DrownedBoy

Likewise, a client can look down as a provider as "lazy guy who insists on big bucks for unskilled labor." When one side gets arrogant, expect the other side to put their shields up. Tit for tat. Being polite at the beginning stops that. I prefer business relationships that don't become a battle of wills....because the guy with the money always wins, and some kids don't realize that yet.

Yup. I tried to "hurry along" a USPS guy with a 20 but he thrust it right back at me. I'd like to tip my mailman, but they never deliver my stuff before 5 or 6 at night. Nobody in my condo building even considers tipping for that reason.

Like others, I don't appreciate the attitude or lack of professionalism with many younger providers, especially traveling ones. 3 times out of 4 in 2023, when I tried a young new provider, they'd flake without warning. I don't have much free time with work, so that screws up my schedule. On Grindr my bottom filter is on 35. It's a cultural thing more than an age thing.

Yeah. I need to doublecheck if the provider has facial hair. I've hired guys whose every ad pic what clean-shaved, then they had a full beard. Not my cup of tea.

That is correct. Traditional manners involves giving gifts to service people on Christmas. Few people remember that.

I just send them a Christmas tip on one of their apps. Money is always welcome. But it's only for providers I've been seeing for at least several years. I only do this for regulars who lock me in on their rates when I first hired them. One hand washes the other.

I spell out what I'm looking for in my profile. Only a handful of providers have bothered reading it before visiting. Feeling more and more like Grindr.

I was tempted, if only to compliment my backup regular for being so punctual, available, and kind. Unlike many traveling Latino guys, who have a flake rate of like 75%.

Another guy here who's always with his family on Christmas. Remote tech work is a great thing. Hiring's not much of an option. And always spend NYE with friends. One time I did hire a guy on NYE, since it was shortly after a breakup and I cut my plans. He's been a regular for 7 years now. Profitable rebound.

He did me a favor by not meeting with me. I like kissing, and if he tried to get more money out of me.....well he'd fail for one.

I've only flown a guy into town once (from within the U.S.), and I even asked ahead of time if he wanted to stay longer than the night I was paying him for. I explained that real bodybuilders are in short supply in Chicago, so it might be a business opportunity. He declined immediately, and said he just wanted to spend the night with me, which he did.

I'm not into anal, but some providers told me it often means that they're not willing to bottom unless you pay them extra. I believe this is because they're Versatile/Top, and need to take extra measures to clean out beforehand. Fair enough.

He stood me up. We agreed to meet at a specific time. I was even a sending him an Uber, but when it became late, I texted him saying he needed to come. He replied with a single word, 'tomorrow?' I said no, that we had to meet tonight. Then he started texting me, "Oh I want to see you...but I need your photo first.....I deserve to see the man I'm meeting..." He kept repeating this over and over again, as if he were drunk or high, until I told him to stop and that I thought we shouldn't meet. He eagerly texted me back, 'OK.' JUDGMENT: Unprofessional little brat.

Some men can get veeery emotional over ED.

That's my policy. However, I've never had a provider take it, as long as I said I planned to hire them when I was well.

I've never classed St. Louis as "conservative." Backwater and backwards, yes, but never conservative. I remember decades ago, young gays who were stuck in southern Illinois towns would travel there for fun. Sad.

I had a former regular who kept texting me. Last text went like this: "So when are we meeting again?" "If you haven't figured it out, never. I can't keep hiring an escort who never arrives on time."

My favorite excuse from a constantly-late former provider: "I had to drive my pregnant sister to the hospital." My response: "In that case, you shouldn't come. Stay near your sister. Put your family first."

Have you checked your junk email lately?

What if a masseur, unexpectedly, starts doing escort things with you? Without asking for extra?

12 lords a leaping. That might be worth it.

If I think the escort is worth it, I'll send an Uber. Not always. Providers are not all created equal.

The only times I had a phone conversation, it was either a no show or a scam. However, I have begun insisting on calling providers who may not speak English well. If they can't understand "500 for 2 hours," it's a good sign they also won't understand the sentence, "you agreed to 2 hours, not 70 minutes."

Same thing happened to me before. Scheduled for Friday on a Monday, sick on Tuesday, and knew on Friday morning I was still sick. Just texted him saying I was sick and that I'd reschedule for the following weekend. No problem. I said it years ago, if either a client or provider gets that sick, it's a benefit to both sides if one side cancels. If a provider complains you're somehow costing him, just ask how much it will cost him if he gets sick and loses a week of work. And I wouldn't want a sick provider to show up for the same reason.

Yes, and it was a part of a scam. Latino guy arrived at the door of my condo, then he ghosts me for 30 minutes. Eventually, he shows up at my door, and says his phone went out of power. Then he told me that 30 minutes counted towards my session, unless I paid him an extra 50. I lost 30 minutes. He lost some stars. What a dimwit...