DrownedBoy

Benjamin Franklin, Advice to a Young Man on the Choice of a Mistress (1745)

And that's practically the only age at which you might sleep with a provider for free. But I'm talking pre-apps here.

It takes practice, to figure out the right words, timing, and tone to take when contacting people. Keep working at it and you'll get there. Several times, I had new providers tell me that the moment they read my initial text, they knew I was both serious and a good client. To write those texts: Always politely ask if they're taking customers, make sure you read their ad in full, give them a name to call you by, use full sentences (with correct grammar and spelling), and call them by their assumed name.

Don't forget Andrew Cunanan, that really well-educated prep school boy. Whenever I hear people talk about the power of Chicago street gangs like Kings and Disciples, I realize they haven't paid attention to Chicago since 2000. Those days are over.

Ah. The same as Chicago. Gotcha.

Yeah, and some of us literally went from boy to man during his 15 year career 😜

I figured cops in NYC wouldn't dare enforce that laws on large amount of gays. I'd imagine you'd get accused if homophobia if you tried enforcing the same law that triggered Stonewall.

He's changed in the near-decade since I met him.

The only time an escort got violent with me was at a hotel restaurant, and the manager's response was exactly how you described. Guards escorted him away while keeping him from yelling out threats and screaming to the room that he was a male prostitute. Drug use doesn't always make for good sessionss. And, yes. I find it useful to have the number of the local police switchboard (not the direct 911 line) on my phone. The moment you start saying, "There's a man here who's yelling and refuses to leave....," watch the fake escort run. Then you apologize to the cop and go to bed.

You can have a "preference" for circumcised men, but still meet up with both. I just insist on giving their foreskin a little sponge bath before sticking it in my mouth.

Unfortunately true. I've set up appointments with several who spontaneously decided to do something fun (not business related) at the time of the session. I did not reschedule.

This. It's unlikely the police or law will ever get involved, especially if you're in a liberal city. But if someone has it in for you, you can be traced and followed. I doubt that many of us have enemies that obsessed or resourceful. I for one am not important enough for that.

You haven't viewed America through Fox news...

No, it's always been like that. Some escorts schedule, others like "right away." Same for clients. You found your preference.

Kicked him out.

Better than Chicago, where some are still staying at police stations.... One thing - Venezuelans speak a different dialect of Spanish. They don't even use "bano" for bathroom. No wonder my hs Spanish isn't adequate.

It depends on how far in advance it is. However, usually, if a provider doesn't answer within 24 hours, they're never going to answer. And I'm not going to keep begging anyone with additional texts. If I'm doing right-now hiring, I only give them 30 minutes. I've had to tell more than one potential provider that they took too long to get back, so I already hired a replacement. Plenty of fish in the RM sea.

No. First of all, the communication problems makes it difficult to find out if they'll do what you want, or if they understand what they're getting into. Second, I don't believe they have the experience and reliability to demand a full 300/hour (let alone more). They're new to the country ("influx"), and probably lack experience in SW. You don't start at the top of the ladder, and you don't charge that if you have 0 reviews. According to providers in my area, Venezuelan refugees are primarily on Grindr and massively undercutting prices, but only through increased risk of a scam or bad session. I don't know if that's true, but that's what many of them believe, or at least tell their clients.

Turn on WGN in the morning to find out who got shot on the "L" overnight in Chicago.

This. A lot of guys who charge outrageous rates, for whatever reason, never keep their RM ad up more than a month. That's supply and demand too.

Once texted a provider who kept answering detailed requests with "hi." After the second response, I responded with one word as well. "Nevermind. "

I know in Thailand, citizens can get free (or very cheap) vocational training, including in massage.

And still, there are a lot of entitled providers who demand Ubers. See how far you get if you tell your boss you need a stipend to get an Uber for work...

Hardly confined to here. Even Grindr leads to fights over Uber rides.

Ditto. It's a real problem for those of us without a low gag reflex 😝