Delays in appointments, when to throw in the towel?

[massagefan320]

I normally don't hire escorts as much as I hire masseurs.  I know there are flakes both with clients and providers.  I overheard my cardiologist tell his nurse, there were three no-show patients today.

I read a thread discussing total flaking when someone is not responding, but the provider I was supposed to see tonight was responding.  someone who is well reviewed on this message board.  I asked for an appointment in the evening, and he gave me a time, I said ok.  He texted me about an hour before the appointment asking if we could move it half an hour, I said ok.  As the appointment time approached, he asked if we could move it another half an hour.  I reluctantly said ok, but I told him I couldn't do any time after.  Then I got a message later saying it wasn't going to happen tonight.  I wasn't offered any excuse on why the appointment couldn't happen, like the subway was late, the super wanted to fix something, etc.  

After one delay, should I have just said, forget it?  I have never met this provider before.  I don't live in the city, so I literally can't wait all night.  Also, this typically happens to me on Sunday afternoons/nights, I assume people are just out of town and can't get back into the city in time?  They are hanging out with their friends, or with another client I assume?  Also, when do providers normally want to work, M-F 9-5?  I know it depends, but just for the sake of my time, weekend nights I get flaked on the most.

[jeezifonly]

A) There can be legitimate extenuating circumstances behind canceling a confirmed business appointment with a new client. 

B) There can be rude, time-wasting flakes who do not care at all.

C) The cause for first-time meeting to get cancelled can be either of the above. 

D) It's almost never A)

Note: Clients and providers both experience this. Gut feeling will tell you how many adjustments you ought to make before cutting bait. 

 

 

[+ Jamie21]

Work time is extremely random because you never know when you’ll get clients and they tend to book with short notice (a few days in advance at most, often on the day). So you end up having wide working time availability to maximise bookings. That still leaves you kicking your heels sometimes so you have lots of ‘plan B’ activities ready in case no one books. It does mean lots of juggling and last minute changes of plan. 

I’m mainly available 10am to 10pm weekdays (that’s the window not the shift!!!) and weekends it’s daytime. The pattern I see is that most guys want to schedule within those broad times and Saturday or Sunday evening is quite unusual. I try to keep those times clear to do other pre planned things. That’s probably why you find guys more flaky those times. He probably was doing something else and took your booking in the expectation/hope he’d be free but it didn’t work out. He probably shouldn’t have taken it or he should have warmed you he might have to postpone when you booked. I decline the booking if there’s a good chance I’ll be delayed because it’s just too stressful trying to make the time and then giving a good service.