DrownedBoy

Totally agree. I've seen this as a common problem with younger escorts. My past reasons for "firing" a regular include increasingly disrespectful behavior, chronic tardiness, a refusal to perform services they did in the past, and outright personality disorders they could no longer control (brought on by drug use). There's only one regular I've kept almost a decade. He locked in his rate then (although I tip), and actually refined his technique, developing (ahem BDSM) skills beyond others I met, hired or otherwise. And he brings younger amateur guys with him if asked, at wholesale. He gets extremely regular business with me and a Christmas bonus 😄 It's a rarity to find honest, mature professionals who are intelligent enough to see the long term advantages of playing nice. Every other regular I had followed the negative pattern I described.

I have a long-time regular who brings non-escort types as extras (college students, exotic dancers who aren't fully into escorting, etc.) for edit threesomes. He does make clear I have to go through him to see them, and I haven't seen them online or anything separately. And he handles the money. However, it's just great - he basically teaches them what I like during the sessions. And the price for amateurs is right.

Thank god I'm not in California....

Ugh. If I had that kind of money, I'd just go the houseboy route. Full salary and health insurance during employment. And like every other job in America, employment at will. Incentive enough to act affectionate. Getting legally married absolutely doesn't guarantee an "emotional connection", nor does it enhance the illusion of one. Re: Anna Nicole Smith.

Not dramatic enough. In LA, the cops know the spiel. Old gay guy calls cops because this young drug addicted homeless guy refuses to leave his house. He tells the cops that he was "only trying to help the kid out." The cops roll their eyes, mark it as a "domestic", and remove the homeless guy

They do that a lot. They think they're going to embarrass you, but instead, all they get is people who ignore their babbling, and security leading them out of the building.

Always ask first. The "you can suck me but I don't suck you" is a common oral statement. So is, "I'll kiss but no tongue." Make it clear beforehand, even if it is an "into".

Only time I tried contacting a guy like that on RentMen, he cancelled last minute. On this forum, I heard he did the same to another. Was just playing around.

I'd really like to take a sexcation to Africa, if possible, but looking through the advisories, there are a looooot of countries I can't even try to visit (staying away from Uganda...). I'm looking somewhere where men are available for hire, at South American-level prices. Not doing any anal sex in Africa. But the usual "safe" places like South Africa aren't that friendly to America right now. Anyone know safe places?

1. Inflation does not equal extra wages. Ask any working person. Supply and demand is the only measure, and if clients won't pay more than 300, that's what the provider gets. 2. OnlyFans income is overrated except for the most popular guys.

The proper answer to this is: "If you're not here in exactly 5 minutes, the session is cancelled. I won't buzz you in if you come even a minute later." They usually get angry and give up the act then, which lets me move on and hire someone else.

Been out since I was 19, the moment I moved out from my parents to stay at college. I grew up in a working-class neighborhood (and hs) that had a disturbing amount of toxic masculinity. Everyone was pretty certain, but I was ok if I didn't say it aloud. Kids didn't come out in h.s. back then.

I found (ahem) that even with enemas, you don't want to wait too long for an urge. Just time yourself. Otherwise it does too much work. I left an enema in too long once waiting for an "urge", and the next day I....was in the bathroom a lot in a messy way.

From what I can tell, deep down, most men are bottoms; they just learn to adapt due to the roughly 11:1 bottom:top ratio. As far as on RentMen, I know providers who don't bottom as much (or )charge more to bottom since they need to prep beforehand.

Ditto. An advantage of being short is that I never hired a guy who was taller than me, even if they exaggerated their height. Another advantage is that anyone I ever dated was also taller than me. I always wondered if that was the reason my boyfriend(s) tend to be short, but not shorter than me.

I once hired a pair of Latinos who jumped into the shower right when they arrived and stayed in for 20 minutes.

A Veggie Delight at Subway. I miss the Sonic and Wendy's burgers, not to mention the Chicago Style hot dogs (gout attacks are very painful). But my health isn't what it used to be. Damn kidneys.

When they act like they're "better" than you simply because they're younger and sexier. On the rare occasions that's happened, I've shot back with questions on how financially secure they are.

I've read a lot about older women who go to Jamaica especially for the dreadlocked, Rastafarian types. I'm wondering - have any men here had any luck finding such guys on vacation there? I understand that in Jamaica, you're largely confined to "safe" areas like resorts and such, because of the country's homophobia. Nonetheless, I've read of men who paid rastas for companionship. Any experiences here?

The moment you have feelings for a provider, it's time to stop seeing him. Especially if you get worried about stuff like this. Very unhealthy.

I have met attractive twink providers try to go twunk once they start to get older and less youthful looking. Unfortunately, it only works if they get muscle when they're still young. Otherwise it's simply aging into muscleguy.

"single straight guy" eh? Around Chicago, there's a lot of out-of-the-way places, and all you have to do is hop on Metra to get around. I am working on a retirement budget that will allow me....ample help when I get older, but I need to wait and see. The world will be much different.

Rural areas suck - that's all I can say. You'd had to pay a lot to get a decent guy to move in with you. If you want more "gig guys" you'll need to live closer to somewhere interesting.

I think you can figure that out....

No it isn't. Like you, I like relying on regulard.