DrownedBoy

I usually give an arrival grace period of 30 minutes. My regulars know I'll ask for an ETA after 15 minutes, so they always tell me ahead of time. If a provider can't do that, he's free to find another client to get money from. Just not me.

It still does on some photos. Not as helpful as you might think.

I was contacted by 3 different providers on the Friday before Memorial Day, including a traveling one that I already turned down because their rates were too high for me. There is something with the escort economy I can't put my finger on.

I have providers who work 9-5 jobs. I'm less likely to see them, because I have to schedule ahead of time, whereas many others are available every night and/or weekend. One guy I met before, he works, and wasn't even able to find a time slot over a 2-week vacation. I work 9-5 as well, and only hire on nights when I don't have to work the next morning, so I strongly respect escorts who juggle jobs as well. But they'd be better off, even if they work, by marking themselves as "available now" if they have free time. I prefer to make hiring decisions a lot closer to the session, and I can't schedule 3 weeks ahead of time when dealing with a local provider.

Can you please elaborate here?

Ditto here. I also started hiring in my 30s (for my fetishes and fantasies). The ages of providers and regulars I see has been going up for just the reasons you said (more respectful/experienced/mature/etc.). They also have enough experience to realize that good manners can lead to repeat hires, which younger ones don't always seem to care about. Because I look substantially younger than I really am, I also tend to be a "pleasant surprise" for escorts. Especially ones in their 30s, which has become a sweet spot. One note - I know a lot of escorts who list being "29" for many years in a row, but like someone said, I don't care as long as they're hot.

I don't know about that. They mentioned a woman who had affairs on her husband. For a "monogamish" marriage, it may be better for both parties to stay ignorant, as long as you protect against STDs or pregnancy. But I'm not sure I'd date someone who lied about their background to look better. In fact, I wouldn't want someone who brags about their real accomplishments all the time either.

His pics are 8 years old, he only has 8 reviews, and not all of them are good. Caveat emptor.

I've had a cuppa with some of my providers. I'm sure that's common in the UK, but not Chicago!

Just ignore it. You're paying him for an experience, not his moral hygiene, and even my favorite regulars shave their ages. You called him a "stranger whom I have literally invited into an intimate space of my life." But you're a stranger to him too, and yet he's entering your personal intimate space alone. Be grateful.

Yes. It requires not only good acting skills, but also a genuine enjoyment of sex (in general, not for the client). Kissing has always been my measure of how good an actor they are. You can tell so easily when they're going through motions, and most escorts do while kissing (not that I hold that against them). But I've yet to find an actor good enough to kiss like a real bf - there's always going to be a missing emotional component.

Well shoot. I think providers need to take CPR classes!

I always get asked nowadays. Guys with no reviews can be desperate, and even guys with lots of reviews push me. I've had to turn down a regular because I don't want to leave that many reviews on a single person. As I said, that's a red flag. One other thing - you always have the option to contact the client who left a review, and ask them about it. I get constant RM messages like that. Usually I tell them to join CoM and PM me here.

Very. You ever visit the main Cook County clinic? The place is so bad that lights flicker, and their medical record system is completely broken down. And yet, I saw many Latino families waiting hours there, as it was the only place they could get care.

My advice. Keep this anonymous. It doesn't make either of you look good.

It can be hard depending on the issue. I have health insurance, but I had to go to the county health clinic to get my monkeypox vaccine. Humbling experience.

Sounds like more of a green flag than a red flag. Only caveat is when there's only a handful of people giving those reviews. That's how a druggie managed to stay on RM so long a few years ago.

It's my policy to never send personal pics. If there's fakes on RM, there are also blackmailers. I keep my RM client stats accurate and available, and often send a link. The only time this was a problem was when a new hire came to my floor. I went into the condo hall to greet him, and at the same time, one of my neighbors came into the hall too. The neighbor was fat and old, and the escort greeted him, thinking that he was the client. When I called to him, he seemed relieved

It miiiight be a good idea to schedule ahead if you want to meet on a major holiday (Xmas/Thanksgiving/NY). Personally, I wonder if there were any providers who were hired to appear under the tree on Christmas morning.

The new law was watered down. Originally, they wanted to flag people with $600 of income on a cash app. They raised it to $20K and 200 transactions as the warning sign. I'd need a provider to tell me if that's dangerous.

One thing - I've seen a number of bi ads where they say they're into both men and women. Now, they probably don't get many (if any) women as customers, but it does increase their market.

This is why a gag can be such a useful accessory

Ditto to above. Despite all the talk that "there are plenty of young gays who'd date an older man," it's all bull unless you count sugar daddy relationships. I think all that talk is just advertising for Grindr or something.

I had a rookie escort bodybuilder text something like, "I promise you you'll have a great time." However, that's a warranty that can't be exercised.

Many years ago, when I read through Delany's SF work at university. Of course, I liked the idea of hulking, muscular dumb guy being attracted to a short little smart guy. And the fact that the big guy just loves short guys...