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Wonderful weekend as always! I've lost track of how many of these I've attended, but it's become the highlight of the year for me. Really sorry to have missed @David-SF's pool party and the dinner, but it was great to see everyone. Thank you @Oliver and his Hot Helpers for keeping it going. Always so much fun!

I’m late this year but on my way. Happy to leave rainy SF for a couple days. See you soon!

I love this! Someone find a scriptwriter and we can all be executive producers 🥳

I've only been stiffed once. It was a forum member, during one of the DC meetups. Both clients and providers warned me ahead of time that he was known to pull stunts, so I wasn't surprised when at the end of the session he claimed to have lost his wallet. He put on quite the act, trying to look panicked and all. "Where is my wallet? OMG, I've lost my wallet!!!" I just sat and watched his performance for a couple of minutes, then showed him the door. (For what it's worth, I don't believe he posts on this forum anymore, let alone attend any of the events)

If the guy is charging $200 for a massage on a bed, I'm thinking this is less therapeutic/skilled massage, and more likely something more erotic. There's some more of that wiggle room! 😛 If there's a charge for parking, presumably it's a good hotel and that comes with some expense for the provider as well. I know that when I travel, I think about the setting, and also how it will be perceived by the client. I don't want to invite a client to meet me at the Red Roof Inn, even if the parking is free. @Simon Suraci had a good suggestion, that the provider find a rental that's well-located with street parking. That can work really well, though the last time I did that on a trip, a client came in and said it was too bad there wasn't a hotel bar to have a drink at first. (Note to self: next time find an Airbnb down the street from a bar...)

As a provider, I never ask for or solicit reviews, and my numbers are in that same range. My RM profile has been active since December 2015 and I've received a total of 15 reviews, which works out to about 1.8 reviews per year. I greatly value these reviews, but they've come on their own, and I appreciate it when clients want to share their experience with others. However my business model does not rely on them. That begs the question, would I have more business if I solicited reviews? I can't answer that. But at least from the perspective of a provider who does not solicit or rely on reviews, the changes to RM's policies don't appear to have had any impacts on my business. My sense for new guys would be that their newness would overcome any issues with having few if any reviews. Presumably they'll attract clients who don't care about reviews. But I'm just guessing.

Just curious, but how do you know if you’ve been put on a “no re-hire” list? Did the provider tell you not to contact him again, or give some other indication that he won’t see you again? I’m just asking in case you might be reading more into this than intended. Hopefully that’s the case!

Welcome to the forum Johnny! It’s great to get the perspective of a dancer here.

I'll be there! Though due to a work commitment with my day job, I won't be arriving until Saturday evening after the dinner. But I'll be sticking around until Tuesday.

What you are describing is "a regular." I agree with everything others have said on this. I'll add that another advantage of having a regular thing is it allows a continuation of exploration. Like, "next time I'd like to try ______" or "next time could you bring ______?" Having a regular thing going with an escort is not unlike having a regular business relationship in other trades. Yes, you're friendly, and you sincerely enjoy seeing each other when business brings you together. Maybe it even drifts towards a friendship, but otherwise it's the "professional relationship" you mention. Just this week for my day job I had a Zoom with a vendor whose contract was up for renewal, and when we got on screen we were both truly pleased to see each other after nearly a year of only being in touch occasionally by email. Then there are the baristas, barbers, trainers, etc etc... people who we know well enough to be greeted by name, and while not friends in the conventional sense there is still a friendly relationship. Of course it's in the interest of business to have regular clients, escorts included, so I'll say I'm biased! But I see the advantage to both parties. Most of my clients are regulars, and it's nice to just get a text that says "come on over" and we pick up where we left off last time.

On longer sessions there's usually dinner or drinks either before or after. Or as a break in between. Some of my favorite appointments have been where we do a quickie when I arrive, then go out for dinner, then come back for a longer session. @Jamie21 has great suggestions as well. Showering together can be a great icebreaker or interlude, as can massage.

I’d suggest finding a guy you like who says he’s vers, then when you contact him tell him you’d like him to bottom for you. Be direct. That should do the trick. I’m vers, and it’s not unusual for a client to mention whether they want me to bottom, top, or flip. I love all of it, but if he says he wants me to bottom, then that’s what he’ll get, with enthusiasm. I’m sure you can find a sexy guy who will be up for what you have in mind.

I agree! I really liked it when he changed his look to what he’s got going now.

I’ve also met him socially a couple of times, and he seemed like a nice sexy guy. I too didn’t get any PNP vibe from him at all, so I’m surprised to see that listed in his “I am into” list. He carries himself with maturity and I enjoyed talking with him. I have no intimate experience with him however so can’t comment one way or the other. But from everything I saw, I’d think it would be worth giving him a try.

Welcome to the Forum, and to your exploration of manhood! From a provider's perspective, I've never been with a trans guy but I'd be up for it. I expect some of my colleagues will also be up for it, others not, but you might be surprised how many guys would be into meeting you. The only way to find out is to ask. I see there are a couple of transmascs who advertise on RM here in SF, but I expect lots of cis guys would welcome the opportunity to meet you too.