DrownedBoy

His pics are 8 years old, he only has 8 reviews, and not all of them are good. Caveat emptor.

I've had a cuppa with some of my providers. I'm sure that's common in the UK, but not Chicago!

Just ignore it. You're paying him for an experience, not his moral hygiene, and even my favorite regulars shave their ages. You called him a "stranger whom I have literally invited into an intimate space of my life." But you're a stranger to him too, and yet he's entering your personal intimate space alone. Be grateful.

Yes. It requires not only good acting skills, but also a genuine enjoyment of sex (in general, not for the client). Kissing has always been my measure of how good an actor they are. You can tell so easily when they're going through motions, and most escorts do while kissing (not that I hold that against them). But I've yet to find an actor good enough to kiss like a real bf - there's always going to be a missing emotional component.

Well shoot. I think providers need to take CPR classes!

I always get asked nowadays. Guys with no reviews can be desperate, and even guys with lots of reviews push me. I've had to turn down a regular because I don't want to leave that many reviews on a single person. As I said, that's a red flag. One other thing - you always have the option to contact the client who left a review, and ask them about it. I get constant RM messages like that. Usually I tell them to join CoM and PM me here.

Very. You ever visit the main Cook County clinic? The place is so bad that lights flicker, and their medical record system is completely broken down. And yet, I saw many Latino families waiting hours there, as it was the only place they could get care.

My advice. Keep this anonymous. It doesn't make either of you look good.

It can be hard depending on the issue. I have health insurance, but I had to go to the county health clinic to get my monkeypox vaccine. Humbling experience.

Sounds like more of a green flag than a red flag. Only caveat is when there's only a handful of people giving those reviews. That's how a druggie managed to stay on RM so long a few years ago.

It's my policy to never send personal pics. If there's fakes on RM, there are also blackmailers. I keep my RM client stats accurate and available, and often send a link. The only time this was a problem was when a new hire came to my floor. I went into the condo hall to greet him, and at the same time, one of my neighbors came into the hall too. The neighbor was fat and old, and the escort greeted him, thinking that he was the client. When I called to him, he seemed relieved

It miiiight be a good idea to schedule ahead if you want to meet on a major holiday (Xmas/Thanksgiving/NY). Personally, I wonder if there were any providers who were hired to appear under the tree on Christmas morning.

The new law was watered down. Originally, they wanted to flag people with $600 of income on a cash app. They raised it to $20K and 200 transactions as the warning sign. I'd need a provider to tell me if that's dangerous.

One thing - I've seen a number of bi ads where they say they're into both men and women. Now, they probably don't get many (if any) women as customers, but it does increase their market.

This is why a gag can be such a useful accessory

Ditto to above. Despite all the talk that "there are plenty of young gays who'd date an older man," it's all bull unless you count sugar daddy relationships. I think all that talk is just advertising for Grindr or something.

I had a rookie escort bodybuilder text something like, "I promise you you'll have a great time." However, that's a warranty that can't be exercised.

Many years ago, when I read through Delany's SF work at university. Of course, I liked the idea of hulking, muscular dumb guy being attracted to a short little smart guy. And the fact that the big guy just loves short guys...

My favorite rant: "I want a $10,000-a-night hooker!!!!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HSwyMHvXsuU

This guy's 54 (older than me), and I'd let him have his way with me any day. EDIT: Not only is he hot, but from his interview, he's also a gentleman. https://rent.men/maturedmuscle

@pubic_assistance I didn't want to bring this up again, but based on past posts, you have no place in the gay community, and definitely no right to speak about it. Right now, your actions (if not substance) are pretty much the same as a closeted gay guy whose only contact with the community is when you commit adultery on your wife. I don't know of many gays who feel "owed" by young people...except by not being treated badly. I don't ask for any recognition, but I do ask not to be insulted by young gays simply for walking into a room while being old. And I don't know how you raised your kids, but as a financially-secure adult with elderly parents, I gladly perform my filial duties, whether it's visiting them, helping them out, or just being there for them. I'm capable of gratitude.

As my posts here indicate, I tend to have an aversion to the attitude held by many younger providers. I'm hiring them less and less, and only when I have a good expectation that they'll act more responsible. I could go into "grumpy old man" mode, and repeat everything about how younger providers tend to be entitled, arrogant, overpriced, and irresponsible, not to mention their inability to follow a schedule. However, as an openly gay man, the biggest attitude factor is that gay youth nowadays have a lot more privileges, acceptance, and opportunities than I and other older gays did at that age. So I see a lot of them as selfish ingrates who don't recognize how much work and pain older gay men had to go through to create the society they enjoy now. And selfish, uneducated ingratitude will make me lose a hard-on faster than anything.

As a client, I like hiring on long weekends, but that's me - and I'm not afraid to invite providers to my home.

Haha I remember the same with my first serious boyfriend. After he rimmed me, I didn't want to kiss him until he brushed his teeth

@Charlie tell him about the journal you keep. The one that fills 2 filing cabinets, I think...