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Thanks to @ErikEriksson, @nomad et al. for their cogent remarks that clarify the issues and correct fabricated quotes. I made my original post to call attention to what I viewed as an openly hateful remark by a new provider who apparently believes that using the anti-gay slur beginning with "f" is acceptable. What never occurred to me was that some people here would ignore or minimize the provider's offensive language almost entirely and instead focus on my passing comment that his rates were beyond my budget and what I typically spend. I was even called a "jerk" simply because I had the audacity to suggest that I might be interested if there were room for negotiation at a lower price point. Apparently, even raising the possibility of negotiating a price is, to some, an unforgivable sin. Now I read a member's comment with the equally absurd claim that there is some sort of unwritten - but supposedly universally accepted - rule prohibiting discussion or negotiation of rates. If that's true, used car salesmen everywhere must be envious of an industry where asking whether a price is negotiable is treated as a moral failing. Gratefully, after being portrayed as a time-wasting, lowballing jerk, I received a private (and consoling) message from another member encouraging me to ignore the bullying and assuring me that I had done nothing wrong. I appreciate that sort of kindness and support, but it's difficult to ignore the fact that the conversation has been diverted away from what should have been the real issue: an openly derogatory slur directed at our still-targeted community. Instead of condemning that behavior, some have chosen to criticize an entirely innocuous comment about my budget. To me, that shift in priorities is far more troubling than anything I wrote.

It’s a bit surprising to me that gay men would direct more criticism at someone who merely suggested a lower rate in a business transaction — branding them a lowballing, time-wasting jerk who deserved to be blocked — while offering only minimal criticism toward a provider who casually uses a hateful slur with what seems like clear disdain for the gay community.

At the risk of belaboring an already moribund horse, it remains unclear to me whether you actually read my previous comment explaining why I did not simply respond with “Thanks, but no thanks,” so I will restate the point more plainly. My principal objective was to make it clear to someone who appears to be significantly overvaluing his services that he may, in fact, be pricing himself out of the market entirely. Constructive feedback of that nature can be valuable, particularly when an individual seems disconnected from what the market is realistically prepared to bear. And yes, perhaps there was an element of "bargaining" on my part -- but negotiation and price discovery are hardly foreign concepts in business, nor do they constitute bad faith or improper conduct. More broadly, I find it rather absurd to suggest that people should block one another on Rentmen simply because they fail to agree on price. If everyone adopted that approach, the platform itself would quickly become dysfunctional, reduced to little more than users reflexively blocking one another over routine disagreements about value. A far more rational response from the provider would be to simply ignore an inquiry that does not meet his expectations or, better yet, recognize market realities and offer a compromise rate -- particularly if business happens to be slow. What is neither appropriate nor prudent, however, is responding with language widely understood to be derogatory, particularly when those words are inherently offensive to the very audience one purports to serve. But then again, perhaps I simply operate under a different understanding of how rational adults -- and competent professionals -- conduct business.

I appreciate the feedback regarding my brief exchange with this provider, but I would point out that simply replying with “Thanks… but I’ll pass for now” offers him no meaningful feedback as to why I chose not to hire him. I mentioned the $300 figure because that is, in fact, generally what I offer for this type of service. Constructive feedback is especially important for someone like this gentleman, who I suspect may be relatively new to the business (both of his reviews are less than two months old) and may have unrealistic expectations about what most clients -- at least in my experience — are actually willing to pay for the requested service, which typically is not in the $600–700+ range he appears to expect. That said, the pricing issue is secondary. The primary reason I chose to share information about this particular provider was to alert our “company of men” to what appears to be his clear disdain for gay men, as evidenced by his repeated use (twice) of a term I consider highly demeaning -- made all the more concerning given the context in which he chose to use it in responding to me.

https://rentmen.eu/YngMotionXTrey I probably should have said his $600-$700 fee was way over MY budget, but still, I wasn't expecting this kind of response. He also Blocked me.

I have become very reliant on ChatGPT to give me reliable answers on various topics ranging from stereo speakers to discerning the best times to travel to various locales (cost-wise, weather-wise, etc). So, it got me to wondering whether "AI"could help in my never-ending pursuit of the hottest (and "best" -- because IMHO the "hottest" are usually not the "best") gay escorts. I did a cursory search of this site on the topic with no results. So, just for fun, here's what AI says about finding the top male escorts (and, spoiler alert: no big surprises - but maybe it will spark some discussion): Who are considered to be the top male escorts in the United States? There isn’t a universally accepted “top male escorts” list in the U.S. because the industry is largely private, decentralized, and often operates through agencies, personal branding, or invitation-only referrals rather than mainstream rankings. That said, a few names and platforms are widely recognized in media coverage, luxury-companion circles, LGBTQ nightlife, and online escort directories for reputation, visibility, or exclusivity: RentMen — One of the best-known male companion directories in the U.S., especially in gay and bisexual markets. Rentboy (historical) — Before it shut down after a federal case in 2015, it was arguably the most famous male escort platform in America. Companion listings on Slixa — Commonly cited in discussions of upscale independent escorts. ManServants — More entertainment-oriented (events, parties, “boy toy” experiences) rather than traditional escorting. In terms of individual escorts, the people most often regarded as “top tier” tend to be: -- high-end independents in cities like New York, Los Angeles, Miami, Las Vegas, and Chicago -- escorts with celebrity clientele or influencer-level social media followings -- men specializing in luxury companionship/travel rather than explicit sexual services -- well-reviewed companions on vetted platforms Among affluent clients, qualities that usually define “top” include: -- discretion and professionalism -- physical fitness/grooming -- conversational ability and social polish -- reliability and screening practices -- ability to travel internationally A lot of the most sought-after male companions are intentionally low-profile and operate by referral only, so they don’t publicly market themselves at all. If you want, I can also break this down by: -- luxury/high-end companions -- escorts popular with women -- gay male escorts --- celebrity-famous escorts -- safest/vetted platforms -- major-city scenes (NYC, Miami, LA, Vegas, etc.) -- legal considerations in the U.S. Who are the top gay male escorts? There’s no official ranking system for “top gay male escorts” in the U.S., and many high-end companions deliberately stay anonymous for privacy and safety reasons. Publicly known names usually come from reality TV, adult entertainment, luxury-companion marketing, or escort-award circuits. A few of the most recognizable names associated with the U.S. gay escort scene over the years include: Rocco Steele — One of the best-known luxury escort figures to cross into mainstream gay adult fame. He openly discussed using Rentboy and won escort-industry awards. Jimmy Clabots — Became widely known through the Showtime series Gigolos, which followed male escorts in Las Vegas. Michael Lucas — More famous as a producer and entrepreneur than an escort specifically, but long associated with elite gay nightlife and luxury companion culture. Max Konnor — Better known today as an award-winning performer and creator, though often discussed in high-end gay companion circles online. The most sought-after gay male escorts in major U.S. cities today are usually: -- independent rather than agency-based -- referral-only -- active on platforms like RentMen or invitation networks -- branding themselves as “companions,” “travel partners,” or “luxury hosts” Cities most associated with high-end gay escort markets: -- New York City -- Los Angeles -- Miami -- Las Vegas -- Chicago If you want, I can also give you: -- the most famous escort websites/platforms -- “luxury companion” agencies -- top cities for the gay escort scene -- differences between independent escorts vs agencies -- safety/red-flag advice -- famous escorts from TV/porn/social media specifically.

I am not a Spanish speaker but I've always heard that "morbo" is usually translated from Spanish slang as either "kinky" or "super hot." I'm engaging a couple of Latin escorts in Nashville this weekend (including Daniel_hot) who claim to be "morbo" - and I hope they're more "kinky" and "hot" than they are "morbidly obese" as someone suggested as a translation.

From an ESPN article in December, 2025: "Jason Collins played for six teams across his 13-year NBA career and was the first active, openly gay player in NBA history. He is currently undergoing treatment for Stage 4 glioblastoma. This is his story. A few months ago, my family released a short statement saying I had a brain tumor. It was simple, but intentionally vague. They did that to protect my privacy while I was mentally unable to speak for myself and my loved ones were trying to understand what we were dealing with. But now it's time for people to hear directly from me. I have Stage 4 glioblastoma, one of the deadliest forms of brain cancer. It came on incredibly fast. In May I married the love of my life, Brunson Green, at a ceremony in Austin, Texas, that couldn't have been more perfect. In August, we were supposed to go to the US Open, just as every year, but when the car came to take us to the airport, I was nowhere near ready. And for the first time in decades, we missed the flight because I couldn't stay focused to pack. I had been having weird symptoms like this for a week or two, but unless something is really wrong, I'm going to push through. I'm an athlete.....- ******************************************************** Another reminder that pro athletes are, like all of us, human and just as fragile and vulnerable. They may look and feel super human, but they’re just like us. I wish peace to Jason's husband, Brunson, and to his entire family with perhaps some consolation that Memories are the last gift of love.

It would be easier to draw up a list of people who can afford that price.

Over the past year, I’ve noticed a significant increase in last-minute postponements and cancellations from escorts - (and I am guessing that providers might report the same thing about some clients as well). It has become especially frustrating when I’ve already invested time and money into the arrangement: booking hotels, traveling to another city, and mentally gearing up for what was supposed to be an enjoyable experience. What disappoints me most is not only the inconvenience, but also the financial cost and repeated sense of letdown. More troubling is that this pattern is now occurring even with some of my semi-regular hires, whom I previously considered dependable. At this point, I’m conflicted. Part of me feels that continued unreliability should simply be a dealbreaker - after all, most people would stop seeing a doctor who was repeatedly unavailable with little notice. On the other hand, I wonder whether this is simply part of the business and something I should accept with patience. It’s difficult to decide where to draw the line, particularly when the chemistry and attraction are otherwise excellent. But reliability and respect for someone’s time do matter, and repeated cancellations inevitably erode my interest in this already expensive "hobby."

A good example of why this site is so useful.

I visit Nashville occasionally but I have only had luck with Rentmen (many ATL escorts occasionally travel to Nashville for a couple of days - "Imuno" aka "UltraOcean" lives in ATL but advertises on RM as "Near travel to Nashville" - and he is a fantastic hire, IMHO). I do check out Adam4Adam but have never had any luck. I also review Grindr but likewise zero luck. If you're visiting Grindr be sure to look for the “roses” or "gift box with red ribbon" emojis for possible hires. Also, some escorts will offer “massage” and some will even say "Gen" although many know enough to write "G3N" as Grindr will boot ban anyone who is too obvious (I've been banned 2 or 3 times but I always "Appeal" and totally deny the accusation of soliciting - and have always had the ban removed - I suspect that Grindr doesn't want to acknowledge that they read folk's private messages - although their "Terms of Service" may permit them to do so - I never researched it).

I messaged Meatballz in February about meeting when we were both in ATL. He was very cordial, informative, and quick in his response - and he was open to various scenes. He requested $300. Unfortunately, for various reasons (mostly my schedule) we didn't meet.

Love him or roll your eyes at him, Benson Boone has somehow mastered the art of being impossible to ignore. Critics love to dismiss his music as “sugar-coated emotional cardio” and some even call him a discount Freddie Mercury with better hair and fewer operatic mustaches. But honestly? The man understands spectacle. That back flip off the piano during the Academy Awards performance practically deserves its own stunt category. It single-handedly convinced me to keep watching the Oscars for at least one more year instead of collapsing face-first into my couch three hours in. And then there’s the wardrobe. Those vacuum-sealed suits look like they were stitched directly onto him by NASA engineers. Between the dramatic vocals, the gymnast-level stage antics, and the aggressively tailored pants, he’s basically become a public service announcement for gay men updating their “hot celebrity” rankings. Say what you want about the music, but the man performs like he’s trying to win both a Grammy and a decathlon at the same time - and frankly, that level of commitment deserves respect, at least IMHO.

“Emerson said, ‘A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.’ Maybe so. But an intelligent consistency - and rigorous quality control - in hiring escorts is probably a big part of why I’ve never woken up in a questionable Bogotá hotel bathtub full of ice, conducting an unexpected inventory of my internal organs. People mock routine & "regularity" until they’re the ones explaining to the local constabulary or consular official how ‘spontaneity’ turned into a missing wallet, a fractured rib, and a mysterious rash. Yes, I exaggerate but sometimes the so-called hobgoblin of little minds is really just the patron saint of risk management. Especially in situations involving strangers, dim lighting, locked hotel doors, and the kind of decision-making process that begins with, ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’” I believe in "cautious exploration" in hiring, but my preference is usually for reliable regularity.