DrownedBoy

I was thinking of traveling to Bangkok, but one issue is I'd need someone who knows the language and the scene well enough to guide and help me find the types of guys I'd want to hire. Several online pages offer "red district guides". I was looking for someone who can help me identify truly-gay gogo-dancers and such, and help me arrange the bar fee. I was thinking of getting an A/C Airbnb and inviting one or more guys over a night. Has anyone had experience with guides in Bangkok, and are some willing to work in this capacity?

Tracy Kidder just died, and I've been meaning to read my coffee-table version of "Soul of a New Machine" again (haven't since BSCS in college; won the Pulitzer on describing how one of the first commercial desktop computers was made). Otherwise was reading "Washington" by Ron Chernow, the same guy who wrote Hamilton's biography. He's very good at getting at the hidden psychology of famous people; I never knew Washington was really a very emotionally volatile person who put on an act his entire life.

Cut the cord. To be fair, say if they don't arrive by X o'clock, the session is cancelled. Don't give them more than 15 more minutes. For regulars you can be more open, but if they flake and ghost, drop them. Last time that happened to me, the guy claimed his phone ran out of power. I informed him his replacement was already on the way. It's a buyer's market, and escorts need to understand they're competing with a loooot of other providers.

I used to place the envelope on a table and subtly point it out to them. Several providers actually didn't notice it and I had to point it out to them when they asked for an app payment. So I switched to Zelle. Besides, withdrawing cash draws more scrutiny and attention lately.

Arrogant prick.

Let's just say I don't care for overweight escorts but I'm too polite to tell him to his face.

Agree with the above. You DO NOT go into debt over non-essential spending, and hiring isn't essential. Budget, budget, and stick to the budget. One thing I noticed. Some providers can and do judge and treat you based on how wealthy they think you are. Some brats got an unpleasant surprise when they learned I had a Premium RentMen account....but not until after the session was over and their attitude, outside.

He's an excellent kisser, but "beefy" is a polite way to describe his body.

I just recently did that, as I've grown in interests and my regular didn't. I spoke to him about it, but he kept avoiding doing more. When he declared he wasn't interested in the new things I was interested in, I simply stopped hiring him. He has his boundaries.

Regularity, although I'm willing to switch the regulars. Every new hire means more BDSM training. At least they have Spanish videos online.

Good. Had a guy ask me if I wanted him to bring poppers. I said no and quickly ghosted him.

Nah, it's cum breath. Never had that problem with an escort, but some partners think it's a turn on, not something you use mouthwash for.

Worse sometimes. I know of one Russian woman who was caught in America trying to marry a 70 year old man. After getting removed, although technically it's only 10 years, in reality there's no chance of then getting naturalized.

Unfortunately, you can't force people to be gentlemen on a forum like this. I have noticed this - sometimes forum members who gratuitously post opinions about an escort without knowing them will quickly change their mind and sometimes even apologize if confronted by the provider on this forum. I still think the forum is useful for providers to read, but there's little incentive to post here. Also, please note that providers are not universally nice people, and we've had gratuitous rude remarks from some of them as well. As it is, it looks like clients will have to simply be happy they have a place to chat, and this is a great resource that way.

Question - does PNP have to work both ways? I had an....unpleasant encounter with an escort who (without telling me ahead of time) took two doses of G (the second dose came after he got me off). He then tried to force himself on me (I don't do anal with providers and had made that extremely clear to him). He wanted to party; I didn't but he still managed to get his tip into me before I kicked him away.

God, the BART diet is bad enough to live on when you're waiting for a colonoscopy. I nearly had to live on BART during an intense vacation with a horny ex.

I agree with the above - I've had escorts who have had bad experiences on this site, and had to defend at least 2 regulars here. The best advice I could give an escort is to: 1. Read to see what the providers are saying to increase chances of hires 2. Making a single introduction and taking PMs. At least twice I've seen providers try to defend themselves, including one who walked out early on me. Per the thread on that guy, enough people spoke about his cheating (EDIT and were encouraged to report him to RM) that his ad was removed by RentMen. At the very least, this forum should demonstrate that clients aren't all scared closet cases who are afraid to speak up when they're cheated or treated badly. A useful lesson for providers to learn.

I'm getting requests for face time, etc., from providers. You can be sure if they want a WhatsApp or SnapChat talk, they're not serious. I continue to turn down any photo/facetime requests. Some younger providers turn the rest of the hiring process into a joke if you turn down the photos, so I have to cut them down to size and block them. Entitled little brats - if you only want to spend time with attractive people you're in the wrong business.

Ace ghosted me after my initial contact. No idea why, but I don't beg for attention.

Personally, this is why I distrust sites without powerful feedback loops. You may have hired well off Grindr before, but it is risky. You can't even trust Grindr hookups (one said he'd kiss if a sucked him off; he decided not to uphold his side of the bargain afterwards; I should have slapped him). Some scammers specialize in these ridiculous and absurd tactics to get out of doing things. The last time someone on RentMen tried that on me, his ad was down within two weeks. Grindr is unaccountability incarnate.

I tried hiring him once. I scheduled a day ahead of time and suddenly he ghosted me when I texted him, as he had requested, to confirm. A couple hours later, he claimed something came up, apparently so quickly he couldn't even text me. I informed him I had already hired a replacement. Unprofessional in the highest - that landed him on my block list.

It's essential to me too (although I like getting my throat f&$&ed with his tongue more than making out). ALWAYS ask ahead of time, even if they list kissing, and confirm they do DTK. if they don't, I offer them a fee to leave. If they refuse, I tell my Alexa to call 911 ( to report someone refusing to leave my home). As of yet nobody's stayed long enough for me to report them.

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Nice story. I once dated a masseur, but I was never really a "customer." Unless you count the fact that I had to pay for massages with my ass. EDIT And he could be so aggressively horny that sometimes I wished I could have paid cash for a massage.

This year I've been hiring almost exclusively non-English speaking Latinos, and I insist they speak only Spanish and correct mine. It's a great addition to Rosetta Stone, real (but very simple and basic) conversation. And I file the Zelle payments as "Spanish instruction". They seemed more flattered to end up as a language tutor than finding it weird. And glad this hobby can lead to personal improvement.