DrownedBoy

Anyone in Chicago looking to hire with a friend?

My mistake - texting and driving is illegal in 48 states. So now you have a really good reason not to respond to obnoxious texters. Yeah, I got that from a certain 5-star provider I've been receiving inquiries about. I was in the office, and texted, "Dude, I'm WORKING," and he still wouldn't stop hounding me to change the session schedule. Since he screwed me on my schedule time, that's now an instant cancel for me. As an (older) Millennial, I can assure you that the mature among us realize that anyone who needs to be constantly texted and reassured is probably insecure, possessive, entitled, or just outright rude and inconsiderate. I used to have an a@@hole manager who would text employees with our internal IM, and if they didn't respond in 2 minutes, would start texting "ping" to us, as if we were a goddamned network host. Once, he did it to a new father who was changing his baby's diapers. The guy asked the manager if he wanted sh!t smeared all over the work computer. That shut the a@@hole up.

Yes, I've also seen it translate into a refusal to take responsibility if something beyond your control affects you. The aforementioned late, bitchy Latino was a textbook case of that. Guess what. I've been late to job interviews because there was a car accident (beyond my control) that stopped traffic. They cancelled the interview and someone else got the job. In real life, it's not an excuse - it means I should have left my place earlier to get there. These kids are going to have to learn life the hard way. In particular, Latinos need to realize that they're living in America's time culture, not Latin America's.

Tell them you don't text and drive. It's illegal in Illinois, and dangerous everywhere.

Someone in this forum suggested this, and I follow it. They ask for a face pic, I sent them a shot of Grant's $50 portrait and tell then that's all they need.

I keep trying to meet him, but am usually out of town on business when he's in Chicago. His English is unfortunately horrendous- one time I ordered him an Uber, and the driver kicked him out because he didn't know enough English to explain I had ordered it for him. The driver was black (Chicago thing). I gave Uber an earful about racism, and now don't have to worry about that driver again. But that chance flew away, and when he texted me a few days ago, I was already in Wisconsin winter quarters.

Yes, I admit you are correct there. As long as you maintain professional boundaries, I'd imagine it's ok. For example, someone like me should only have a provider satisfy their fetishes during "working hours," but all sexual activities outside those hours have to be mutual. The only difference between an FB and FWB, aside from friendship, is that FWB's also do non-sexual things outside of "working hours." My opinion.

The only time I precum is if I have some edibles beforehand. For some reason, edibles get me massively horny.

That's why I ask couples to only play with each other after I orgasm the first time. Watching them helps me build up for the second.

There's a really big difference between living the American dream and sustaining the American dream. (FOOTNOTE 1) The younger escorts I mentioned, although they live well, they realized that they couldn't save up enough money to sustain themselves at the end of their lives. Some are still in denial, knowing they're starting to expire, but having no desire to go to work or school. Even the ones who want to return to Columbia or Mexico won't be able to make 10 years of profit last an entire lifetime, unless they get lucky and invest their money right. Or start a business. Escorts who have a job or side business are in a much better and realistic position. I'm learning that when I hire - working men are a lot easier for me to relate to, since I'm decades away from retiring. They also act a hell of a lot less entitled. FOOTNOTE 1 - Although I use that phrase, the "American dream" is largely dead if you want to live in the states. Not until they construct a social safety web and create universal health care.

Yup. It's right up there with adjectives like "high quality" and "exclusive." Whenever a provider defends an oversized price tag because of that, I smile, nod, and hang up.

I 've never been keen on music. The guy who popped my cherry at 19 insisted on playing Lauper's "True Colors" when he deflowered me. He meant well, but it was so corny that I wanted to LMAO 😄

I'm sure that really hot escorts who became "kept boys" or married achieved it. EDIT Or escorts that were lucky enough to receive some inheritance from a client, a well-paying job, or even a business. With the speed at which escorts depreciate, I understand it's near-impossible to work long enough to achieve that on your own. I've met my share of providers who thought they'd live leisurely after working between age 18 and 25, but weren't able to. There's always the jet-set call boys, but that requires not only looks and a good body, but a good education as well. And they depreciate too. Remember what Andrew Cunanan ended up doing.

A lot of young guys are very entitled. One told me, "you can blow me, but I won't blow you." It doesn't bother me, since I'm an oral bottom. But I don't care for that attitude, and see it as a red flag that they won't do other things, such as French kiss.

Just get a Grindr account and drive by one of the places the government is housing them in. In Illinois, $160 million of my tax money is paying to support them, so a few cheap hookups would be a nice thank you.

If a provider doesn't respond to me, that's his prerogative. And it's my prerogative to place him on my "unreliable" list and never text him again.

One of my regulars always uses Airbnb, and I asked him this question. He said he never had a problem. And I've had no problem saying a "friend" is dropping by a rented cabin or similar place. Most people who see 2 guys hanging out don't think of sex, unless there's a reason.

That's the only reason I'd ask, but some people might find that insulting. I've only had one provider ask about my relationship status. It was the same guy who used to monitor this site and text clients who said anything about him, claiming a "lawyer" or "friend" was watching. When he texted me, I told him to learn how to read properly and lie better.

Yup. He usually comes when I'm staying at my place in Wisconsin.

It is almost never a factor. As a young twink I dated an escort, and my college sugar daddy had no problem with me dating with guys my own age. If they're in a happy relationship, I'm happy for them. And no escort has or should say anything when I hire while dating another guy.

He's a hot and (judging from his texts) nice guy. However I gave up on hiring him because he's so popular. Last Chicago visit, on the night I wanted to hire, he couldn't because he was spending the night on a yacht. That told me he's a bit out of my league 😂

When you encounter bad escort behavior, just post it in The Deli. The market can only weed out problems if information is shared.

Haha I had a provider like that. Big and intimidating from a rural area. I asked him if he used Grindr, and he said, "No way, I don't do that gay stuff, I have a girlfriend!" Despite that he French kissed. Sad closet case.

It depends on how they "reach out" when I view their profile. One guy RMd me: "Hey, so you want to get f*cked by a big black guy?" I ignored him. Another guy RMd me: "I'm offering a discount." I didn't respond or hire him, but I did look at his ad and consider him. One RM (who I had hired the day before) RMd me while I was taking time to read his interview. He said (in ruder terms than this) "Hey, are you just sitting here on my profile, or are you going to hire me?!?" I should have cancelled my existing appointment immediately. Instead, I told him who I was, and he apologized and asked for a second chance. I gave him that second chance, and he used it to walk in, grab my money, insult me, and leave to spend it on meth. Since then, if I get a rude message from a provider, even if it's meant for someone else, I immediately cut them off forever. Always trust someone when they show you what kind of person they are.

Lovely. The CPD is one of their customers. However, so is the ICE, so they could be using it on anyone who wants to "work illegally" in the U.S. Or "be in the U.S. illegally" for that matter.