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On the other side of the pejorative side, one unexpected benefit of the apps in recent years is that older men are no longer "invisible" to younger men, as was the case for decades. Quite out of the blue, as I have gotten older, I have noticed the large percentage of men in their 30s and 40s (even their 20s) who profess an attraction to older men. At first being called "daddy" seemed offensive and insulting to me, but the first time I realized it was not being said to put me down but because the younger man was attracted, I was shocked. 
So it makes sense that it means something specific to you, given your actual parent status, but take a moment and consider what it might mean to the younger man who is calling you that. You might find a very positive mutual connection there.  

In the gay community it's used as a term of endearment. 

I have a husband, and we're able to make it work - with boundaries. One of the things is I always tell him who I'm seeing and where, and when I come home I tell him how it went. A number of my clients know about my husband too.
One of our agreements is I do not take overnights here in town. He's OK with me doing overnights when I'm away traveling, but says it bugs him knowing I'm in town with someone else. I get it, and stick to our agreement.
I also have to be careful not to take too many appointments, because it takes away from our time with each other. If it feels like I'm spending too much time out of the house, I'll decline some appointments. I like spending time with him, so it's not just him having me at home, but also me being able to be at home with him (and the dogs) too.
Ordinarily I'd say don't rush to get married, and instead try living together and see how it goes. But you mentioned your guy is an immigrant, so I'm guessing there is a practical side to the marriage proposition.
You'd mentioned that you should have known better, and wonder whether your enjoyment of massages makes you a hypocrite. Don't think like that... you're either being gaslit, or taking on blame that is not deserved.
Happy to talk further in PM.

I have a husband, and we're able to make it work - with boundaries. One of the things is I always tell him who I'm seeing and where, and when I come home I tell him how it went. A number of my clients know about my husband too.
One of our agreements is I do not take overnights here in town. He's OK with me doing overnights when I'm away traveling, but says it bugs him knowing I'm in town with someone else. I get it, and stick to our agreement.
I also have to be careful not to take too many appointments, because it takes away from our time with each other. If it feels like I'm spending too much time out of the house, I'll decline some appointments. I like spending time with him, so it's not just him having me at home, but also me being able to be at home with him (and the dogs) too.
Ordinarily I'd say don't rush to get married, and instead try living together and see how it goes. But you mentioned your guy is an immigrant, so I'm guessing there is a practical side to the marriage proposition.
You'd mentioned that you should have known better, and wonder whether your enjoyment of massages makes you a hypocrite. Don't think like that... you're either being gaslit, or taking on blame that is not deserved.
Happy to talk further in PM.

Please share his contact info. I’m interested in booking him.

I have a husband, and we're able to make it work - with boundaries. One of the things is I always tell him who I'm seeing and where, and when I come home I tell him how it went. A number of my clients know about my husband too.
One of our agreements is I do not take overnights here in town. He's OK with me doing overnights when I'm away traveling, but says it bugs him knowing I'm in town with someone else. I get it, and stick to our agreement.
I also have to be careful not to take too many appointments, because it takes away from our time with each other. If it feels like I'm spending too much time out of the house, I'll decline some appointments. I like spending time with him, so it's not just him having me at home, but also me being able to be at home with him (and the dogs) too.
Ordinarily I'd say don't rush to get married, and instead try living together and see how it goes. But you mentioned your guy is an immigrant, so I'm guessing there is a practical side to the marriage proposition.
You'd mentioned that you should have known better, and wonder whether your enjoyment of massages makes you a hypocrite. Don't think like that... you're either being gaslit, or taking on blame that is not deserved.
Happy to talk further in PM.

I have a husband, and we're able to make it work - with boundaries. One of the things is I always tell him who I'm seeing and where, and when I come home I tell him how it went. A number of my clients know about my husband too.
One of our agreements is I do not take overnights here in town. He's OK with me doing overnights when I'm away traveling, but says it bugs him knowing I'm in town with someone else. I get it, and stick to our agreement.
I also have to be careful not to take too many appointments, because it takes away from our time with each other. If it feels like I'm spending too much time out of the house, I'll decline some appointments. I like spending time with him, so it's not just him having me at home, but also me being able to be at home with him (and the dogs) too.
Ordinarily I'd say don't rush to get married, and instead try living together and see how it goes. But you mentioned your guy is an immigrant, so I'm guessing there is a practical side to the marriage proposition.
You'd mentioned that you should have known better, and wonder whether your enjoyment of massages makes you a hypocrite. Don't think like that... you're either being gaslit, or taking on blame that is not deserved.
Happy to talk further in PM.

I just correct them with, "That's bitch to you, punk."

If I'm wanting to do a daddy/boy scene, then no issue for me.  But if a random guy at a bar calls me daddy, I will usually correct him that it is grandpa

Maybe I'm old fashioned or had learned this from my mom, but I thought it's customary to provide service folks with small gifts or bonuses this time of year. A little cash or something to the mail carrier, paperboy (if there is still such a thing), hairdresser/barber, cleaners, etc.
So I'd think if an escort or massage provider is a regular, a small gift would be in keeping with this tradition. Of course there is passion involved with an escort/masseur's services so that might confuse things a bit, but a bit of extra cash or a small gift seems just fine.

As someone with a December birthday, this resonates! 🤣

Not sure if "passed on" matches, my scenario but when I was looking for my first hire from a handful of providers, things weren't going as well as I hoped. After some homework the guy who was my "first choice" didn't have the best feedback from the clients I reached out to. My second and third choice didn't accept female clients. Fourth choice (student_brad) was not what I would have picked for myself right off the bat, and I wasn't sure they'd be a fit and they didn't have a lot of reviews in general, but the feedback from clients I reached out to was glowing and stood out. So I took the leap of faith and hired him. it's working out so well frankly I'm not looking for other providers at the moment. 
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This is similar to my situation. I have a hybrid 9-5 that allows me some WFH days. If I need to meet someone during the day, I coordinate it with my WFH schedule and then block off the time on my calendar as a long lunch. I'm obligated to bill 40 hours per week so have to make up the time elsewhere.
But most of my clients are wanting to meet evenings. That works out well with the 9-5, but as others have mentioned, can make for some long and tiring days. If I'm meeting a client at 9 pm and need to get up the next morning at 6 am, that takes a toll (and just becomes worse with age, lol). I only take a few clients a week though, so like @DznNYC mentions, it becomes a highlight of the day that I look forward to.

I’m not able to host either, and it’s definitely a challenge. Most clients want incalls. As @SecretProvider suggests, I also use Dayuse for incalls when needed. 
An advantage of Dayuse is I can choose a hotel that’s convenient for the client. This works really well for meeting clients in the South Bay. 

I'm polyamorous so it's different I guess. I don't experience jealousy, I experience what is called compersion, which is the feeling of joy/happiness you get when the people you care about are doing things that provide them joy and happiness even if they do not include you. My previous BFE provider and I met regularly, did overnights, traveled, etc and when we were not together we still chatted and what not and I knew of their travel schedule and I would tell him "Hope you get tons of good work in X!". IDK, it's not an issue for me jealousy that is. With other providers am more comfortable with and we've arranged a set rate already I always tell them that if we have a booking but someone else is offering more for that time, to let me know and we can move it to another time/day no problem, I want for them all the success in the world.
Maybe I'm just weird 🤷‍♂️

I’m not able to host either, and it’s definitely a challenge. Most clients want incalls. As @SecretProvider suggests, I also use Dayuse for incalls when needed. 
An advantage of Dayuse is I can choose a hotel that’s convenient for the client. This works really well for meeting clients in the South Bay. 

I’m not able to host either, and it’s definitely a challenge. Most clients want incalls. As @SecretProvider suggests, I also use Dayuse for incalls when needed. 
An advantage of Dayuse is I can choose a hotel that’s convenient for the client. This works really well for meeting clients in the South Bay. 

I had originally responded to purplekow's asking for interest in 2026 Palm Springs.  Thought I should also reply to this Official Palm Springs message.  I have booked the Hacienda for April 7-14 so I will be there.  Looking forward to see you all there and sharing our adventures.

I would say the customer is always right until they're wrong.  And some cross that threshold much faster than others.

Like a comb?
 

Yes, if I want to change the rates in my profile, not only do I need to use a VPN set to somewhere outside the US, I also need to change my location on Rentmen to somewhere outside the US. 

From what I can tell, three conditions must be met for rates to appear in RMen:
1.- The provider must be located outside the United States. There might be other countries but this is the only one I know of.
2.- The client must also be outside the United States or use a VPN to simulate a non-US location.
3.- The provider must complete the “rates” fields in their profile.

I love that photo. The book was on the coffee table in the lobby of the hotel I was staying at in Palm Springs last month and grabbed a pic… 
 

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There’s definitely a market for older guys in the profession. For me, I never thought I’d be doing this in my 50s but have found clients who specifically want someone older. 
All the best to you!

I love that photo. The book was on the coffee table in the lobby of the hotel I was staying at in Palm Springs last month and grabbed a pic…