DrownedBoy

Several times in the past, my bank app's Zelle sent me an SNS as MFA before it would let the transfer go through. They must have pulled that. It would stay pending then, if they didn't enter the MFA code.

Try again. Trump, Gates, Musk, Zuckerberg, etc. all came from wealthy families that were at least upper middle class. Upper middle class means you're in the top 10%.

Yup. That's why I rarely if ever hire twinks nowadays. I'd bet twinks make better house boys, but that's only because you're in a position to properly discipline them. Great for retirees

Nah. The meth guy just ran away with the money 😁

That's it. Both sides need to follow the local market. You can pay as low as 100/150 an hour and make both sides happy. In my experience, that limits your choices to: - white trash in middle-of-nowhere rural areas - escorts in economically depressed urban areas with little means of transportation - older and less attractive escorts - refugees who can't speak English If you're willing to settle for that, have at it. But don't expect much better.

Whoever is charging that is looking for idiots stupid enough to pay it. If they do, they deserve to get ripped off.

Never trust anything a provider writes in the ad. One guy spelled out that he enjoyed kissing. He refused to kiss in the session. One of the best interviews on a RM ad was by a homophobic drug addict who would grab the money and run.

Bad luck to such providers. That's business.

Also - if a provider marks themselves as "Available Now," and they don't get back to you in a few minutes, feel free to move on if you're in a hurry. If they don't respond to texts during that time, you're fully within your rights to contact someone else. They told you they were available, but they really weren't.

Text providers who are marked "Available Now" on RentMen. When you send the initial text, wait 15 minutes, then text another guy marked available. When an escort is marked "Available Now" and they miss a text, it's on them. Just start sending the texts out as early as possible, and I'm sure you'll find someone.

A small note - people here should realize that not only gay men have finding "companionship" lately. It's a societal thing. So watch out for people who might take advantage of this situation. https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2023/05/03/new-surgeon-general-advisory-raises-alarm-about-devastating-impact-epidemic-loneliness-isolation-united-states.html

Yes. There are many guys who would love to provide companionship alone, and for a much fairer price. Or even people who would graciously accept a meal and make conversation. But like the others said, you won't find them on RentMen. I recall a college guy in Chicago who bought an ad on RentMen and offered those services alone. His ad was gone after a month.

Don't feel like you should wait longer than 30-60 minutes. When providers get back to me, I just say: Dude! That was an hour ago! However, in my experience, partners don't like it when someone goes behind their back. There's a certain Chicago pair, but I once texted one when they were angry and he vented on me. So I tried to hire his partner. His partner tried to get me to hire the other guy again, but I flatly refused. I don't tolerate backtalk from some little nobody brat.

Yes. It relaxes and softens you up for the sexual torture later in the evening.

I also suspect that transactional sex doesn't fit in that triangle, unless there's another point besides "passion." I'm afraid transactional sex doesn't cover "liking" in that sense. The Greeks had several words for love too. The operative word here is "eros," or entirely erotic. Not agape or philia.

Money is always the reason, but I'm not as optimistic as to the goals. One mentioned immigrants. I know one. Was considered highly desirable 5 years ago. Is now coming to terms with his: non-fluent English, no education beyond 8th grade from some South American country, and an aversion to both working for others and going to school. Quit a free English course because he "got tired of it." Another mention is freedom. Met quite a few men who want that. Quite a few have a "I'll do what I want" attitude, and have zero respect for authority or prudence. In other words, many guys escort because they can't hold a job. That's a very dangerous path. I knew kids in my neighborhood like that. The ones who took drugs never survived their 20s, and I'm just starting to get funeral invites for the ones who turned to alcohol.

I've seen a looooot of bored upper-middle-class housewives invite one of their male Hispanic landscape workers inside for "something to drink."

There was an escort on RM who had the following quote on his ad.

That was another red flag. Ad was 2 years old but no reviews.

I just saw a new red flag recently. The provider took an hour to reply, then acted suspicious and demanded to know, first, if I'm a cop, and second, if I lived alone. Instant ghost. That second question was too creepy.

I am a paid client subscriber on RentMen. I can leave reviews, but can't see all of a provider's photos - some are still locked and require me to ask the provider to unlock. That's why I'm not impressed by providers who refuse to unlock - they can clearly see I'm a paid member and have money in the game, yet they refuse to show any details.

More dangerous for escorts. We executed Gacy 30 years ago, and every so often, Chicago police match another one of his "unidentified victims" with a missing young man via DNA. Back in the 70s, cops didn't care much about missing young gay guys, let alone escorts. They didn't even investigate him until he kidnapped a local high school honors student.

Awwww....that line once led to a nice, long, extended and unpaid session for me. A bit painful, but that's part of the attraction.

BUMP I did find a good verbal AI site that doesn't have many guardrails, and has a lot of suggestive chats. But no image generation. https://character.ai/

There's a single gay site if you have VR goggles, but it's limited to getting blown. https://virtualrealgay.com/