Decatur Guy

Adding my voice to the chorus of fans of Sherman Maus.

Tom Isern.

I make an exchange after but I show them envelop at the start. I mostly meet with regulars, so it's no issue.

Some of us like to hire guys in their 40s and beyond.

They don't come better than NateSF. Absolutely top tier hire for me. I'm just sorry he's on the other side of the country from me.

I don't have an issue with "upcharges" as long as it doesn't become a long laundry list and I know about them upfront. But I can understand someone charging more for anal either way and more for bottoming than topping. Those are bigger asks, I think.

I'm not necessarily looking for "nice," but I certainly want someone dependable about appointments, discreet about the arrangements and trustworthy no matter how animalistic the encounter might be. A "gentleman in the streets, a devil in the sheets" kind of situation. And if "nice" and "friendly" and "outgoing" are part of that package, so much the better.

He's unreliable. I once took a Lyft to see him and while I was on the way, he texted and said he couldn't make it. He came to my place the next day and I got a session with my Lyft ride there and back discounted. It was OK if I'm being generous. I had forgotten about him until I saw this post. Bottom line: I think he's a flake.

I don't, but it doesn't mean I'm not liking it. It's just I'm transferring my attention from my dick to my hole and his dick. If I'm hard, I also can't last as long on the bottom.

Master Tom Isern is your guy. While he likes to top, receiving oral is his thing. And by receiving, I mean he likes to face fuck.

I have never fallen for an escort beyond an unusual type friendship, and I don't think I ever would. I am pretty good about staying grounded in reality. And the reality is I'm paying big money (to me) to be physically intimate with someone who is willing to put aside our physical disparities for a relatively brief time. Again, that can be the basis of a type of unusual friendship that goes beyond the transactional when things click, but I think that's the full extent of it. And even that's been rare. Just a few times. It's been strictly business with the rest going on about 15 years now. All that said, there's a certain hottie in San Francisco who is a moderator on this board, and he is the total package. If I were to slip, he'd be the one. But I'm in Atlanta and he's in SF, so there's that. Even if we were in the same city, it would still be a friends situation at most. I'm sure he's had a few less emotionally disciplined clients fall head over heels for him though!

I like having a small circle of regulars (3 to 4), and I rarely have regulars that I actively drop. Various reasons why it ends: 1. Provider quits the business altogether. 2. Provider moves to another city. 3. Sadly, death one time. 4. Providers changes the parameters of meeting. (For instance, one guy I like a lot wants a week's notice. I'm just not in a position to offer that. Another's price doubled. I just couldn't afford that steep an increase). 5. Sometimes there's just a drifting away with no real reason. Now I have deliberately quit reaching out to a few who radically changed what's on offer or stood me up several times in a row or got mad because I met with other providers. But usually if I'm a regular with someone and then I'm not, it's usually a change on the provider's end, not mine.

My understanding is a bug allowed more than 500 words. But it's been fixed. So if someone tries to ever update or make change, they need to shorten to 500 or less.

I got a call a couple of nights ago from a provider. He said RentMen is limiting providers to 500 characters in their write-ups about themselves. Which I found odd and limiting -- I told him he might be misunderstanding. But his was not. RentMen told him that the site had always meant to do that but had a bug in that field that allowed more than that. Now it's 500 characters max. So I helped him cut his ad in about half without losing too much in the way of key info he wanted to provide. And then I looked at a string of ads. The text is indeed more limited now. Anytime anyone updates their info, the 500-limit goes into place.

Perhaps I've changed, but I tend to agree. Prices are up, service is down -- with NOTABLE exceptions, thank goodness, on the service end.

My usual procedure: First, I make the Initial booking. Let's say it's Wednesday night and the appointment is for 9 p.m. Friday night two days later at my place. I tell the provider that I'll reconfirm around noon Friday and then again one hour ahead. I do that for two reasons. One: If he's been burned by no-shows, this might make him feel better about my legitimacy. Reconfirmation usually involves one text: ("Hey, I'm still on for 9 tonight at my place if you are. Looking forward to meeting up."). Two: I've been burned by no shows or very late providers. Checking in one hour ahead usually helps in finding out if he's got it in gear to be on time or not. If I book same day: Let's say I book at noon Friday for 9 p.m. that night. I'll reconfirm around 5 to 6 p.m. and then again at 8 p.m. If I book at say 4 p.m. Friday for 9 p.m. Friday, I'll just reconfirm the hour before. I'll just reconfirm one time if it's seven hours or less.

Same here. I found him physically attractive, but something about the poses in the pics (almost always with sunglasses, almost no close ups) seemed off to me too. I also never even contacted him. I'd say that's actually about 50% of all ads where I'll just never make the initial contact because something is off despite an initial attraction. It really amazes me how unbelievably bad so many of the ads are.

I've done it twice, with my face covered both times. Because my face was covered, I gave my OK for the first provider to post two videos of us on Pornhub. Which he did. And while they weren't blockbusters, they were something of a mid-level hit. This was about 10 years ago. Then that purge came a few years ago, and they were both gone. It looks like a copy of them might be on a site that I'm not willing to click on for fear of a computer virus. Since then, I've recorded one other time, again in a mask. I told the provider I was fine with him putting the videos on his RM page, but he never did.

He's in that category of provider who just doesn't post enough pictures and text to really get a feel for him.

My first question is always about rates. Because we can't see them. So if the auto reply indicates the provider wants me to propose a possible time and date and place before I even can even ask about his rates and what I might can expect, I simply don't follow up on text or on RM. It sucks we need to ask rates, but we do. If auto reply includes his rates or otherwise indicates it's OK to make an inquiry about that, then I'll contact by text.

I don't have a recommendation, but yeah, that is kind of hot.

I'm not young nor hot. And as far as I know, I haven't received up-front discounts. But I have had longer-term, regular providers who charge me less than they did other new clients. Usually it's been a situation of me hiring them when they first started out or either I've been hiring him for years and he hasn't raised his rates. I've had a couple of them flat-out tell me I'm easy to get along with and honest. So I might get charged $250 an hour vs. $300 or something like that.

The bottom line is the bottom line. And mine is provider rate increases have been far outstripping my income increases. In fact, I make less now than 10 years ago, not more. The math is simply starting to collapse. I'm probably looking at a big readjustment of my entertainment budget this year and will simply have to indulge my passions far less frequently or renew my efforts at making connections where no money changes hands. This hobby is a luxury I am increasingly unable to afford, especially at the frequency I've previously enjoyed.

Anson Mount, who of course does not need the $1,000:

I wish I could help you out more, but I tend to stay away from the ones who look like the most hard-core. If 1 is ultra BFE and tender and 10 is total rough trade, I'm more in 4 to 6 range. Maybe a 7 experience once I know someone. That's about as rough as I like to get. But if spot a profile that meets the agenda, I'll post. If you can temper your expectations a bit, I really think you'd enjoy Jay Sawyer.