Are you into Exploration or Regularity?

[+ PhileasFogg]

This is a point of curiosity with no right or wrong answer.

But, given the choice, would you choose visiting with a small number of providers frequently or a large number of providers just once and move on to the next?

As I started exploring my sexuality with men over the last two to three years, I found that I preferred the exploration always looking for a new provider in town.  But now I prefer the familiarity of a small number of guys I see often and I hardly ever look at RM anymore.  

[Mark_fl]

Fewer with regularity easily. While new can be exciting, I much prefer the BFE, which naturally would lean toward someone with whom you have some history. For me, I want relaxation and comfort level,  not the stress that comes with a new encounter.

[BigK]

Fewer with regularity here too.  But I occasionally check out the new talent.

[+ Balthazar]

I mostly hire massuers and enjoy a mix of regulars and new guys. I have found, however, that lately I've been leaning more towards exploration. I will have an excellent experience with someone and then try someone new instead of hiring him again. There are multiple local guys I'd like to see again, despite not making an effort to do so. I also frequently focus on traveling providers.

[Nightowl]

Regularity.  When I find someone whose company I enjoy and who knows what buttons to push, I become a frequent visitor.  If he starts taking me for granted, I move on.  I don’t usually explore unless I can’t get in to see one of my regulars and I find my body in need of attention.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I prefer not to limit myself with "OR" statements. 

I choose Exploration AND Regularity.

I have the small group of guys that I see at least once a month while I'm at home, and also like to see a guy each day when I'm traveling.  When traveling, I like to alternate every other day between a new guy and a regular guy that I see every time I'm in that city.  When in a new city where I haven't seen anyone there yet, my boyfriend at the time will have to suffice as my "regular" in until I establish a small group of regulars in that city.

Ideally, I would like a larger group of regulars to see more often, and then participate in more anonymous gang bangs to satisfy my exploration urges.  But, alas, I'm a pretty shy person.

Edited Friday at 01:31 PM by Vegas_Millennial

[JayCeeKy]

“Emerson said, ‘A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.’

Maybe so. But an intelligent consistency - and rigorous quality control - in hiring escorts is probably a big part of why I’ve never woken up in a questionable Bogotá hotel bathtub full of ice, conducting an unexpected inventory of my internal organs.

People mock routine & "regularity" until they’re the ones explaining to the local constabulary or consular official how ‘spontaneity’ turned into a missing wallet, a fractured rib, and a mysterious rash.

Yes, I exaggerate but sometimes the so-called hobgoblin of little minds is really just the patron saint of risk management. Especially in situations involving strangers, dim lighting, locked hotel doors, and the kind of decision-making process that begins with, ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’”

I believe in "cautious exploration" in hiring, but my preference is usually for reliable regularity. 

[maninsoma]

When I hired a lot more frequently, I had a few regulars but also hired new guys regularly as well.

[big-n-tall]

A little bit of column A and a little bit of column B.

Mostly I stick with regulars and on occasion try someone new.

However as my pool of regulars shrink for various reasons, I tend to look for new people to become regulars.

[+ JamesB]

I much prefer regularity but lately I’ve found myself doing quite a bit of exploring in search of people I can actually be regular with.

[jusmeinbr]

I tend to carry it to the extreme and focus on only one provider unless and until something happens that causes that one provider no longer be available.  

When what used to be my “home market” of New Orleans had great selection 20 years ago, I would often meet with several providers, but since New Orleans became (and remains) a T-Total disaster for what I’m looking for, I started looking for the closest option.  

Recently, that led me to finding the best provider I’ve ever encountered in my 22 years of hiring, albeit an eight (8) hour bus ride each way.

Right now, he’s on a brief hiatus that I hope doesn’t last too much longer 😄.

[Kevin_H]

When I first discovered RM, I was very curious and spent a lot of time looking through profiles near my area. I booked different massage sessions, and after meeting each provider, it really depended on the chemistry and how comfortable I felt. Some I only saw once and never went back, while a few made me want to book again.

Over time, I stopped searching as much. Now I usually save the masseurs I really like and keep an eye on when they come back to my city. If one of them is visiting, I will usually message right away. Sometimes, if I see a new profile in town that really catches my attention, I may still try one session.

But in general, I no longer have the habit of constantly looking for someone new. If the masseurs I like are not available, I usually just go to a local Chinese massage or foot massage place for a regular body massage and relaxation. For RM, I prefer choosing more carefully now and going back to the ones I already know I enjoy

[+ ApexNomad]

6 hours ago, jusmeinbr said:

I tend to carry it to the extreme and focus on only one provider unless and until something happens that causes that one provider no longer be available.  

When what used to be my “home market” of New Orleans had great selection 20 years ago, I would often meet with several providers, but since New Orleans became (and remains) a T-Total disaster for what I’m looking for, I started looking for the closest option.  

Recently, that led me to finding the best provider I’ve ever encountered in my 22 years of hiring, albeit an eight (8) hour bus ride each way.

Right now, he’s on a brief hiatus that I hope doesn’t last too much longer 😄.

Eight hours?? I don’t even travel that far for family. 😄

[Decatur Guy]

I mostly prefer meeting the same four or so providers regularly. But sometimes I like the excitement of a new provider. I'd say it's an 80/20 split. 

[+ Pensant]

My roster is down to two regulars, one each in the locales where I maintain homes. One I’ve seen for ten years and the other three. Neither has had an ad in years. They are totally in sync with my kinks and desires. So, now I’m looking to expand the pool, although the quality overall has slipped considerably. 

Edited Sunday at 10:12 AM by Pensant

[big-n-tall]

25 minutes ago, Pensant said:

My roster is down to two regulars, one each in the locales where I maintain homes. One I’ve seen for ten years and the other three. Neither has had an ad in years. They are totally in sync with me kinks and desires. So, now I’m looking to expand the pool, although the quality overall has slipped considerably. 

Some of my regulars I’ve known 15 or more years. Sadly they don’t travel as often as they used to. Some never traveled at all outside a given area and I have to travel to see them. Others have retired altogether… although a select few i still have the honor of seeing platonically. An even smaller selection of that number, I still see as providers.

So I could leave the status quo as is and travel more to see them… or just expand the roster as you say.

[+ DrownedBoy]

Regularity, although I'm willing to switch the regulars. Every new hire means more BDSM training. At least they have Spanish videos online.

[jusmeinbr]

21 hours ago, jusmeinbr said:

 

Recently, that led me to finding the best provider I’ve ever encountered in my 22 years of hiring, albeit an eight (8) hour bus ride each way.

Right now, he’s on a brief hiatus that I hope doesn’t last too much longer 😄.

Heeeeeeeee’s back!!!  
 

https://rent.men/Ian_Twink

[BeHappy]

55 minutes ago, jusmeinbr said:

Heeeeeeeee’s back!!!  
 

https://rent.men/Ian_Twink

I would definitely get out of my regular mode and switch to exploring overdrive for this fine gent!

I like a regular group of guys for many of the reasons presented!  It is always fun to chase a shiny new thing though!😈

[Austin Lewis]

I have one regular who brings a friend or two along sometimes, and they're invariably fantastic, so I get exploration with less risk of disappointment along with the regularity. One of his friends, who's in my city, is now a regular too . . . and now he has a friend he wants to introduce. It's great. 

[BeHappy]

18 hours ago, Austin Lewis said:

I have one regular who brings a friend or two along sometimes, and they're invariably fantastic, so I get exploration with less risk of disappointment along with the regularity. One of his friends, who's in my city, is now a regular too . . . and now he has a friend he wants to introduce. It's great. 

I enjoy that same scenario!  Some amazing things have happened!

[Rod Hagen]

On 4/24/2026 at 6:15 AM, Vegas_Millennial said:

I prefer not to limit myself with "OR" statements. 

I swear Millennials are still trying to drive GenXers like me (more) insane.  You won, we're irrelevant, it's over, stop.

[jeezifonly]

I've never had a "regular" but I have had repeats spread out over a span of time. I'm one to hire with planning to scratch a particular itch. Sometimes the itch can be reached by one I know - other times, only by a provider known to me solely from on-camera ...scratching. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 4/26/2026 at 8:45 AM, Rod Hagen said:

I swear Millennials are still trying to drive GenXers like me (more) insane.  You won, we're irrelevant, it's over, stop.

You'll never be irrelevant, @Rod Hagen!  You're the only person I've hired who not only gave a great sensual massage, but was also able to discuss Bernoulli's principle while still making it sound erotic! 😆 

[mtaabq]

The writer Dominick Dunne said it best - for me - when he said, “He liked the madness of ecstasy that came with a new partner.” Although I had one regular for quite some time there is something so intoxicating - for me - about touching, tasting, and inhaling a man whose company I have never enjoyed before. In the end, though (no pun intended), it’s a combination of the known and the unknown that I enjoy. Therefore, I must echo what so many before me have said.