DrownedBoy

As a client, I never expect a provider to get hard, or get off. To be fair - I wouldn't expect all guys to get off on the same stuff I do anyway. I do recall, many years ago, giving a bj to an escort (something I almost never offer to hires). He somewhat clumsily pretended to have an orgasm. I told him it was sweet, but he didn't need to try and prop up my ego.

Yes. Even if I think a guy is physically attractive, if their ad or attitude sounds pompous or too willful, I just back off. Besides, good actors are great at roleplaying.

I'm sure for a donation they'll let you see their faces.

Just block them. I've had providers keep texting me even after a clear "no" from me.

That happened on Rentboy and made the news. I love how the guy claimed this about the escort. "I shared the Gospel of Jesus Christ with him in great detail." 😄 https://www.cbsnews.com/news/george-rekers-christian-right-leader-denies-gay-prostitution-allegation/

Most gay guys deferred their gratification for at least 18 years, during the horniest and most formative years of their life. It's not as fun as it sounds.

I don't bother hiring during big events in the city, gay or not. I too saw quite a few visiting faces for Market Days, but when I contacted a no-review newbie and he quoted me 350, I didn't bother contacting the others. Plus, trying to schedule across both personal things and providers is a hassle that weekend, and I bet a lot of other Chicago gays thought the same.

That applies to sooooo many things in this business. 😄

What someone said, it's on a 6 hour timer. If you want to discuss etiquette, you should start with providers who are marked "Available Now" and then get annoyed with you for waking them up, etc. That gets me to block them immediately. ETA notwithstanding, if a provider flags themselves as available, they should be nominally available.They should EXPECT to be contacted no matter what the time, if they've flagged themselves.

Yes, it should be, "Hi, saw you on RM, are you working?" I can't stand people who just say "hi" in a business context without anything else. I work with people like that. I just respond with a question mark waiting for them to get to the point.

That's the answer. Never ask yourself.

Yes, flakey. I tried to hire him in a regular basis, but he always came at least 45 minutes late, so I "fired" him.

And even if you told the provider, I doubt they'd care too much. A lot of providers consider themselves "sex therapists," so if you tell them, they might try to help you ease back into the groove...

Yes, an enlightening article. Makes me happy I don't care for online chatting with models. However, this is nothing new. I recall reading a newspaper article, back in 2001, on how young women had "live cams" set up in their rooms, and attracted fans and money that way. Of course, they couldn't show as much skin as today.

Ditto. A lot of providers can get forgetful, and I've seen one who, once a month, always had his ad marked as expired because he took time to pay RM. As far as contacting expired ads - I'd only do that if you already met the provider in person, and ask if they want to continue making some extra money. And even then, acknowledge that their ad is expired, and that you wish them well no matter what the response.

Yeah, there was a popular twink in Chicago years ago, and some visiting businessman hired him. He advised future clients to have him dress differently, since, in the guy's words, he dressed like a "young gay man"....

Hey, if I can find a guy in Chicago with a long, skilled tongue who kisses, I'd text him. This one guy who used to escort here (retired and moved) could practically lick my tonsils when he kissed me.

The furthest you should go is to inquire if he'll return. Your remarks on your finances indicate that you probably don't have enough money to impress him. Sorry, but it's a business.

Exactly. You'll note in the above articles that they call it "sex trafficking" when it was simply a trap for Johns. It's just a new term they made up, and they now use it everywhere. Americans are smart enough to realize "prostitution" should be legal, so LA use a new term that sounds worst. So they can continue collecting our tax dollars for victimless crimes.

Make an "approved client" list. I don't like how these a@@holes make it harder for the honest to hire.

While the hair in several pics looks like Simmons, that guy's weight indicates he would be better off following one of Simmons' exercise plans.

I watch out for names (and ad text) that emphasize words like "high class" or "exclusive." That usually translates into more $$$. I recall a thread here about a provider who called himself "Jack The Ripper" on RM. I'd imagine such a name would scare me off.

Maybe. Going back to entrapment, another factor is that LA feels pressured if people are breaking the law in plain sight. That's why they took down RB. They can't do the same to RM since it's not in America, but if police did decide to go after gay clients, using it would be like shooting fish in a barrel. And that's why this year is dangerous, since there are a lot of bastards looking to score some political points.

Ah. Instagram is like SA. I'll put it in my retirement list.

Well I guess this one old piece of sex work wisdom is gone: "If you can name the color of the cop's underwear, they have to drop the charges." 😄