Decatur Guy

I got a call a couple of nights ago from a provider. He said RentMen is limiting providers to 500 characters in their write-ups about themselves. Which I found odd and limiting -- I told him he might be misunderstanding. But his was not. RentMen told him that the site had always meant to do that but had a bug in that field that allowed more than that. Now it's 500 characters max. So I helped him cut his ad in about half without losing too much in the way of key info he wanted to provide. And then I looked at a string of ads. The text is indeed more limited now. Anytime anyone updates their info, the 500-limit goes into place.

Perhaps I've changed, but I tend to agree. Prices are up, service is down -- with NOTABLE exceptions, thank goodness, on the service end.

My usual procedure: First, I make the Initial booking. Let's say it's Wednesday night and the appointment is for 9 p.m. Friday night two days later at my place. I tell the provider that I'll reconfirm around noon Friday and then again one hour ahead. I do that for two reasons. One: If he's been burned by no-shows, this might make him feel better about my legitimacy. Reconfirmation usually involves one text: ("Hey, I'm still on for 9 tonight at my place if you are. Looking forward to meeting up."). Two: I've been burned by no shows or very late providers. Checking in one hour ahead usually helps in finding out if he's got it in gear to be on time or not. If I book same day: Let's say I book at noon Friday for 9 p.m. that night. I'll reconfirm around 5 to 6 p.m. and then again at 8 p.m. If I book at say 4 p.m. Friday for 9 p.m. Friday, I'll just reconfirm the hour before. I'll just reconfirm one time if it's seven hours or less.

Same here. I found him physically attractive, but something about the poses in the pics (almost always with sunglasses, almost no close ups) seemed off to me too. I also never even contacted him. I'd say that's actually about 50% of all ads where I'll just never make the initial contact because something is off despite an initial attraction. It really amazes me how unbelievably bad so many of the ads are.

I've done it twice, with my face covered both times. Because my face was covered, I gave my OK for the first provider to post two videos of us on Pornhub. Which he did. And while they weren't blockbusters, they were something of a mid-level hit. This was about 10 years ago. Then that purge came a few years ago, and they were both gone. It looks like a copy of them might be on a site that I'm not willing to click on for fear of a computer virus. Since then, I've recorded one other time, again in a mask. I told the provider I was fine with him putting the videos on his RM page, but he never did.

He's in that category of provider who just doesn't post enough pictures and text to really get a feel for him.

My first question is always about rates. Because we can't see them. So if the auto reply indicates the provider wants me to propose a possible time and date and place before I even can even ask about his rates and what I might can expect, I simply don't follow up on text or on RM. It sucks we need to ask rates, but we do. If auto reply includes his rates or otherwise indicates it's OK to make an inquiry about that, then I'll contact by text.

I don't have a recommendation, but yeah, that is kind of hot.

I'm not young nor hot. And as far as I know, I haven't received up-front discounts. But I have had longer-term, regular providers who charge me less than they did other new clients. Usually it's been a situation of me hiring them when they first started out or either I've been hiring him for years and he hasn't raised his rates. I've had a couple of them flat-out tell me I'm easy to get along with and honest. So I might get charged $250 an hour vs. $300 or something like that.

The bottom line is the bottom line. And mine is provider rate increases have been far outstripping my income increases. In fact, I make less now than 10 years ago, not more. The math is simply starting to collapse. I'm probably looking at a big readjustment of my entertainment budget this year and will simply have to indulge my passions far less frequently or renew my efforts at making connections where no money changes hands. This hobby is a luxury I am increasingly unable to afford, especially at the frequency I've previously enjoyed.

Anson Mount, who of course does not need the $1,000:

I wish I could help you out more, but I tend to stay away from the ones who look like the most hard-core. If 1 is ultra BFE and tender and 10 is total rough trade, I'm more in 4 to 6 range. Maybe a 7 experience once I know someone. That's about as rough as I like to get. But if spot a profile that meets the agenda, I'll post. If you can temper your expectations a bit, I really think you'd enjoy Jay Sawyer.

So this guy isn't going to get downright brutal with you as best as I can tell from my experiences, but if you're looking for someone who will push you and be dominant and not in an over-the-top way, he's great: JaySawyer - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in Atlanta, GA | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Atlanta, GA - JaySawyer: Let The Good Times Roll

Mine usually do, and it's funny because it's OK with me if they don't. In fact, sometimes I wish they'd hold off. I've had my fair share of 40-minute one-hour appointments .

No experience, but I find him very appealing.

I live in ATL but have never contacted him. I always kind of figure the porn stars are likely out of my price range so I tend not to even bother them. But you never know until you ask (or do that Europe/VPN thing). But he's a good looking guy for sure.

I feel like this guy would be very comfortable from gentle to rough to in-between. He was in-between with me and did check-ins and such to make sure I was good when he picked up the pace and intensity a notch. I just got a sense he reads his clients well. StephenVersTop - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in New York City, NY | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in New York City, NY - StephenVersTop: Young 🔥 passionate 🔥masculine...

Well, honestly I didn't notice PNP in his list of things. I don't pay a whole lot of attention to that list on the side -- mainly I go by the written material from the provider and in our case a productive phone call. He appeared decidedly sober and present with me. He functioned at full capacity, which most PNP dudes can't do. I can't speak to anything other than my experience, which was great. At any rate, he had a short, neat beard and if he had tattoos, I didn't notice. Seemed on the clean-cut end of things to me. I guess we all have varying degrees of what that means to us personally. My definition could be a bit looser. I wish I could just take the post down, frankly. I don't think I conveyed my thoughts very effectively at all, which seems to be an ongoing issue since I rejoined the board and making general enquiries.

So here's an example of someone I me this evening I'd consider clean cut. I had a great time. NotOnMyLevel - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in Atlanta, GA | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Atlanta, GA - NotOnMyLevel: Dom with a soft side.

I just met with him and it was a very good experience. He's a great communicator, reliable and sexy if you like Alpha types that like to be serviced. But he's very friendly and affable about it all. NotOnMyLevel - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in Atlanta, GA | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in Atlanta, GA - NotOnMyLevel: Dom with a soft side.

I have numerous "types," but one of them is the "boy-next-door" / "man-next-door" who is rather clean cut. By clean cut, I mean neat beard and a few tattoos at most. No PNP/extreme alternative vibe. There seem to be fewer and fewer of those kinds of guys out there these days. Do you have any suggestions of tops or verse tops of any race/ethnicity or age range (24 or older) who might be worth checking out?

I'm more of a basketball guy, but that's a pretty hot scenario. I have no idea how often something like that could happen -- I'm sure it's not common for a spring training guy to do a side hustle like that, but probably has happened. Let us know if you get a home run.

Are other prospective clients finding it harder and harder to discern from a RM ad if someone is offering: A) Just a massage? B) Just escorting services? C) A combo? Sometimes, it's clear. But other times, I can't tell if I'm supposed to be reading between the lines or not. But in the past year, I'm having more situations where I'm wanting escorting services, not a massage. The ad gives me no indication at all that a massage (erotic or not) is on the table, yet when I reach out, I get quoted massage rates and the person is only offering massage. Now to be clear, some providers do indeed make that clear. Others don't, I'm finding. I realize providers more and more have to be careful about what they post in an ad, especially outside big blue liberal cities on the West Coast and the Northeast. But still, I'm stumbling on more and more situations where I can't discern at all from the ad what's really on the table, so to speak. I kind of wish massage-only providers wouldn't use RM as putting an ad on there just by itself starts to create confusion -- unless the ad is super clear it's just massage. For instance, don't tell me you're a top and show dick pics and in your into's put "spanking" and "oral" and other stuff and then turns out you don't do any of that. Are other prospective clients find the same thing? More and more situations where you can't really tell what the ad is about or you find out after reaching out the services ain't what was listed or you are led to believe? I've just run into two different providers who indicate in their ads they do the full range, but when you contact them, it's just massage.

Yes, I definitely go through periods of low to no interest. Sometimes, it's simply lack of desire, fatigue. Other times, I'm busy and don't really have time or I just want to do something else. And other times, I'm interested but like others noted, prices are way up but I'm not sure the quality is.

He has a great body and ad.