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Outside of this community here, just a couple know for sure that I escort. My husband knows (he once escorted himself) and I share everything with him. Then there is a bodyworker I see every couple of weeks, and we talk shop. I've mentioned it to my doc and he was unfazed, but after all he's a gay MD in San Francisco. 
I do wonder if others know, and just haven't said anything. That's always in the back of my mind. 
Quite some time ago I wrote an essay about it here. Have a look if you have nothing better to do! 😛

I wouldn’t assume that necessarily. Checking the Daddy box on the into list could mean he’s into older guys, or is into a Daddy/“Son” scenario, and/or he considers himself a Daddy. Best just to ask! 

Outside of this community here, just a couple know for sure that I escort. My husband knows (he once escorted himself) and I share everything with him. Then there is a bodyworker I see every couple of weeks, and we talk shop. I've mentioned it to my doc and he was unfazed, but after all he's a gay MD in San Francisco. 
I do wonder if others know, and just haven't said anything. That's always in the back of my mind. 
Quite some time ago I wrote an essay about it here. Have a look if you have nothing better to do! 😛

Thank you for sharing your lovely story.  I am quite fascinated by your experience: "Despite commonly-held beliefs, the majority of the clients were attractive and sexy, and the sex was good.  Indeed, I often believed the sex was better than that I’d had with anonymous hook-ups, for reasons I didn’t entirely understand but was definitely aware of."  You are not the only provider who has these sentiments; I have heard it from many different ones.  TBH, I'm very amazed.  I guess I need to expand my horizon and cast away my stereotypical views of this hobby.

Nice read. Very well-written! Thanks for sharing.

Outside of this community here, just a couple know for sure that I escort. My husband knows (he once escorted himself) and I share everything with him. Then there is a bodyworker I see every couple of weeks, and we talk shop. I've mentioned it to my doc and he was unfazed, but after all he's a gay MD in San Francisco. 
I do wonder if others know, and just haven't said anything. That's always in the back of my mind. 
Quite some time ago I wrote an essay about it here. Have a look if you have nothing better to do! 😛

Outside of this community here, just a couple know for sure that I escort. My husband knows (he once escorted himself) and I share everything with him. Then there is a bodyworker I see every couple of weeks, and we talk shop. I've mentioned it to my doc and he was unfazed, but after all he's a gay MD in San Francisco. 
I do wonder if others know, and just haven't said anything. That's always in the back of my mind. 
Quite some time ago I wrote an essay about it here. Have a look if you have nothing better to do! 😛

Outside of this community here, just a couple know for sure that I escort. My husband knows (he once escorted himself) and I share everything with him. Then there is a bodyworker I see every couple of weeks, and we talk shop. I've mentioned it to my doc and he was unfazed, but after all he's a gay MD in San Francisco. 
I do wonder if others know, and just haven't said anything. That's always in the back of my mind. 
Quite some time ago I wrote an essay about it here. Have a look if you have nothing better to do! 😛

I wouldn’t assume that necessarily. Checking the Daddy box on the into list could mean he’s into older guys, or is into a Daddy/“Son” scenario, and/or he considers himself a Daddy. Best just to ask! 

I agree with @Jamie21 and @SecretProvider, I think the intent is to minimize the transactional nature and just focus on the quality of the experience overall. I'd say that's especially true in the context of a BFE date.
Most will either leave the cash somewhere visible (either in an envelope or exposed), or discreetly place it into my hand or pocket. I get the sense the client also wants to keep it discreet, so I just say thank you and wait until later to count it. Some clients will count it out, or ask for me to count it out, but that's rare. And I can't remember the last time (or any time?) I've been shorted.
The rise of the payment apps makes it more transactional though if the payment is made during the appointment. There is the need to ask for the payment handle, or provide the QR code, and most clients want to see confirmation that the payment has gone through. I'm fine with all that, but that's quite different than the discreet handover of cash. It is a transaction after all, one all of us here feel is fair and without shame, so in respects that's a positive thing that we can just be open and up front about it. I have one regular client who sends the electronic payment right before the appointment, which is nice since then it's all sorted and done so the appointment can end without the transactional aspect. Of course that requires trust, but since we're regulars it works. 

I wouldn’t assume that necessarily. Checking the Daddy box on the into list could mean he’s into older guys, or is into a Daddy/“Son” scenario, and/or he considers himself a Daddy. Best just to ask! 

I wouldn’t assume that necessarily. Checking the Daddy box on the into list could mean he’s into older guys, or is into a Daddy/“Son” scenario, and/or he considers himself a Daddy. Best just to ask! 

Outside of this community here, just a couple know for sure that I escort. My husband knows (he once escorted himself) and I share everything with him. Then there is a bodyworker I see every couple of weeks, and we talk shop. I've mentioned it to my doc and he was unfazed, but after all he's a gay MD in San Francisco. 
I do wonder if others know, and just haven't said anything. That's always in the back of my mind. 
Quite some time ago I wrote an essay about it here. Have a look if you have nothing better to do! 😛

Outside of this community here, just a couple know for sure that I escort. My husband knows (he once escorted himself) and I share everything with him. Then there is a bodyworker I see every couple of weeks, and we talk shop. I've mentioned it to my doc and he was unfazed, but after all he's a gay MD in San Francisco. 
I do wonder if others know, and just haven't said anything. That's always in the back of my mind. 
Quite some time ago I wrote an essay about it here. Have a look if you have nothing better to do! 😛

I wouldn’t assume that necessarily. Checking the Daddy box on the into list could mean he’s into older guys, or is into a Daddy/“Son” scenario, and/or he considers himself a Daddy. Best just to ask! 

Thank you guys for offering this perspective, which I have never thought of before.

I agree with @Jamie21 and @SecretProvider, I think the intent is to minimize the transactional nature and just focus on the quality of the experience overall. I'd say that's especially true in the context of a BFE date.
Most will either leave the cash somewhere visible (either in an envelope or exposed), or discreetly place it into my hand or pocket. I get the sense the client also wants to keep it discreet, so I just say thank you and wait until later to count it. Some clients will count it out, or ask for me to count it out, but that's rare. And I can't remember the last time (or any time?) I've been shorted.
The rise of the payment apps makes it more transactional though if the payment is made during the appointment. There is the need to ask for the payment handle, or provide the QR code, and most clients want to see confirmation that the payment has gone through. I'm fine with all that, but that's quite different than the discreet handover of cash. It is a transaction after all, one all of us here feel is fair and without shame, so in respects that's a positive thing that we can just be open and up front about it. I have one regular client who sends the electronic payment right before the appointment, which is nice since then it's all sorted and done so the appointment can end without the transactional aspect. Of course that requires trust, but since we're regulars it works. 

There’s nobody I dislike enough to turn green with envy.

Life is too short to hide myself anymore. I hid myself when I was young because i was gay, then because I was a big guy. I felt the world was telling me I didn't belong, and since moving to San Francisco, I learned to tell the world to just stuff it. So, I am pretty open about it. My sister knows I give sexy back rubs and thinks it's hilarious. My besties and close friends all know what I do, and I will tell them about important events. Of course, details are minimal, but my work is known. All my friends who know me chuckle and say it seems like a good fit. 

What other meaning is there?
 

Thanks for sharing this. Although it’s about a woman and she works at a brothel, there was a lot that resonated for me here. It’s a very insightful read. 
But damn, those rates they can charge! I know women sexworkers may more than their male counterparts, but wow. More power to them! 

Mike is sure indeed.  You will not be disappointed.  When you first meet him he is real quiet but once you get to know him he will open up

Take Prep and get vax /boosters for Flu, COVID, and MP. Safety first. Common cold: count on it. Nice surprise if you don't! 
There will be all body types - hot guys, avg guys, older bears, skinny students, and in all races (potentially) and ages. No one is everyone's type (except for the one hung god) so you may be turned away. Yes it's personal, but more, it's just the nature of the venue. Average guys do very well at bathhouses. Most have an overall friendly vibe. We're all playmates there to have fun, right?
If your wit and charm are your biggest assets, save those for the TV Lounge. Very little, and hushed, conversation is taking place in the cruising spaces. Eye contact is key. Be open. 
First time, maybe get a room - you have a place to retreat and process the vibe, and enjoy provided video (no phones allowed) for motivation to resume the promenade. Bring personal toiletries and towelettes. 
If approached by someone you're not into, indicate it kindly. 'Thanks, maybe later' 

This YouTube video made me laugh out loud.
 

Always a good reminder. At least the Tok is teaching me new skills and not just rage baiting.  
At night, I prefer to read 20th century history.