DrownedBoy

I also suspect that transactional sex doesn't fit in that triangle, unless there's another point besides "passion." I'm afraid transactional sex doesn't cover "liking" in that sense. The Greeks had several words for love too. The operative word here is "eros," or entirely erotic. Not agape or philia.

Money is always the reason, but I'm not as optimistic as to the goals. One mentioned immigrants. I know one. Was considered highly desirable 5 years ago. Is now coming to terms with his: non-fluent English, no education beyond 8th grade from some South American country, and an aversion to both working for others and going to school. Quit a free English course because he "got tired of it." Another mention is freedom. Met quite a few men who want that. Quite a few have a "I'll do what I want" attitude, and have zero respect for authority or prudence. In other words, many guys escort because they can't hold a job. That's a very dangerous path. I knew kids in my neighborhood like that. The ones who took drugs never survived their 20s, and I'm just starting to get funeral invites for the ones who turned to alcohol.

I've seen a looooot of bored upper-middle-class housewives invite one of their male Hispanic landscape workers inside for "something to drink."

There was an escort on RM who had the following quote on his ad.

That was another red flag. Ad was 2 years old but no reviews.

I just saw a new red flag recently. The provider took an hour to reply, then acted suspicious and demanded to know, first, if I'm a cop, and second, if I lived alone. Instant ghost. That second question was too creepy.

I am a paid client subscriber on RentMen. I can leave reviews, but can't see all of a provider's photos - some are still locked and require me to ask the provider to unlock. That's why I'm not impressed by providers who refuse to unlock - they can clearly see I'm a paid member and have money in the game, yet they refuse to show any details.

More dangerous for escorts. We executed Gacy 30 years ago, and every so often, Chicago police match another one of his "unidentified victims" with a missing young man via DNA. Back in the 70s, cops didn't care much about missing young gay guys, let alone escorts. They didn't even investigate him until he kidnapped a local high school honors student.

Awwww....that line once led to a nice, long, extended and unpaid session for me. A bit painful, but that's part of the attraction.

BUMP I did find a good verbal AI site that doesn't have many guardrails, and has a lot of suggestive chats. But no image generation. https://character.ai/

There's a single gay site if you have VR goggles, but it's limited to getting blown. https://virtualrealgay.com/

I love them with the saggies.

So do many unexperienced providers. I never spell it out in texts either, but some younger ones act like a deer in a headlight when I try to be subtle.

A lot of providers include dick pics, especially if they claim they're big. It's a reasonable request, but full nudes sound like photo hunting. If you have a pic of yourself in a speedo or something it should be good enough. As a client, I need to point out that he's right, and there are literally hundreds of alternatives. And if photos aren't verified I'll ask for one. And if a client refuses my request to unlock their gallery, they get blocked.

I know about the chatbots, but if I've already picked up the phone, I always screw with their head like this 👿 There are millions of ways to do it. I even read a book with some good mind f@cks for scammers and telemarketers.

The first time I hired a guy, I recall him murmuring to himself at the end: "Well that was easy." 😄

Like the others, I generally trust my regulars, simply because I'm cash flow to them, and they don't want to lose it. I don't care if they see me as an ATM; I'm not seeking even the illusion of love with them. When hiring someone for the first time, I take quite a few steps to protect myself from both physical and legal/reputational harm. I'll keep those details to myself. I've learned, however, to drop anyone, even a regular, who is having drug and/or psychological problems. I've had one 2 year regular go apesh!t on me because of that. Often, such regulars think they can take advantage of you because they think you formed a bond. Don't form that bond - sometimes you need to be ruthless to protect yourself.

Let's hear some ideas. Not that most scammers bother reading non-monetary replies.

It's a common scam towards straight men. The most popular is to pretend they somehow have computer camera footage of you jerking off while on a porn site. They refuse to give proof, only saying that you'll get the proof if you don't pay up and the video appears everywhere. EDIT They send it to random emails hoping they'll find some cowardly and gullible guy who likes porn and will pay up. I laughed when they sent it to me, an openly gay man. Meaningless and obvious to anyone with the slightest acquaintance with scams.

It also applies to lesser items. For instance, I've had an escort threaten that he could use my texts to him could get me in trouble. Dude, the cops are not going to scroll over pages of texts just because some guy walks into the station and claims he's a male prostitute and has a grudge against a John 😄

Yeah. When someone tries to blackmail you with vague remarks and can't get basic English sentence construction right, I just ignore it

Yeah gotta keep my eyes open the next time they're in Chicago

You missed a post I made about a certain provider who listed kissing, then said he charged $50 a kiss 😄

As mentioned earlier, a provider came to my place and started rolling a joint without permission or giving noticed, and I sent him out to the balcony. While it was initially slightly annoying, it became more fun after he passed some smoke to me mouth to mouth.

If a provider agrees to do something (like kiss) and then refuses to, post their names in the Deli and send your texts to RM.