dad to his father’s club and walk through the locker room filled with mostly naked men, a cloud of cigarette smoke and an ocean of Scotch. Sure, one looked but one didn’t point or laugh or stare too long. My grandfather would introduce me to his friends and everyone was cool. I get where the OP’s experience might suggest a certain “creepiness”, but given the time frame suggested I think it was just accepted as the norm. Looking back, do I think one or more of the adult men showering with boys to be a creepy voyeur? Yeah, probably. I guess as long as it didn’t go beyond showering next to each other it was all right. Or, at least, “not wrong”. I’m so f*cking old.