DrownedBoy

When looking on social media, my biggest problem is finding out if they escort while avoiding insulting people or getting scammed. Between Scylla and Charybdis.

I'd be happy to. I never hired off Grindr, but during my vacation in Rural Wisconsin I've encountered several young men who go under that pretense, especially twinks who are "into guys in their 40s and 50s." It makes for interesting conversation. After I turned down a twink because he was obviously a hustler, we ended up speaking about business, and he claimed to have made 20K on Grindr. Another guy had a really good technique of acting like he was in a hurry to come over, then at the last minute asking for gas money via an.app. I complimented his skills (EDIT after calling him on the obvious scam), and we ended up having a humorous discussion on how easy some Grindr men are, and how Grindr tries to stop it. Fun conversations, but I'd prefer someone who'd come over. Grindr has become stricter. You can't even use the word "roses" in your profile, let alone "sugar daddy," "generous," etc.

I started working advocacy in my college gay group. Several mentors died with HIV. You do not make assumptions about my past. Period. Don't do it again.

Yes, I have a mental hangup. If I had to appear in public with an escort, I'd want one I can have intelligent conversation with. I've had dinner with hot escorts, whose main conversation topic was themselves, who seemed to have no knowledge or interests beyond thst sphere, and who acted like young spoiled brats. Empty headed guys may be perfect for a romp, but not for me to actually relate to. If you want an escort for companionship, you need to be compatible. And I look for that in the mind

Yup. College alumni networks worked the same way - they wanted college boys who could discuss the finer things. All those 'useless' courses (philosophy, art history, literature, etc.) provided cultured conversation material. It also helped to know current events, and a little about business and finance, the fields the alumni often worked in.

Depends on what kind of event it is.....

Yeah that's obvious. He seemed fixated on the idea on seeing me do stuff with another guy before he jumped in, saying he wanted to jerk off to that first. Although he didn't care about who I'm with. I'd worry about pics, but I'd hire a "believable" second guy. This regular and I get along well. He likes to.do the whole "boyfriend" facade, complete with cutesy emojis, which I can put up with since he's a nice guy.

RentBoy did a decent job of organizing. Look what happened to it. That Homeland Security bust was so absurd. It was less an arrest than union busting.

Have you considered simply doing the following, which would save a lot of work? If you have the data in storage (either relational or not), you can simply search threads for URLs and use that to identify the provider. I know URLs change, but a simple RegEx for URLs should yield a name. Another option (and I don't know how this platform works) is to natural language processing to to identify named entities (Proper nouns). If there's room for a Python script, there's a library that would do that easily. (programmer by trade and nature)

Yeah..... ....if I was hiring an escort to go to an event with me, I'd hire someone who looks believable as a date. 😄 Wouldn't get a beautiful guy.

He said he doesn't care who the 3rd is.

That's how I contact providers, although I don't like to do "follow up" texts unless I forgot to ask them something. I do read escorts' ads ahead of time. That being said, if a provider told me to "read his ad" in the manner described here, I would instantly judge that he has an attitude, and stop the conversation. A similar incident happened. I was going to order an Uber for a provider, and asked if he needed one, but he replied with a sarcastic, "Oh, an Uber is extra now?" Again, that attitude made me cut him off.

Oh, I'd trust someone from RentMen a lot more than I'd trust someone from Grindr. We all have our horror stories.

I'm in an interesting situation. One of my regulars wants me to do a three-way by hiring another escort at the same time as him. He said he'd give me a discount if he can watch and join in. Not sure what to make of that.

Ditto. I love bodybuilders, but I learned the hard way about how often they had to eat. It's a major turnoff to be with a guy who has to stuff his face full of microwaved chicken breasts every 2 hours. I just cannot mix food with sex; it's just how I think, and how my stomach automatically reacts.

I hate to admit you're right there, but that would explain a lot. I'm a little worried about hiring that type of person, since I'm sure working through an agency that sends them across border would be classified as "sex trafficking" by conservative LE reps. I'm also a tad concerned about Venezuelans. I've done some volunteer work for the Venezuelan refugees who were/are staying at Chicago police stations. I heard that some group claimed to be from a "church" and was offering a full package, job, housing, etc. Luckily, they were so suspicious that even the Venezuelans didn't fall for it (we later learned that it wasn't a "church" but some unknown group that used that word to try and gain their trust). The Venezuelan men, in particular, are desperate to find work; they constantly ask volunteers to help them find paid work. This is a dangerous situation, and could lead to something that I would morally consider sex trafficking.

I am sad to hear about this change, both for providers who have extra work, and the clients who will stop hiring because of it. I'm weird, in that I'm not too interested in dick pics. I don't bottom. If they want me to take them in my mouth, it's actually easier if they're shorter, so I can deep throat without gagging. Hope that isn't too much information.

I think clients who "fall" for providers are ignoring the fact that there's dozens of other guys the provider sees, and that acting is part of the job. I'd point that out (politely and indirectly) when it looks like someone is letting their emotions override their reason. Clients need to keep a realistic perspective. Being the obsessive classifier that I am, I personally have these "intimacy" levels, highest to lowest: 1. BF 2. FWB 3. FB I get along with 4. FB I am able to put up with An escort, no matter how nice, would never get about #3. Unfortunately, many gay men are unable to realistically recognize intimacy levels, especially if they're new to dating/hiring.

Google is your friend. All this information is available if you know where to look for it. Now please excuse me as I add you to my blocked list. I put up with enough lazy dimwits at work, and don't need to waste my free time doing so here.

Their annual revenue is 15 million. Not exactly a FAANG. And they're not publicly traded. Unfortunately, the only way competition is possible is if some court ruling legalized U.S. prostitution. There's 0% chance SCOTUS will do that. It's already been pointed out that the U.S. is using RM to crack down on visiting providers. They're already getting a fire lit under their ass. Making a competing platform would be too financially risky. The shutdown of RB mainly backfired on the Feds. The judge herself said it was unwarranted , the NYT accused Homeland Security of homophobia, and the agent who leveled the case is now in private practice. However, the political climate has changed, and that creates a chilling affect. Everyone knows that they're going after transsexuals only as a door into returning to the legal gay bashing of the past. I'd start looking for an alternative just to be safe. If MAGAites started attacking RM publicly in this political climate, the company might end up shutting down.

I had a question for providers here: Is it common to travel to cities that don't have many RM listed, and charge higher prices, to take advantage of locals? I found a guy in rural Wisconsin with 2 reviews, and he wanted 1K for 2 hours. I pointed out how high that was, and he told me to "take it or leave it." I laughed at him and left it.

That's what he did.

I did, but for some reason, they wouldn't print my comment. I did warn RentMen, and now I can say "I told you so" to them. An escort whose first review is 1-star on RM is pretty much finished. As for everyone else - they could have found this warning had they participated in this forum. EDIT: I believe it was because I lost access to the old email I had attached to FB. If they sent me an email to confirm my review, I can't receive it anymore because I lost access to that account. I'll try again with my new email.

Well that idiot got his first RM review, and it's 1 star. At least that should keep him out of trouble for awhile.

It looks like escorts get hired for companionship all the time. However, I don't think RM/FB is the place to advertise if that's the only thing you're offering. A guy in Chicago put out an RM ad for that a few years ago. The ad was gone after one month with no reviews.