DrownedBoy

I need a taller partner so they can be properly dominant during BDSM play. However, I'm so short that it's hard to find an escort that's shorter. I've noticed, in my personal life, I tend to attract short dominants (but taller than me) who like feeling/appearing taller by standing by me. I've seen that pattern in heteros too.

I've had some providers who grandfathered me in, and others didn't. The main reason was because I don't ask for them to cum.

If a provider is marked Available Now, and they don't respond within 15 minutes, I text my next choice. Sequential, yes, but the prize goes to the most professional. If you're available, you need to respond. I say clearly that I'm looking to hire that night, so I'm being transparent. And if someone texts back too late, I honestly tell them that they didn't respond and I've already hired the guy that did. Luckily, a pool of regulars allows me to avoid that. However, the guys who get in that pool already proved themselves by being professional.

Just what the others said - supply and demand at work. As the economy gets harder more people need extra money and get ads. This market works like any others. I had a former regular complain how Venezuelan refugees were undercutting him. When he raised his rates, I switched to said Venezuelans and found a eager, humble, and lower priced group. Markets don't care about what you think you're worth, or even what you need. My salary hasn't kept up with inflation, because the firm knows it's a low hire low fire market. That needs to get passed down to my discretionary spending.

THC in small doses and the right type (hybrid) can greatly enhance sex, but too much will kill your boner. I use small-dose edibles and it enhances my orgasm; a whole joint might kill it.

It's a spot exchange market in the U.S., an old-fashioned one due to illegality. One that's been around before we even had formal "free markets."

The only time a provider ever brought up his birthday was because he thought he was entitled to a present. He wasn't. I don't celebrate my birthday given my background, so I don't consider them relevant.

Providers need to vent about work problems, and everyone likes someone to listen to them. I've heard lots of stories about clients - good ones, bad ones, cheap ones, dangerous ones. No provider has ever named the client, but many of them seem to need to get it out of their system. While I learned a lot, this year all my regulars are non-English speakers. They've yet to Google Translate me about trouble clients.

It's not politically correct, but it seems to me like white escorts charge a premium for their color. So-so white guys charge the same or more than a hotter black or Asian guy. I consider that funny revenge for the "preference" guys. It's been two years since I hired a white guy.

The only people who quote 400 to me are really popular escorts with 100 reviews. I stopped hiring those types. I've met escorts ask for 350 who instantly accept 500 for two hours, down to 250 effectively. Also, the past months I've been contacted several times by old providers and new ones desperate to get hired. The K shaped economy is hitting them hard, so it's a buyer's market, from what I can tell.

I was thinking of traveling to Bangkok, but one issue is I'd need someone who knows the language and the scene well enough to guide and help me find the types of guys I'd want to hire. Several online pages offer "red district guides". I was looking for someone who can help me identify truly-gay gogo-dancers and such, and help me arrange the bar fee. I was thinking of getting an A/C Airbnb and inviting one or more guys over a night. Has anyone had experience with guides in Bangkok, and are some willing to work in this capacity?

Tracy Kidder just died, and I've been meaning to read my coffee-table version of "Soul of a New Machine" again (haven't since BSCS in college; won the Pulitzer on describing how one of the first commercial desktop computers was made). Otherwise was reading "Washington" by Ron Chernow, the same guy who wrote Hamilton's biography. He's very good at getting at the hidden psychology of famous people; I never knew Washington was really a very emotionally volatile person who put on an act his entire life.

Cut the cord. To be fair, say if they don't arrive by X o'clock, the session is cancelled. Don't give them more than 15 more minutes. For regulars you can be more open, but if they flake and ghost, drop them. Last time that happened to me, the guy claimed his phone ran out of power. I informed him his replacement was already on the way. It's a buyer's market, and escorts need to understand they're competing with a loooot of other providers.

I used to place the envelope on a table and subtly point it out to them. Several providers actually didn't notice it and I had to point it out to them when they asked for an app payment. So I switched to Zelle. Besides, withdrawing cash draws more scrutiny and attention lately.

Arrogant prick.

Let's just say I don't care for overweight escorts but I'm too polite to tell him to his face.

Agree with the above. You DO NOT go into debt over non-essential spending, and hiring isn't essential. Budget, budget, and stick to the budget. One thing I noticed. Some providers can and do judge and treat you based on how wealthy they think you are. Some brats got an unpleasant surprise when they learned I had a Premium RentMen account....but not until after the session was over and their attitude, outside.

He's an excellent kisser, but "beefy" is a polite way to describe his body.

I just recently did that, as I've grown in interests and my regular didn't. I spoke to him about it, but he kept avoiding doing more. When he declared he wasn't interested in the new things I was interested in, I simply stopped hiring him. He has his boundaries.

Regularity, although I'm willing to switch the regulars. Every new hire means more BDSM training. At least they have Spanish videos online.

Good. Had a guy ask me if I wanted him to bring poppers. I said no and quickly ghosted him.

Nah, it's cum breath. Never had that problem with an escort, but some partners think it's a turn on, not something you use mouthwash for.

Worse sometimes. I know of one Russian woman who was caught in America trying to marry a 70 year old man. After getting removed, although technically it's only 10 years, in reality there's no chance of then getting naturalized.

Unfortunately, you can't force people to be gentlemen on a forum like this. I have noticed this - sometimes forum members who gratuitously post opinions about an escort without knowing them will quickly change their mind and sometimes even apologize if confronted by the provider on this forum. I still think the forum is useful for providers to read, but there's little incentive to post here. Also, please note that providers are not universally nice people, and we've had gratuitous rude remarks from some of them as well. As it is, it looks like clients will have to simply be happy they have a place to chat, and this is a great resource that way.

Question - does PNP have to work both ways? I had an....unpleasant encounter with an escort who (without telling me ahead of time) took two doses of G (the second dose came after he got me off). He then tried to force himself on me (I don't do anal with providers and had made that extremely clear to him). He wanted to party; I didn't but he still managed to get his tip into me before I kicked him away.