Delays in appointments, when to throw in the towel?

[ACluelessGent]

Hi all! This is my first post. So, I’ve been hanging out with this guy for a bit, and he’s constantly like two or three hours late. It used to really get to me, but now I just expect it and plan my day around him. He's young and hot, so I just let it slide.

[Nue2thegame]

7 hours ago, ACluelessGent said:

Hi all! This is my first post. So, I’ve been hanging out with this guy for a bit, and he’s constantly like two or three hours late. It used to really get to me, but now I just expect it and plan my day around him. He's young and hot, so I just let it slide.

Welcome to the forum. That’s great if that works for you. I can imagine a day and a date that would be fine with me, too, but most of my days are too structured for that to work. 

[Mark_fl]

7 hours ago, ACluelessGent said:

Hi all! This is my first post. So, I’ve been hanging out with this guy for a bit, and he’s constantly like two or three hours late. It used to really get to me, but now I just expect it and plan my day around him. He's young and hot, so I just let it slide.

People treat you how you allow yourself to be treated. If you want his services more than he wants your money, this will work out for you. If you cancel every time he's going to be late because you have other plans, he will either stop being late, or you will stop seeing him. Like you said, you're OK with it, so it works for both of you. 

If his communication is good, and he asks if it's OK, that's a different story, but if he was just late without communication,  I'd just treat that as cancelation. 

[ACluelessGent]

12 minutes ago, Nue2thegame said:

Welcome to the forum. That’s great if that works for you. I can imagine a day and a date that would be fine with me, too, but most of my days are too structured for that to work. 

Thank you! My days are packed, but my evenings are free. So I pour a gin and tonic, put on some music, and just unwind.

[ACluelessGent]

16 minutes ago, Mark_fl said:

People treat you how you allow yourself to be treated. If you want his services more than he wants your money, this will work out for you. If you cancel every time he's going to be late because you have other plans, he will either stop being late, or you will stop seeing him. Like you said, you're OK with it, so it works for both of you. 

If his communication is good, and he asks if it's OK, that's a different story, but if he was just late without communication,  I'd just treat that as cancelation. 

It's OK, I am used to it and he is giving my play-by-play of his commute and ETA.