DrownedBoy

The proper answer to this is: "If you're not here in exactly 5 minutes, the session is cancelled. I won't buzz you in if you come even a minute later." They usually get angry and give up the act then, which lets me move on and hire someone else.

Been out since I was 19, the moment I moved out from my parents to stay at college. I grew up in a working-class neighborhood (and hs) that had a disturbing amount of toxic masculinity. Everyone was pretty certain, but I was ok if I didn't say it aloud. Kids didn't come out in h.s. back then.

I found (ahem) that even with enemas, you don't want to wait too long for an urge. Just time yourself. Otherwise it does too much work. I left an enema in too long once waiting for an "urge", and the next day I....was in the bathroom a lot in a messy way.

From what I can tell, deep down, most men are bottoms; they just learn to adapt due to the roughly 11:1 bottom:top ratio. As far as on RentMen, I know providers who don't bottom as much (or )charge more to bottom since they need to prep beforehand.

Ditto. An advantage of being short is that I never hired a guy who was taller than me, even if they exaggerated their height. Another advantage is that anyone I ever dated was also taller than me. I always wondered if that was the reason my boyfriend(s) tend to be short, but not shorter than me.

I once hired a pair of Latinos who jumped into the shower right when they arrived and stayed in for 20 minutes.

A Veggie Delight at Subway. I miss the Sonic and Wendy's burgers, not to mention the Chicago Style hot dogs (gout attacks are very painful). But my health isn't what it used to be. Damn kidneys.

When they act like they're "better" than you simply because they're younger and sexier. On the rare occasions that's happened, I've shot back with questions on how financially secure they are.

I've read a lot about older women who go to Jamaica especially for the dreadlocked, Rastafarian types. I'm wondering - have any men here had any luck finding such guys on vacation there? I understand that in Jamaica, you're largely confined to "safe" areas like resorts and such, because of the country's homophobia. Nonetheless, I've read of men who paid rastas for companionship. Any experiences here?

The moment you have feelings for a provider, it's time to stop seeing him. Especially if you get worried about stuff like this. Very unhealthy.

I have met attractive twink providers try to go twunk once they start to get older and less youthful looking. Unfortunately, it only works if they get muscle when they're still young. Otherwise it's simply aging into muscleguy.

"single straight guy" eh? Around Chicago, there's a lot of out-of-the-way places, and all you have to do is hop on Metra to get around. I am working on a retirement budget that will allow me....ample help when I get older, but I need to wait and see. The world will be much different.

Rural areas suck - that's all I can say. You'd had to pay a lot to get a decent guy to move in with you. If you want more "gig guys" you'll need to live closer to somewhere interesting.

I think you can figure that out....

No it isn't. Like you, I like relying on regulard.

I honestly have no idea why a provider would talk politics. "Opinions are bad for business."

Text. If they're marked Available Now, give them 10 minutes before you text the next guy. Repeat. First to reach a deal wins. The others get told they should have answered quicker.

I hire providers to do physical activity, not talk or think about politics. Nor do many have enough knowledge to say anything meaningful about politics. I found hiring Latinos who speak functional English, but don't have words for more abstract concepts, are perfect here. I can spend hours listening to them and not hear a thing about politics or the news.

You could just call a gogo bar. Or hang out in one and ask who's up for stripping.

The (ahem) bored upper middle class ladies who invited landscape workers inside always offered a shower first, as well as a way to brush their teeth. The shower was always the first. I recall this 70+ wealthy widow answering the door to this 18 year old Mexican kid, and she wasn't wearing anything but a towel.

The person with the money plays judge. That's how it works.

When I filed my complaint with RentMen, they didn't publish it, but told me they would "take it into account." Apparently he was already on their sh!t list. Hopefully that bumped one more thief mascarading as an escort off the platform 😘. It's a shame we can't call the cops on these guys, so it's essential we police them ourselves. Good work to all involved.

It may be something that providers are willing to do for pay; I was referring to a hookup, which took place on equal footing. Which is no doubt why the older "gentleman" was willing to criticize the idea of me being a white slave to a black guy. I'd still worry sbout calling someone a "cotton picking n****r" unless that was made extreeeemely clear and consensual beforehand. I recall reading an article by a black writer whose partner unexpectedly blurted out the n word like that, and it very quickly ended any nice feelings between them.

No idea. My theory is that gay closeted guys are really cowardly about rocking the boat, so they give 5 stars no matter what.

I've seen reviews that gave 5 stars, but when I contacted the reviewer, who has reviewed many others, he confirmed (from what I read on CoM) that it was a horrible hire. Useless.🙃